My DD says she is bisexual - how do I react?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. It’s a fad.

Micro aggressions toward LGBTQ+ rampant on this board.

It *Is* a fad, though. PP is right. Pointing it out isn’t a “microaggression.” Stop using asinine terms like that — it makes you sound stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 11yo told me she was pansexual and I asked her what that meant to her, and then asked her if she had any feeling of attraction to anyone. She responded “ew, no”, then paused for a beat and said, “I guess I’m nothing sexual”, to which I responded “you’re 11 and that is fine. No need to rush to label yourself”. She then decided that her current sexual orientation is “questioning” which sounds great for a preteen/teen kid who is still figuring it all out. By 15 I expect she may have some answers, but at 11 it’s still really all beyond her. If at 15 she told me she was bi I would say great, thank you for sharing that with me. I hope you find wonderful people to love and who love you.

Our school's 2nd grade Identity Project told the kids all about it and to question themselves and explore. He came home at age 7 thinking Jazz Jennings can have a baby because his brain thinks he's a girl. No context, why not think that after the teacher read the book to the class.

Your post seems sarcastic and flippant.

A 7 year-old should not be denied or ignored in expressing their own sexual identity.

Of course not, but is it true that this 2nd Grade Identity Project brought up sexual identity? That can't be right.

Wouldn’t surprise me at all, frankly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is social media the new "gay agenda?" I've been hearing some version of "people are pushing our kids to be gay" since I was in high school in the 90s. It seems just as bogus now as it did then.

I think part of it is the algorithmic nature of social media, where a kid can find themselves bombarded by very skewed messaging based on who they’re friends with, or what band they like, or what clothes they where, and it has nothing to do with their actual sexual orientations. Then there’s the rush of affirmation they get from putting #gay, or whatever, on a post, possibly from a ton of complete strangers. (My DD’s friend does this on every single thing she posts.)

I think that’s a very good point. The ability to interact with essentially anyone on the planet, and the ability of technology to expose you to certain content is new and a game-changer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 11yo told me she was pansexual and I asked her what that meant to her, and then asked her if she had any feeling of attraction to anyone. She responded “ew, no”, then paused for a beat and said, “I guess I’m nothing sexual”, to which I responded “you’re 11 and that is fine. No need to rush to label yourself”. She then decided that her current sexual orientation is “questioning” which sounds great for a preteen/teen kid who is still figuring it all out. By 15 I expect she may have some answers, but at 11 it’s still really all beyond her. If at 15 she told me she was bi I would say great, thank you for sharing that with me. I hope you find wonderful people to love and who love you.

Our school's 2nd grade Identity Project told the kids all about it and to question themselves and explore. He came home at age 7 thinking Jazz Jennings can have a baby because his brain thinks he's a girl. No context, why not think that after the teacher read the book to the class.

Your post seems sarcastic and flippant.

A 7 year-old should not be denied or ignored in expressing their own sexual identity.

Of course not, but is it true that this 2nd Grade Identity Project brought up sexual identity? That can't be right.

Wouldn’t surprise me at all, frankly.

Progressive school in DC. Teaches the 3 genders and orientation and gay/straight sex before biology or anatomy. Get em early!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is social media the new "gay agenda?" I've been hearing some version of "people are pushing our kids to be gay" since I was in high school in the 90s. It seems just as bogus now as it did then.

Wow thank you for clarifying why this response makes me so uncomfortable!

Yeah. Same sh1t, different decade.

[Anonymous]

There are some nasty anti-LGTBQ+ posters on DCUM.

Be warned, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

Yikes. I definitely think there is some truth that bisexuality, gay, queer, and gender questioning is a fad. But comments like this are homophobic and insensitive to the LGBTQ community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

Yikes. I definitely think there is some truth that bisexuality, gay, queer, and gender questioning is a fad. But comments like this are homophobic and insensitive to the LGBTQ community.

DP. Yikes what? I’m with the PP. I’m proud of my kid for a lot of things, but her sexual orientation isn’t one of them. It is what it is, nothing to be proud nor ashamed of. Are people proud of their kids for being straight? For having blue eyes? For being tall? It makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

Do you know why there aren't "straight pride" events? Because life is much easier when you're straight.

Most of my kids' friends are straight and it really still is the "norm". There is a lot of support for LGBTQ+ friends but because it can be tough, not because it's glamorous.

It's perfectly fine to be straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

DP. Maybe proud that their kid is self-aware and not self-hating?

DP. Parents should absolutely be proud of their kids for being open with them and themselves, no doubt. But the original PP’s comment sort of gets at the crux of what I’m observing among my 8th grade DD and friends. It’s not so much about exhibiting gay pride as it is about declaring you’re gay so that you have something to be proud of. It’s like a game of telephone, and the kids have gotten the message that being straight is akin to being boring/homophobic/close-minded/Republican/…

Nope. Being straight is fine.

Pushing the "gay agenda" trope is Republican/anti-LGTBQ+.

There are so many LGTBQI+ “pride” events.

But it would NOT be “fine” to even think of a “straight pride” event, let alone actually attend one.

So it’s not really “fine“ to be straight.

Yes it is … it’s called Friday night lights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is great! Your daughter is very very brave, OP.

You should be proud of her for being bisexual.

Why would anyone be “proud” or a child for being bisexual? That doesn’t make any sense.

Yikes. I definitely think there is some truth that bisexuality, gay, queer, and gender questioning is a fad. But comments like this are homophobic and insensitive to the LGBTQ community.

DP. Yikes what? I’m with the PP. I’m proud of my kid for a lot of things, but her sexual orientation isn’t one of them. It is what it is, nothing to be proud nor ashamed of. Are people proud of their kids for being straight? For having blue eyes? For being tall? It makes no sense.

Yes I’m proud if my child talks to be before entering in any sexual or dating relationship for education/guidance/etc.

Yes I’m proud of my kids for being open and honest.