Snarky room mom ruined my morning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

I agree. It takes zero extra time to be kind when the request for party supplies was missed due to a child’s hospitalization (!!). Don’t be a room mom if you’re a self-righteous jerk.

She didn’t say hospitalized. She said “rough time with Covid,” which I have used to mean stir crazy from quarantine, so that might be how the room mom took it. OP can’t expect sympathy for hospital visits the room mom doesn’t know about!

[Anonymous]

Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

I agree. It takes zero extra time to be kind when the request for party supplies was missed due to a child’s hospitalization (!!). Don’t be a room mom if you’re a self-righteous jerk.

She didn’t say hospitalized. She said “rough time with Covid,” which I have used to mean stir crazy from quarantine, so that might be how the room mom took it. OP can’t expect sympathy for hospital visits the room mom doesn’t know about!

No, I'm willing to bet room mom knew all about it if their kids are in the same class. News travels. OP, don't let these people tell you you overreacted. "We'll do without" is about as snarky as it gets. I would have reacted the same. Don't let it ruin your day and I hope your DD is feeling much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

I agree. It takes zero extra time to be kind when the request for party supplies was missed due to a child’s hospitalization (!!). Don’t be a room mom if you’re a self-righteous jerk.

She didn’t say hospitalized. She said “rough time with Covid,” which I have used to mean stir crazy from quarantine, so that might be how the room mom took it. OP can’t expect sympathy for hospital visits the room mom doesn’t know about!

No, I'm willing to bet room mom knew all about it if their kids are in the same class. News travels. OP, don't let these people tell you you overreacted. "We'll do without" is about as snarky as it gets. I would have reacted the same. Don't let it ruin your day and I hope your DD is feeling much better.

How the hell would the room mom know OP’s daughter went to the hospital.

I am a room parent. We have no extra information.

[Anonymous]

I don’t view it as snarky and you could have gotten the napkins and plates via Amazon. People like you always have an excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our room moms just ask for $ contributions and they arrange everything. God bless them.

Omg I would 100x prefer thst

Of course you would! We wouldn't want you to actually have to DO anything, heaven forbid!

I think they should split the classes up - class A - kids with parents who want to be involved and do fun stuff, class B - kids whose parents do not.

[Anonymous]

Don’t feel bad. The kids do not need themed napkins!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

Agree with all of this. Ignore her, OP. I’m sorry to hear your family has had such a rough patch—I hope things are smoother from here on out.

+1 sending an assignment like that home in s paper note is a mess. Good thing you weren’t responsible for the food and still out! I would have been offended by the tone of the first text, guess I’m a snowflake too! Ha! I agree try not to let it ruin your day. Glad your family is healthy now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's my oldest daughter's first year in school- 3yo PreK. We also have an infant. All four of us have had COVID over the last two weeks. My (very healthy) 3yo had a very scary case which resulted in a two-day hospital stay. It has been a LOT on top of DH and I working from home with the two kids, but I know many families have been through this. We are finally all better and it's her first day back to school today.

At 7:43am, TWO MINUTES before school starts, I got a text from a random number "I sent a note home asking you to bring themed napkins and plates for today's valentines party. Never heard back so assuming you aren't?"

I responded and said I was so sorry; we have all had a rough time with COVID over the last two weeks and my daughter has not been in school since January 28th so I did not receive the note. The party began at 8am and we walk to school so I let her know I had my baby in the stroller, but could run home, get the car, and grab plates and napkins and drop them off about 15 mins after the party started (which would make me late to daycare drop off and work but I didn't say that).

She responded "It's fine. We will do without".

I feel so disheartened. Why couldn't she have followed up with more than TWO MINUTES notice? I genuinely had not received her note and she clearly had my contact info. I was really looking forward to having our first day of childcare in over two weeks and focusing on work and it just really put a damper on my day ugh.

She wasn’t necessarily snarky but not very kind either. Her first text should’ve a) been sent before this morning/ideally sometime last week and b) should’ve said “hello, are you able to bring themed plates and napkins for the preschool valentines party on Monday?” And if she didn’t remember to send it til this morning and then you had let her know you’d been absent due to covid and didn’t know about the plates/napkins she should’ve said “no worries! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been sick and glad little Larla is back in school now!” She was definitely not very empathetic. Oh well. She’s probably kind of a jerk and/or maybe has a lot going on too. Forget it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

+1 her response was pretty rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

This is overkill. Room Mom has probably never met OP, doesn’t even know her kid’s name. It would have been nice if she wrote “sorry to hear that. Don’t worry about it”, but she’s probably focused on the task now at hand, which is getting some plates and napkins. There’s not really time for a lot of fluttering around OP, making little empathetic noises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a room mom myself, I have seen the opposite issue, where if you assume another parent has dropped the ball and you do swoop in with extra items in place of them, the parent gets upset with you. It’s hard to please everyone and so many parents want to help out with these class parties! Is it possible she was annoyed with you? Sure, but it’s also possible she was ready with some extras and just wanted to make sure you weren’t providing before she added those to the party supply pile.

This makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll never forget holding that beautiful bright red Valentine’s Day cupcake in my three year old hands and thinking “Where in the hell is my themed napkin?”. Haunts me to this day.

HAHAHA

[Anonymous]

Eh? No big deal. She never heard back from you so she assumed correct.

I would have just responded, that is correct. You’ve had covid and haven’t been at school and didn’t get the note. No apology, just fact. Is that it is. No hard feelings