Husband Said I’m Too Strict With Baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What type of schedule is your baby on? Does he not get to spend time with your baby at all?

OP here. He is usually working but pops in to see him around lunch time at 1pm. He usually spends 6-7pm with him and then does part of the bedtime routine with him ( bath, lotion, and book). He spends plenty of time with him on the weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am all for sleep training your kids, but sleep training an 8 week old is cruel.

OP here. I think I used the wrong term. I put him on a schedule and helped him put himself to sleep but we don’t let him cry. I used to have to rock him for 30 minute before being able to put him down, but now I put him in the Snoo or crib and he falls asleep on his own most of the time. He will usually fuss for a minute and then goes to sleep. We don’t let him cry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

[Anonymous]

It depends how she trained. It maybe that she just followed babys cues and didnt cry it out or anything. Mine was like that. If i got the sleep window right kiddo would sleep through till morning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

OP here. What? I have never wrote about this and I would never call my friends “ poor”. That’s just distasteful. We don’t let anyone use our Snoo for hygiene and safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

OP here. What? I have never wrote about this and I would never call my friends “ poor”. That’s just distasteful. We don’t let anyone use our Snoo for hygiene and safety reasons.

What hygiene reasons are those?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am all for sleep training your kids, but sleep training an 8 week old is cruel.

OP here. I think I used the wrong term. I put him on a schedule and helped him put himself to sleep but we don’t let him cry. I used to have to rock him for 30 minute before being able to put him down, but now I put him in the Snoo or crib and he falls asleep on his own most of the time. He will usually fuss for a minute and then goes to sleep. We don’t let him cry.

This is not sleep training. This is following baby’s cues and putting him on a routine. The routine above that you mentioned is pretty typical for his age. Tell your husband to keep him up for a nap and then deal with a crying, overtired baby. I’m sure he won’t say anything about it again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

OP here. What? I have never wrote about this and I would never call my friends “ poor”. That’s just distasteful. We don’t let anyone use our Snoo for hygiene and safety reasons.

What hygiene reasons are those?

We are in a pandemic. I don’t want anyone else using something my baby sleeps in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am all for sleep training your kids, but sleep training an 8 week old is cruel.

OP here. I think I used the wrong term. I put him on a schedule and helped him put himself to sleep but we don’t let him cry. I used to have to rock him for 30 minute before being able to put him down, but now I put him in the Snoo or crib and he falls asleep on his own most of the time. He will usually fuss for a minute and then goes to sleep. We don’t let him cry.

This is not sleep training. This is following baby’s cues and putting him on a routine. The routine above that you mentioned is pretty typical for his age. Tell your husband to keep him up for a nap and then deal with a crying, overtired baby. I’m sure he won’t say anything about it again.

+1. This is not sleep training.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

OP here. What? I have never wrote about this and I would never call my friends “ poor”. That’s just distasteful. We don’t let anyone use our Snoo for hygiene and safety reasons.

What hygiene reasons are those?

Not OP but are you dense? Isn’t it common practice do not let someone else’s baby sleep in the place your baby does? We used to let our friends baby nap in the crib but always washed the sheets right away. That’s just common hygiene.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleep train an 8 week old? That’s cruel.

Yep

This is the loon who wrote about sleep training and her Snoo earlier. She had a poor friend who she sometimes let use the Snoo, and when her friend called her out on sleep-training an 8 week old, OP got upset.

OP here. What? I have never wrote about this and I would never call my friends “ poor”. That’s just distasteful. We don’t let anyone use our Snoo for hygiene and safety reasons.

What hygiene reasons are those?

Not OP but are you dense? Isn’t it common practice do not let someone else’s baby sleep in the place your baby does? We used to let our friends baby nap in the crib but always washed the sheets right away. That’s just common hygiene.

So…you did let another baby sleep where yours did. Got it.

[Anonymous]

OP, that baby is going to change his own schedule soon enough. You will learn that just as you think you find what you baby likes, they become a whole new baby. A lot of it has to do with your baby’s natural disposition and not as much of your choices as you think. That’s why you will see a lot of response on this forum calling people out as first time parents when they talk about how they did this magic thing that made their baby a good sleeper/eater/whatever. Then we learn that when we do the exact same thing with another kid, it has no effect at all.

Let dad play with his baby.

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t eat throughout the night at his age ??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What type of schedule is your baby on? Does he not get to spend time with your baby at all?

OP here. His schedule is

Feedings - 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, and 6pm, 7:30pm, and 10pm.

Naps: 8:15-10am, 11:30-1pm, 2:30-4pm, 5:30-6pm. Bedtime at 8. Wakes up at 7am.

He was a mess for the first 8 weeks because he rarely showed signs of being tired until it was too late and then would cry for 30 minutes while I tried to get him down. He was always fussy. I read a book and realized I was keeping him awake too long. I started following wake windows and everything fell into place. He is a much happier baby now. He is 9.5 weeks old and has been following this routine for about two weeks. It may change but at least I know what to do now.

That is way too much sleep for a baby. My kids never slept more that much. Keep him awake and play with him. Stop forcing him to go to sleep.