How do you keep your ILs from promoting traditional roles?

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s gonna crap her pants when her daughter grows up and chooses to be a SAHM.

No. She’ll be glad when her kid grows up to be a surgeon.

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Anonymous wrote:Dad at our preschool was bragging about all the STEM toys he got his daughter for Christmas and the careers he's already planning for the 4 year old... Another dad responded "Larla got a toy mop because she loves to help Mama clean. " When worlds collide....

Feel sorry for the kid with the mop.

More kids should learn to do chores. It would help their life.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

There is no such thing as “boy toys.”

Just like there are no "girl toys". What's wrong with dolls and strollers and why does OP have a problem with her daughter playing with them?

[Anonymous]

I’m a pretty radical feminist, and I really hate the idea that we shouldn’t allow girls to play with dolls and strollers and the like, because it suggests that “feminine” things are bad. That just further creates problems by devaluing childcare and motherhood even more than they already are.

The answer is for boys and girls to have access to boy and girl toys. Not for all girl toys to disappear. And boys should also be praised for playing with dolls and being good fathers, that would certainly help them be more involved with their children when they are fathers.

My daughter loves princesses and unicorns and all things girly. She also does MMA and has been starting her own business. We discuss problematic things in an age appropriate way. It’s NBD.

[Anonymous]

your daughter is not applying the same meaning to these gifts that you are. I wouldn’t stress too much about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

There is no such thing as “boy toys.”

Just like there are no "girl toys". What's wrong with dolls and strollers and why does OP have a problem with her daughter playing with them?

Reading comprehension not your forte? She never said they can’t play with them. She said she doesn’t want the grandparents pushing their tired, outdated sexist agenda on her kid by buying her ONLY (meaning to the exclusion of all other) stereotypical “girl toys.”

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

So say "okay, no problem, we will see you when we get back inside" and take them out. Also that's probably not a girl thing because my parents, who are old, say that constantly when my two boys want to play outside. It's because old people get cold so easily.

Try reading the posts before responding. Her daughter parroted what she heard the grandparents say, that “girls get sick in the cold.” BS,

She's 2 they parrot everything.

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I know this thread is old but I find it so telling that OP didn’t respond to the posts like-

- what kind of toys do you buy your child/hopefully you are balancing out what you perceive as gendered toys with things like doctor sets, building toys, dinosaurs, trucks
- what would you say if your child was playing with a stethoscope and granny said “you’re such a good doctor”

She’s a troll who just wanted to complain about people and not respond to anything outside her narrative.

Super lame.