Evite invitation - hide guest list?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't hide the guest list.

I usually take a look to ensure that I don't accidentally talk about an invite with other parents whose kids aren't invited.

+1.. and then you can also arrange carpools for those who need rides.

Why are you talking about invitations with other parents? That's a social no-no.

NP - what?? How is it a "no-no"? "Oh hey Jane, what are your plans this weekend? Oh we are going to Larlo's birthday on Saturday, are you going too?" No one is critiquing the invites with other parents. This thread is full of paranoid people. Don't show the guest list because some won't come depending on who is on it? Who are you people socializing with? GMAFB.

Just say your kid is going to a party. Don’t be so tacky and say it’s Larlo’s.

Exactly. It's like y'all were raised by wolves!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter if someone chooses to hide their list?
When people send paper invites or individual text invites
You don’t know who else is invited.

Also as kids get older they start inviting select friends and not the whole class, or budget reasons and some families might not be able to Invite the whole class. Either way why would you bring up a party to someone if you don’t know who else is invited ? I never bring it up and if someone asks for weekend plans I just say “oh we have a birthday Saturday and not too much going on Sunday “ why do you have to give specifics.

I’m honestly wondering if some of you people have friends in real life that you actually talk to… Maybe COVID really did a number on your social skills. I wouldn’t mention a kid’s party specifically in order to put some sort of state secret. I would mention the kid if my friend’s kid is also friends with them for many of the reasons noted here. If you don’t want people talking about your super special secret party, then let them know who else is invited! It’s really that simple.

Sorry not sorry that I have better things to talk to my friends about than my children's social lives?

[Anonymous]

I think the better question here is -- who on earth are you people that are still using EVITE ??????

I don't even know the last time we received an evite - my kids have either come with a paper invitation, or the parent has emailed or texted me a Canva/graphic invitation. Either way, RSVPs have all been "RSVP Sarah at xxx-xxx-xxxx". That's pretty standard nowadays - I have 6 and 9 year olds.

[Anonymous]

I have done it because I am disorganized and have forgotten someone and added them later. They were on the “A” list. Also, for locations with a headcount limit, if people say no, I have added others. They are people I would have wanted to include if there wasn’t a limit but DS asked for the location.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the better question here is -- who on earth are you people that are still using EVITE ??????

I don't even know the last time we received an evite - my kids have either come with a paper invitation, or the parent has emailed or texted me a Canva/graphic invitation. Either way, RSVPs have all been "RSVP Sarah at xxx-xxx-xxxx". That's pretty standard nowadays - I have 6 and 9 year olds.

It might be standard for your social circle, but in mine, it’s still mostly Evite. The horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to turn the question around on you - as a guest, why would you need to see who else was invited? When someone sends paper invitations, you have no idea who else was invited. Why does evite/paperless post need to be any different?

Carpooling.

This is the number one reason I so much prefer to see the list as a guest!

[Anonymous]

As the parent of multiple kids who are juggling various parties and sports on the weekends, I appreciate seeing the guest list to arrange carpools. Often my kid can’t go unless I can split the driving with another family

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the public list is helpful not because my kid won’t go if so and so isn’t going, but because she would prefer not to attend if certain people are there. In the throes of late ES mean girl nonsense, my DD would opt out if the majority of the mean girl clique was invited. She just didn’t want to take time on the weekend to be around girls she didn’t like, and potentially make someone’s birthday party awkward.

[Anonymous]

No, hiding the list is annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the better question here is -- who on earth are you people that are still using EVITE ??????

I don't even know the last time we received an evite - my kids have either come with a paper invitation, or the parent has emailed or texted me a Canva/graphic invitation. Either way, RSVPs have all been "RSVP Sarah at xxx-xxx-xxxx". That's pretty standard nowadays - I have 6 and 9 year olds.

Yeah, no.

[Anonymous]

Its super weird that people think a host should make a party guest list public to help the invitees to said party plan their lives(i.e. their ability to carpool or determine who is/isn’t in attendance). This is absolutely ridiculous. If you have concerns, you can RSVP as Maybe and discuss with the Host your concerns about needing to find a ride for DC. A responsible host will suggest potential carpool option you can reach out to, or depending on location offer to be your DC’s ride.


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Anonymous wrote:Its super weird that people think a host should make a party guest list public to help the invitees to said party plan their lives(i.e. their ability to carpool or determine who is/isn’t in attendance). This is absolutely ridiculous. If you have concerns, you can RSVP as Maybe and discuss with the Host your concerns about needing to find a ride for DC. A responsible host will suggest potential carpool option you can reach out to, or depending on location offer to be your DC’s ride.


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^^ np, I agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't hide the guest list.

I usually take a look to ensure that I don't accidentally talk about an invite with other parents whose kids aren't invited.

+1.. and then you can also arrange carpools for those who need rides.

Why are you talking about invitations with other parents? That's a social no-no.

NP - what?? How is it a "no-no"? "Oh hey Jane, what are your plans this weekend? Oh we are going to Larlo's birthday on Saturday, are you going too?" No one is critiquing the invites with other parents. This thread is full of paranoid people. Don't show the guest list because some won't come depending on who is on it? Who are you people socializing with? GMAFB.

Just say your kid is going to a party. Don’t be so tacky and say it’s Larlo’s.

Exactly. It's like y'all were raised by wolves!!

I feel it’s more like we have friends and conversations and know that sometimes people ask even if that’s what you say.

[Anonymous]

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I’m honestly wondering if some of you people have friends in real life that you actually talk to… Maybe COVID really did a number on your social skills. I wouldn’t mention a kid’s party specifically in order to put some sort of state secret. I would mention the kid if my friend’s kid is also friends with them for many of the reasons noted here. If you don’t want people talking about your super special secret party, then let them know who else is invited! It’s really that simple.

No one said anything about people who hide their list being a “super secretive party”
There’s many reasons why people choose to hide their list. I have never asked another person if their kid is
Going to an event unless I know 100 they are invited . If I don’t see a guest list or get a text invite and don’t know who’s coming
I just take my kid to the party. It’s really not THAT big of a deal to not see the guest list.
How do you handle it when people do verbal invites or paper invites or individual text invites?
Why is that anyone’s business ? I can understand the people who choose to hide it and who choose not too.


Name the many reasons, please.

From what I’ve seen:

- because people have an A and a B guest list (I find this kind of weird and have never had trouble with the amount of RSVPs I’ve gotten for any of my kids’ parties, but if you say it’s a thing then ok)

What else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter if someone chooses to hide their list?
When people send paper invites or individual text invites
You don’t know who else is invited.

Also as kids get older they start inviting select friends and not the whole class, or budget reasons and some families might not be able to Invite the whole class. Either way why would you bring up a party to someone if you don’t know who else is invited ? I never bring it up and if someone asks for weekend plans I just say “oh we have a birthday Saturday and not too much going on Sunday “ why do you have to give specifics.

I’m honestly wondering if some of you people have friends in real life that you actually talk to… Maybe COVID really did a number on your social skills. I wouldn’t mention a kid’s party specifically in order to put some sort of state secret. I would mention the kid if my friend’s kid is also friends with them for many of the reasons noted here. If you don’t want people talking about your super special secret party, then let them know who else is invited! It’s really that simple.

This is so funny- you think friendship involves spending even 1 second talking about Larlo’s party? Sounds like you and friends don’t have anything interesting and fun to actually talk about.

You have just proven my point, which is that you clearly don’t have many friends in real life. That’s sad for you.