Update to previously deleted thread- my sister won’t let anyone hold her baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus just let it go. You sound unhinged.

+1

Definitely some obsessive genes in that family!

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really weird. I know tons of babies born since 2020 and none of their parents are like this. The people defending OP's sister sound as crazy as the sister does. OP, I'd talk to the husband alone and see if he can get her to see someone. He's really the only one with any say.

Op here. Our pediatrician sister had a baby several months ago! She is behaving and acting normally. Taking her baby son out for walks, to the store, to see our family indoors, to the park etc.

Serious question for all the posters who think I’m nuts/obsessed etc- are you people really not leaving your houses? Like still? In 2022?

We do not have unvaccinated newborns.

You are absolutely obsessive. Get a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait are you people serious? You think it’s reasonable to not even take a newborn for a stroller walk outside because…other people might have walked by? Clearly this poor woman is suffering from PPA and needs help..????

OP is nuts and this woman cannot be bothered with her. Its not PPA or anything else and its common sense to keep newborn away with cold. flu and covid.

Away from who if you’re just walking outside?

The sister doesn't want to take the time, is tired or just simply doesn't want to see OP. Plus, its cold out. OP sounds like a nightmare and sister is making a good choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really weird. I know tons of babies born since 2020 and none of their parents are like this. The people defending OP's sister sound as crazy as the sister does. OP, I'd talk to the husband alone and see if he can get her to see someone. He's really the only one with any say.

Op here. Our pediatrician sister had a baby several months ago! She is behaving and acting normally. Taking her baby son out for walks, to the store, to see our family indoors, to the park etc.

Serious question for all the posters who think I’m nuts/obsessed etc- are you people really not leaving your houses? Like still? In 2022?

We do not have unvaccinated newborns.

You are absolutely obsessive. Get a therapist.

This sounds fake. Before covid, even years ago our peds (and we saw several due to how our health insurance worked) said to limit contact due to colds/flue in the winder and not to take the baby in a store if at all possible. You lack all judgement to see people indoors during covid and maybe this is the issue. Your behavior puts the baby at a huge risk. A baby doesn't need to go to the park.

[Anonymous]

I had a baby in November and a baby in February, both pre-Covid. We did go for walks outside almost daily but until the babies had had their vaccines around 2 months or so we didn’t take our babies anywhere indoors except Dr’s appts and didn’t allow them around anyone unless we knew the people we were with were feeling well and had recently had a pertussis vaccine as well as the flu vaccine. And even then, we were very cautious about who we were around up until about 1 year old.

I think your sister likely has PPA or PPD bc her actions seem very extreme even given pandemic plus the typical caution w newborn but I think you also have to back off. Her husband should get her to a dr and see about helping her w whatever mental health issues are going on but her husband and Dr are the only ones who need to be involved and you should remain concerned about her and let her know you’re there for her if she wants to talk but stop pressuring her to get together and stop intervening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a baby in November and a baby in February, both pre-Covid. We did go for walks outside almost daily but until the babies had had their vaccines around 2 months or so we didn’t take our babies anywhere indoors except Dr’s appts and didn’t allow them around anyone unless we knew the people we were with were feeling well and had recently had a pertussis vaccine as well as the flu vaccine. And even then, we were very cautious about who we were around up until about 1 year old.

I think your sister likely has PPA or PPD bc her actions seem very extreme even given pandemic plus the typical caution w newborn but I think you also have to back off. Her husband should get her to a dr and see about helping her w whatever mental health issues are going on but her husband and Dr are the only ones who need to be involved and you should remain concerned about her and let her know you’re there for her if she wants to talk but stop pressuring her to get together and stop intervening.

Sister is not being extreme with covid. These vaccines/covid is not equal to the situation you are talking about and OP lax lifestyle puts her sister's family at risk. Even with no baby, I would not see OP right now.

[Anonymous]

If she had PPA or PPD you would still badger her to hold her baby. You sound crazy, OP. Chances are she's perfectly fine, but doesn't want any of you near her or her baby and is living her life when you're not around.

[Anonymous]

Even if she’s being totally unreasonable, which I think she is, it really doesn’t matter what you or I think. The bottom line is that you have no entitlement to anything having to do with her baby. So back off.

[Anonymous]

What does your paediatrician sister have to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a baby in November and a baby in February, both pre-Covid. We did go for walks outside almost daily but until the babies had had their vaccines around 2 months or so we didn’t take our babies anywhere indoors except Dr’s appts and didn’t allow them around anyone unless we knew the people we were with were feeling well and had recently had a pertussis vaccine as well as the flu vaccine. And even then, we were very cautious about who we were around up until about 1 year old.

I think your sister likely has PPA or PPD bc her actions seem very extreme even given pandemic plus the typical caution w newborn but I think you also have to back off. Her husband should get her to a dr and see about helping her w whatever mental health issues are going on but her husband and Dr are the only ones who need to be involved and you should remain concerned about her and let her know you’re there for her if she wants to talk but stop pressuring her to get together and stop intervening.

Sister is not being extreme with covid. These vaccines/covid is not equal to the situation you are talking about and OP lax lifestyle puts her sister's family at risk. Even with no baby, I would not see OP right now.

You don’t think the sister telling her (vaccinated and boosted) husband he can’t travel to visit family unless he drives straight thru without stopping to use a bathroom is extreme? Sorry but that’s just nuts at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a winter preemie long before COVID and our doctor gave us instructions that sound a lot like what your sister is following.

I had a winter baby in 2019 and our ped told us to get as much fresh air as possible. Sunlight, stroller walks, anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait are you people serious? You think it’s reasonable to not even take a newborn for a stroller walk outside because…other people might have walked by? Clearly this poor woman is suffering from PPA and needs help..????

OP is nuts and this woman cannot be bothered with her. Its not PPA or anything else and its common sense to keep newborn away with cold. flu and covid.

Away from who if you’re just walking outside?

The sister doesn't want to take the time, is tired or just simply doesn't want to see OP. Plus, its cold out. OP sounds like a nightmare and sister is making a good choice.

Op here. We don’t live in dc. It was 75 degrees today where we are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a baby in November and a baby in February, both pre-Covid. We did go for walks outside almost daily but until the babies had had their vaccines around 2 months or so we didn’t take our babies anywhere indoors except Dr’s appts and didn’t allow them around anyone unless we knew the people we were with were feeling well and had recently had a pertussis vaccine as well as the flu vaccine. And even then, we were very cautious about who we were around up until about 1 year old.

I think your sister likely has PPA or PPD bc her actions seem very extreme even given pandemic plus the typical caution w newborn but I think you also have to back off. Her husband should get her to a dr and see about helping her w whatever mental health issues are going on but her husband and Dr are the only ones who need to be involved and you should remain concerned about her and let her know you’re there for her if she wants to talk but stop pressuring her to get together and stop intervening.

Sister is not being extreme with covid. These vaccines/covid is not equal to the situation you are talking about and OP lax lifestyle puts her sister's family at risk. Even with no baby, I would not see OP right now.

Lax lifestyle? COVID has become so politicized and so many people want to be morality police. Everyone in our family who is eligible for a vaccine and a booster has gotten it. Spending time indoors with family is lax lifestyle? Walking outdoors? Is our ped sister also living a lax lifestyle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does your paediatrician sister have to say?

That healthy full term babies who have had first round shots are at minimal risk of getting ill around vaccinated boosted and otherwise healthy people.
That fresh air, walks and social interaction are healthy and necessary for mom and baby.
That there are more ways to define health than just trying not to get COVID

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait are you people serious? You think it’s reasonable to not even take a newborn for a stroller walk outside because…other people might have walked by? Clearly this poor woman is suffering from PPA and needs help..????

+1. OP might be a bit of a cow, but not taking your baby outdoors, ever “because someone might walk by” is also not normal.

Thing is (if she’s real) she probably is taking her baby for plenty of walks outside. She just doesn’t want to go for walks outside with OP who sounds like she’s a controlling busybody.

No really, haha. She isn’t going anywhere. She doesn’t go anywhere besides drs appts.
[b]She bathes the baby using bottled water.
She had allergies or a mild cold a few weeks ago and wouldn’t be in the same room as the baby for a full 24 hours. The nanny and dh handled the baby.
She is so terrified of “the baby getting sick” she legitimately wore an n95 in the house and did not hold or sit in the same room as the baby for an entire day.

Now you’re a troll