How do you keep your ILs from promoting traditional roles?

[Anonymous]

Chill

[Anonymous]

Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

Can you point to where OP said her kid cannot play with them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

Can you point to where OP said her kid cannot play with them?

Uh the entire post where Op whines about the audacity of receiving them? If they are ok whats the problem?

[Anonymous]

My two year old's favorite toy was a baby doll stroller, and lots of people would tell him "Oh, you're such a good Daddy!"

Toddler like to imitate what they see, not the abstract world of employment, and they job they see their mom and dad do is parenting.

Now, if your kid isn't seeing men parenting in your house then fix that. And buy her some magnatiles and balls, but don't teach her that she's not worth parenting if your goal is to raise a child with self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For someone who wants her daughter to be independent and strong, you’re coming off as quite passive. Is that really what you want to model for your kid—seething silently over gifts you don’t like and putting aside your desire to do something because others say it’s too cold outside? Your ILs comments are nothing compared to how you’re acting, OP.

Great point. Also, remember that these people grew up in completely different times with different expectations. Give them a little grace. I’m sure they love their granddaughter and are just trying to relate to a 2 year old the only way they know how. You can’t control everything she hears and absorbs.

+ one million
People really tend to forget this.

+1,000,001

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

Several.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

Nice strawman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

Several.

Like 2? Or 10?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

Several.

Like 2? Or 10?

Every Sunday for at least 3 hours. Then childcare 1-2x a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

Several.

Like 2? Or 10?

Every Sunday for at least 3 hours. Then childcare 1-2x a week.

So they are ok to use for childcare. But they can’t pick out toys? Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold.

How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?

Several.

Like 2? Or 10?

Every Sunday for at least 3 hours. Then childcare 1-2x a week.

So they are ok to use for childcare. But they can’t pick out toys? Got it.

Never said that.

[Anonymous]

I ignore them and do whatever I want. Mine were horrified that I wanted to buy my son a play kitchen - “but… that’s a girl’s toy!” I said nothing, bought the kitchen, and dealt with their sour faces when they next came over. They already raised their kids and now I get to raise mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your daughter likes the toys? Why can’t she play with dolls? Are only “boy” toys acceptable?

Nice strawman.

Of course its the girl toys getting a bad rap. New moms are precious.