Wow. Quarantine made me realize I don’t like my kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else?

I have 4. My oldest two and youngest can be obnoxious and have their moments but my 8-year-old is so unpleasant to be around. I realize in small doses (weekends, evenings) I can handle it but this 24/7 thing with him has been terrible. He complains constantly, is a terrible student, is impossible to teach and is only happy when staring at a screen or annoying the shit of his siblings. I’d say this was just the age but I think it’s just him. Teachers have made comments but seeing it all first hand has been very eye opening.

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree, OP. Maybe work on yourself while you are trying to fix your kid...

[Anonymous]

https://mobile.twitter.com/Akitron/status/1253007473780371456/photo/1

OP, this is a good tweet for you to read! I feel bad for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Knowledge is power OP. Ex-teacher here. I think your gut is right and it's not just the age. You have older kids so you already know this, but you have 4-5 years to get this train back on track before your access and influence diminish with puberty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

Eh. I don't know. Some kids are just prickly. Mine was from the womb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

With 1 or 2 kids, sure. With 4+ kids, there's always one who the parents don't like because of the kid's personality.

I can think of two large families off the top of my head with very obvious kids that the parents don't like.

The parents managed to parent the other dozen of collective kids just fine. Those two kids just have something wrong that makes them unpleasant to be around.

Teachers dread getting one of them in their class. They're known throughout the school.

[Anonymous]

Op, you just have too many kids and are neglecting them. Their bad behaviour is the direct result of your neglect. Shame in you.

[Anonymous]

A former annoying kid here. I remember very well the frustration I would see on my mom's face dealing with me. (I have a sibling who had it worse than me.) But could see how much she enjoyed being with another sibling. They just got along better. As a result, all these years later she only really has a well-connected relationship to that favorite child. FWIW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

With 1 or 2 kids, sure. With 4+ kids, there's always one who the parents don't like because of the kid's personality.

I can think of two large families off the top of my head with very obvious kids that the parents don't like.

The parents managed to parent the other dozen of collective kids just fine. Those two kids just have something wrong that makes them unpleasant to be around.

Teachers dread getting one of them in their class. They're known throughout the school.

Bad seeds from bad parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

Eh. I don't know. Some kids are just prickly. Mine was from the womb.

Oh yeah, totally not your fault

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else?

I have 4. My oldest two and youngest can be obnoxious and have their moments but my 8-year-old is so unpleasant to be around. I realize in small doses (weekends, evenings) I can handle it but this 24/7 thing with him has been terrible. He complains constantly, is a terrible student, is impossible to teach and is only happy when staring at a screen or annoying the shit of his siblings. I’d say this was just the age but I think it’s just him. Teachers have made comments but seeing it all first hand has been very eye opening.

Teacher here. Yeah, we don't make this stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Dang! You people are some mean a$$ f&%kers!

OP...what did you expect posting this here? DCUM is populated with perfect parents with perfect kids. Didn't you know that!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

How is that true when OP has 4 kids and only one of them is a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

Not always. If that were true, all kids in a family would be amazing or all of them would be terrible if one is. I have one kid who is an angel in school and one who is not. We are constantly working with him to behave—consequences, rewards, we always support the teacher. It’s so unfair to say it’s 100% the fault of the parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://mobile.twitter.com/Akitron/status/1253007473780371456/photo/1

OP, this is a good tweet for you to read! I feel bad for your kid.

Huh? That has nothing to do with the OP's post.

[Anonymous]

All these PP criticizing you can go jump off a cliff.

Very few people are around their kids (once they aren't babies or toddlers) 24/7 for months on end. Its normal to have some realizations.

I don't dislike my kids, but I sure am sick of some of their personality traits after literally not having more than about 30 minutes apart from them for the last 6 weeks.

I feel ya.