Husband Said I’m Too Strict With Baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would take an overtired baby in the short term over an uninvolved husband in the long term. A lot of husbands are shut out from parenting in the early months and then disengage for a long while. It’s ultimately bad for the couple and family.

OP here. He’s involved. He sees him during his lunch break and spends 6-7pm every night playing with him. He does the bedtime routine ( bath, lotion, book) every night. He is with him almost every wake period on the weekends playing and interacting with him. I follow the schedule but he spends most of the time with him on the weekends since I have him all week. He gets plenty of time with the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did what everyone had said and let him do what he wanted. He kept the baby up twice ( twice today) and he got overtired and cried. It didn’t take 30 minutes like it used to, but he cried for a good 10 minutes each time. I told my husband that he has to do it and I wasn’t going to soothe him. He stuck to the schedule the rest of the day and things went smoothly. He was very surprised. He told me that I’m right and apologized for saying I was mean. He didn’t realize that even 5 minutes would make him overtired.

Good for you, OP! Sometimes they just need to see what it’s really like in order to come around. You have not been unreasonable at all.