Snarky room mom ruined my morning

[Anonymous]

Her waiting until the last minute to contact you, that's on her
Op, why is this even a cause for distress?
Why are you looking for a reason to be distressed?

Oh, is it because she will say, "Mary was "suppose" to bring ..."

and it will make you look bad? I don't understand

[Anonymous]

You are all so passive aggressive. The mother for waiting until last minute. You posting this about her and she probably reads DCUM.

You are all human and take it easy on yourselves and each other. Enjoy the rest of the night and tomorrow is another day.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. Glad your family is feeling better. That must have been scary to have your kid in the hospital.

Let room mom drive herself crazy over unnecessary and wasteful paper products. Such nonsense.

[Anonymous]

If she's assuming you aren't bringing anything, and isn't planning on providing the items herself, why did she even text you? That was her being aggressive and mean.

[Anonymous]

Plus, it's her job as room mom to follow up BEFORE the day of the party. She failed. Her problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's assuming you aren't bringing anything, and isn't planning on providing the items herself, why did she even text you? That was her being aggressive and mean.

I feel confident that OP is exaggerating the snarkiness of the text in order to make her feelings more valid and make people more on her side. She claims she doesn't even know the room mom so I highly doubt the text she received is exactly as she described.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

As someone whose kids would be in class B I’m all for this. I don’t have time for this crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

As someone whose kids would be in class B I’m all for this. I don’t have time for this crap.

+1

I want to be involved, and my kid’s school has lots of celebrations, but the class plans their celebration and the kids make props / decorations.

I would not want to be in class A, where parents think “involvement” is parent-planned Pinterest parties.

-former PreK teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

As someone whose kids would be in class B I’m all for this. I don’t have time for this crap.

I’m the pp who has room parents who take donations and arrange the class party. I would be happy to do more, but honestly think this is more efficient. The room parents don’t have to do a sign up or micromanage the parents who forgot the napkins. Our class does plenty of fun things. Maybe the room parents hate the rest of us, but that would be weird because they chose to do it this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

As someone whose kids would be in class B I’m all for this. I don’t have time for this crap.

I’m the pp who has room parents who take donations and arrange the class party. I would be happy to do more, but honestly think this is more efficient. The room parents don’t have to do a sign up or micromanage the parents who forgot the napkins. Our class does plenty of fun things. Maybe the room parents hate the rest of us, but that would be weird because they chose to do it this way.

I’m the lazy ass PP who would rather give money. Honestly some room moms seem very controlling and I feel like they would rather do the whole thing, I’m scared I’m going to bring the wrong cotton balls or whatever and piss them off. But I’d be happy to do everything for one event it’s the running out to but some thing random every two weeks that seems…inefficient. Our PTA was trying to give each teacher one of a specific item and they did not get enough volunteers. I was very happy to Venmo the coordinator $ for 5 items since she was already clearly going to the store to purchase those items. But I just was not going to drag my youngest out after a long day to go buy something I would NEVER have decided on myself. I think the teachers would rather have had the money for what it’s worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's my oldest daughter's first year in school- 3yo PreK. We also have an infant. All four of us have had COVID over the last two weeks. My (very healthy) 3yo had a very scary case which resulted in a two-day hospital stay. It has been a LOT on top of DH and I working from home with the two kids, but I know many families have been through this. We are finally all better and it's her first day back to school today.

At 7:43am, TWO MINUTES before school starts, I got a text from a random number "I sent a note home asking you to bring themed napkins and plates for today's valentines party. Never heard back so assuming you aren't?"

I responded and said I was so sorry; we have all had a rough time with COVID over the last two weeks and my daughter has not been in school since January 28th so I did not receive the note. The party began at 8am and we walk to school so I let her know I had my baby in the stroller, but could run home, get the car, and grab plates and napkins and drop them off about 15 mins after the party started (which would make me late to daycare drop off and work but I didn't say that).

She responded "It's fine. We will do without".

I feel so disheartened. Why couldn't she have followed up with more than TWO MINUTES notice? I genuinely had not received her note and she clearly had my contact info. I was really looking forward to having our first day of childcare in over two weeks and focusing on work and it just really put a damper on my day ugh.

This is not your problem. If you never responded, she should have had a backup plan earlier than 2 minutes before the event. It’s 100% her fault. Try to let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

As someone whose kids would be in class B I’m all for this. I don’t have time for this crap.

I’m a big fan of class B as well. My kids go to Catholic school now. Today, the kids’ teachers gave everyone a treat, and they talked about St Valentine. Families were encouraged to donate to charity in lieu of donating to a school party. I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t view it as snarky and you could have gotten the napkins and plates via Amazon. People like you always have an excuse.

Oh gosh, room mom, that you?

[Anonymous]

She is rude. I hope her kids never end up in the hospital. WTF — people have really lost all sense of perspective.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it was definitely snarky.