My DD says she is bisexual - how do I react?

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

Yes it is … it’s called Friday night lights.

Or homecoming or prom or Valentine’s Day!

Hey look at me I’m in a Hetero relationship !!!! Celebrate me!!! Look at me! Take pictures, put them on face book, say how cute they are, print them and put them in your house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

Oh dear, do you think we should have White History month too?

[Anonymous]

As a lesbian, this thread makes me so glad we left DC. So conservative and repressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say "Okay. I love you no matter what, and no matter who you're attracted to." And then you hug her and go on with life because this isn't a big deal.

Would you say “i love you no matter what” if she told you she was straight?! Do NOT phrase your support this way. It imply a there’s something inherently wrong with being bi.

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Anonymous wrote:You say "Okay. I love you no matter what, and no matter who you're attracted to." And then you hug her and go on with life because this isn't a big deal.

Would you say “i love you no matter what” if she told you she was straight?! Do NOT phrase your support this way. It imply a there’s something inherently wrong with being bi.

Very good point. This response should be reconsidered, when using it for anything.

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Say. “Ok. Thanks for telling me.” Then change the subject.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. It’s a fad.

Micro aggressions toward LGBTQ+ rampant on this board.

Micro aggression is the new buzzword for ‘I don’t like what you said’.

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Anonymous wrote:My 11yo told me she was pansexual and I asked her what that meant to her, and then asked her if she had any feeling of attraction to anyone. She responded “ew, no”, then paused for a beat and said, “I guess I’m nothing sexual”, to which I responded “you’re 11 and that is fine. No need to rush to label yourself”. She then decided that her current sexual orientation is “questioning” which sounds great for a preteen/teen kid who is still figuring it all out. By 15 I expect she may have some answers, but at 11 it’s still really all beyond her. If at 15 she told me she was bi I would say great, thank you for sharing that with me. I hope you find wonderful people to love and who love you.

Our school's 2nd grade Identity Project told the kids all about it and to question themselves and explore. He came home at age 7 thinking Jazz Jennings can have a baby because his brain thinks he's a girl. No context, why not think that after the teacher read the book to the class.

Your post seems sarcastic and flippant.

A 7 year-old should not be denied or ignored in expressing their own sexual identity.

I mean, I agree! If the child is attracted to an adult and that teacher feels the same, then by all means, allow that to be expressed

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Anonymous wrote:Is social media the new "gay agenda?" I've been hearing some version of "people are pushing our kids to be gay" since I was in high school in the 90s. It seems just as bogus now as it did then.

I don't think it's a gay agenda, but I do think it's influencing kids. Do you not think social media has any influence on anything with kids? Why wouldn't it be an influence in this one area?

Beyond influencing. There are active sites for grooming. I have friends who have received packages of binders, sex toys, etc. that someone ‘well meaning’ activist sent their minor child.

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Anonymous wrote:Is social media the new "gay agenda?" I've been hearing some version of "people are pushing our kids to be gay" since I was in high school in the 90s. It seems just as bogus now as it did then.

I think part of it is the algorithmic nature of social media, where a kid can find themselves bombarded by very skewed messaging based on who they’re friends with, or what band they like, or what clothes they where, and it has nothing to do with their actual sexual orientations. Then there’s the rush of affirmation they get from putting #gay, or whatever, on a post, possibly from a ton of complete strangers. (My DD’s friend does this on every single thing she posts.)

That there are hashtags where they can GET affirmation? BIG problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nail? Meet hammer. Perfect PP!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

Oh dear, do you think we should have White History month too?

Seriously. These people are so dense. There is no NEED for "white history" or "straight pride" months, days, parades. . . . that's every.day. What do people not get about that?