Wow. Quarantine made me realize I don’t like my kid

[Anonymous]

Anyone else?

I have 4. My oldest two and youngest can be obnoxious and have their moments but my 8-year-old is so unpleasant to be around. I realize in small doses (weekends, evenings) I can handle it but this 24/7 thing with him has been terrible. He complains constantly, is a terrible student, is impossible to teach and is only happy when staring at a screen or annoying the shit of his siblings. I’d say this was just the age but I think it’s just him. Teachers have made comments but seeing it all first hand has been very eye opening.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. Well, that's unfortunate.

But, umm make a plan. As the parent, it's kinda your job to make him less obnoxious.

For example:
If you complain again this morning you'll lose your screen time for today.

If that doesn't work, try something else. Help him find some interests.

Also, could he have adhd or high functioning autism. I say this because my son does and he seems a little like what you describe. He does better with ritalin. Much less obnoxious.
Get him on the list to be evaluated if you think this could be the case. The waiting lists are often a year or two long.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you supposed to be a kid lover? I mean, you had FOUR of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. Well, that's unfortunate.

But, umm make a plan. As the parent, it's kinda your job to make him less obnoxious.

For example:
If you complain again this morning you'll lose your screen time for today.

If that doesn't work, try something else. Help him find some interests.

Also, could he have adhd or high functioning autism. I say this because my son does and he seems a little like what you describe. He does better with ritalin. Much less obnoxious.
Get him on the list to be evaluated if you think this could be the case. The waiting lists are often a year or two long.

Please don’t foist a diagnosis on this kid. The parent sounds like an absolute prat.

[Anonymous]

4 kids is too many. Of course you are going to hate some of them. Should have stuck with two good-quality ones instead.

[Anonymous]

this thread must be S/O of "Wow. Quarantine made me realize I don’t like my parents" thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. Well, that's unfortunate.

But, umm make a plan. As the parent, it's kinda your job to make him less obnoxious.

For example:
If you complain again this morning you'll lose your screen time for today.

If that doesn't work, try something else. Help him find some interests.

Also, could he have adhd or high functioning autism. I say this because my son does and he seems a little like what you describe. He does better with ritalin. Much less obnoxious.
Get him on the list to be evaluated if you think this could be the case. The waiting lists are often a year or two long.

Please don’t foist a diagnosis on this kid. The parent sounds like an absolute prat.

Any advice for them, then? Or do you just want to criticize others' responses. i said "if" you think this could the case. There's no foisting going on. There is, however, suggesting talking to a professional, which, honestly, can't hurt.

[Anonymous]

Op these PPs are mean. I am learning my 5 year old is pretty annoying too. I get it. But 8 also can be pretty trying age.

[Anonymous]

I have one like that. I have to take breaks from him because otherwise I fear that I'm damaging him with all my complaints about his behavior. I think the problem is that we have such different temperaments. I've come to realize during the pandemic what teachers mean by "attention seeking behavior." He is a bottomless pit. He'll make a funny face just pouring himself a glass of orange juice, and if you smile it will explode into a jig that goes out into the living room and turns into a total song and dance routine.

But that isn't 24-7. A lot of the time we are very alike and share inside jokes and ways of doing things. It's a crap shoot which will happen on any given day.

Good luck, OP. If you come up with any strategies, let us know. I'll be following this thread with interest.

[Anonymous]

Dude. You raised him. Lol

[Anonymous]

I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one like that. I have to take breaks from him because otherwise I fear that I'm damaging him with all my complaints about his behavior. I think the problem is that we have such different temperaments. I've come to realize during the pandemic what teachers mean by "attention seeking behavior." He is a bottomless pit. He'll make a funny face just pouring himself a glass of orange juice, and if you smile it will explode into a jig that goes out into the living room and turns into a total song and dance routine.

But that isn't 24-7. A lot of the time we are very alike and share inside jokes and ways of doing things. It's a crap shoot which will happen on any given day.

Good luck, OP. If you come up with any strategies, let us know. I'll be following this thread with interest.

PP again. I also apologize to him at least once a day for being too hard on him. Of course he eats that up.

[Anonymous]

I think this is one of those harsh realities that most parents learn and aren't honest enough with themselves to admit. When you have four, the odds that one of their personalities doesn't mesh with yours is pretty high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

Ding! DIng! Ding!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.