Snarky room mom ruined my morning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wait, HR mom communicates by paper note via kid's backpack or cubby? How truly bizarre. She'll learn. OP, this is a total nothing burger. Absolutely forget about it.

Agree with PPs, she's the one who is incompetent here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

actually it was perfect. many room moms would panic and take you up on your offer to run out and get last minute stuff, which would be ridiculously unnecessary. sure she could have been more polite, but her response was fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

Agree with all of this. Ignore her, OP. I’m sorry to hear your family has had such a rough patch—I hope things are smoother from here on out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly I am DONE with stupid stuff like this. Themed napkins?! No. I will send in actual school supplies, Valentines to hand out and make sure they have costumes for the Halloween parade, but the rest needs to slide away.

I feel like women used to get tasked with all sorts of stupid stuff like this (notice she didn't text your husband). It needs to stop and they need to stop expecting women to be classroom volunteers too. Not everything needs to be a pinterest moment.

+1

3 year olds don’t need this crap and I do not have time for it.

[Anonymous]

How bizarre. There is also a sign up. You aren’t assigned an item normally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please do not let harpies like that ruin your day. Karma will get her.

x100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly I am DONE with stupid stuff like this. Themed napkins?! No. I will send in actual school supplies, Valentines to hand out and make sure they have costumes for the Halloween parade, but the rest needs to slide away.

I feel like women used to get tasked with all sorts of stupid stuff like this (notice she didn't text your husband). It needs to stop and they need to stop expecting women to be classroom volunteers too. Not everything needs to be a pinterest moment.

+1

3 year olds don’t need this crap and I do not have time for it.

Every preschool and elementary school probably had a Valentine’s Day celebration today.

We had a sign up. We were asked to bring in the items last week. Brought valentines for the class today.

I felt bad my preschool kid couldn’t write in the tiny Valentine. Teacher told us to have kids write the names. She can barely write her name in giant letters. She can’t write her name in an one inch box. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Have some compassion - she's trying to organize a nice holiday party for the class and (maybe people in her family wound up in the hospital too, who knows?) clearly dropped the ball by not following up with you when she didn't get a confirmation from you and is misplacing her anger at herself.

Just like you want people to have compassion for you, you have to have it for others as well. Your daughter is three - she will never remember this.

[Anonymous]

A preK/daycare Valentine's Day party that begins at 8am? I don't believe it.

Those things are done at the end of the day so you could've still had time to run home and bring in napkins.

Also, a lot of tone is lost in text messaging. I didn't really perceive the room mom's reply as rude, just to the point- she was probably in the midst of juggling things and organizing stuff that she probably didn't have too much more time to write much of a reply.
And she probably thought you were the rude room bc of your napkin obligation.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you're going to be this sensitive to something that really is more rude than snarky then you will have a very hard time for the next 15 years of schooling. You must let other people's behavior reflect back on to them, not stick to you. If she waited until the last minute, then that is on her. It is not your burden to carry, so do not carry it. You will have many worse encounters with other mothers down the line. This is an easy one. Let it go. It's not a crisis.

Mother of a HS senior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A preK/daycare Valentine's Day party that begins at 8am? I don't believe it.

Those things are done at the end of the day so you could've still had time to run home and bring in napkins.

Also, a lot of tone is lost in text messaging. I didn't really perceive the room mom's reply as rude, just to the point- she was probably in the midst of juggling things and organizing stuff that she probably didn't have too much more time to write much of a reply.
And she probably thought you were the rude room bc of your napkin obligation.

OP here all holiday parties are 8-9pm because all of the kids are welcome (the school offers 3, 4, or 5 full or half day options) So if Monday is not your child's regular, they can still come and attend the holiday parties from 8-9am and then leave.

[Anonymous]

sorry 8-9am**

[Anonymous]

Don’t see much snark. And you had a good explanation. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think "It's fine. We'll do without." is a pretty rude response after someone just told you they didn't get a note because their kid missed 2 weeks of school due to COVID. The correct response is "Oh, I'm so sorry to hear she's been sick. I didn't know. Hope everyone is well now!"

Personally, OP, I would have added that my DC had been hospitalized and NOT offered to run and get the stuff. Because, perspective.

My thoughts exactly. Any reasonable human would say “oh goodness! Didn’t realize. Hope you all are feeling better. Ignore my text and excited to have Layla back!” Agree that hand-written notes to assign duties are a recipe for failure. OP, do something nice for yourself and ignore the room mom. She’s disorganized and rude.

I agree. It takes zero extra time to be kind when the request for party supplies was missed due to a child’s hospitalization (!!). Don’t be a room mom if you’re a self-righteous jerk.