Wow. Quarantine made me realize I don’t like my kid

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

They aren’t!!!! My parents were the same parents to all 4 of us. I was the only one constantly in trouble in school in ballet in sports always. I had pretty severe ADHD that wasn’t diagnosed until college. Don’t be a presumptuous twat. Each child is who they are regardless of how wonderful or terrible their parents are.

There you have it. Children are individuals with vastly different personalities and needs — of course if you try to parent each one the exact same it’s not going to end well!

Your parents were NOT the same parents. The first kid gets the nervous parents and fourth gets the super chill ones!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you supposed to be a kid lover? I mean, you had FOUR of them.

When you have 4 you have a hedge. You just assume two of them (max) will visit you in the home, and even then just 1x per month, max.

[Anonymous]

People are who they are-- they were born that way and they don't really change. I think almost every family, no matter how many kids are in it, has one difficult child. When I think through all the families I know, that is almost always true. There are plenty of difficult people in the world-- why wouldn't there be plenty of families with a difficult child?

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for the boy. He is going to know his mother doesn't like him and that is going to make his behavior so much worse.

why hasn't anyone figured this out yet?

what a bunch of clowns you guys are - especially OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for the boy. He is going to know his mother doesn't like him and that is going to make his behavior so much worse.

why hasn't anyone figured this out yet?

what a bunch of clowns you guys are - especially OP.

This is the OP's post word for word...go ahead and look down there. I'll give you a minute or 10 to read it. Now where in there does OP say she isn't treating her kid nicely with respect? When you assume...you make an a$$ out of you and...well...just you.

"Anyone else?

I have 4. My oldest two and youngest can be obnoxious and have their moments but my 8-year-old is so unpleasant to be around. I realize in small doses (weekends, evenings) I can handle it but this 24/7 thing with him has been terrible. He complains constantly, is a terrible student, is impossible to teach and is only happy when staring at a screen or annoying the shit of his siblings. I’d say this was just the age but I think it’s just him. Teachers have made comments but seeing it all first hand has been very eye opening."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for the boy. He is going to know his mother doesn't like him and that is going to make his behavior so much worse.

why hasn't anyone figured this out yet?

what a bunch of clowns you guys are - especially OP.

This is the OP's post word for word...go ahead and look down there. I'll give you a minute or 10 to read it. Now where in there does OP say she isn't treating her kid nicely with respect? When you assume...you make an a$$ out of you and...well...just you.

"Anyone else?

I have 4. My oldest two and youngest can be obnoxious and have their moments but my 8-year-old is so unpleasant to be around. I realize in small doses (weekends, evenings) I can handle it but this 24/7 thing with him has been terrible. He complains constantly, is a terrible student, is impossible to teach and is only happy when staring at a screen or annoying the shit of his siblings. I’d say this was just the age but I think it’s just him. Teachers have made comments but seeing it all first hand has been very eye opening."

I also want to point out that all of y'all are sh*%$y for assuming OP is a mom and not a dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A former annoying kid here. I remember very well the frustration I would see on my mom's face dealing with me. (I have a sibling who had it worse than me.) But could see how much she enjoyed being with another sibling. They just got along better. As a result, all these years later she only really has a well-connected relationship to that favorite child. FWIW

Were you so annoying that your teachers noticed it too, like OP's kid?

[Anonymous]

I get it, OP. My 5YO has ADHD, so we're constantly working through challenging behaviors. Of course, I see now these challenging behaviors are totally the result of my parenting. Thank God for the posters in this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

So, how do you explain the huge differences we see in so many families?

I think that just proves the point further. Kids are individuals and need different things.

NP. One of our kids definitely has different needs. He’s high needs and prickly since birth. Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. He requires much, much more than our other kids and surely doesn’t get all he needs because we are not super heroes. We are just regular parents who make mistakes. Therefore, he is frequently super obnoxious and a jerk. We’ve done our best but it wasn’t enough for him. Fortunately, our other kids are all super easy.

[Anonymous]

Stay at home order made me realize that I messed up on setting boundaries with my kid. She’s bratty. It’s because I melt after a few rounds of “I want” and tantrums. I just freakin can’t fight the iPad anymore

[Anonymous]

You have four kids and the oldest probably isn't getting enough attention and knows the only way to get attention is to act up. You need to change your parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

So, how do you explain the huge differences we see in so many families?

I think that just proves the point further. Kids are individuals and need different things.

NP. One of our kids definitely has different needs. He’s high needs and prickly since birth. Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. He requires much, much more than our other kids and surely doesn’t get all he needs because we are not super heroes. We are just regular parents who make mistakes. Therefore, he is frequently super obnoxious and a jerk. We’ve done our best but it wasn’t enough for him. Fortunately, our other kids are all super easy.

Maybe you had more kids than you could handle as its about you, not the kids. That's pretty sad you know his needs don't get met and don't care and name call vs. parenting him better. Your kids deserve far more, especially that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

So, how do you explain the huge differences we see in so many families?

I think that just proves the point further. Kids are individuals and need different things.

NP. One of our kids definitely has different needs. He’s high needs and prickly since birth. Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. He requires much, much more than our other kids and surely doesn’t get all he needs because we are not super heroes. We are just regular parents who make mistakes. Therefore, he is frequently super obnoxious and a jerk. We’ve done our best but it wasn’t enough for him. Fortunately, our other kids are all super easy.

+1 Our oldest is sometimes like this and demands more attention than his two siblings. He is a good kid that just needs more help sometimes in the EQ department. This discussion reminds me of an excellent article in The Atlantic, "When Your Child is a Psychopath" and how lonely and isolating it is as a parent of such a kid and how judgmental others are in terms of blaming the parents for the kid's behaviors. While our child is nothing like this, I read the article and had empathy for these parents. I wonder sometimes, "What if a kid's personality just sucks?" and that has NOTHING TO DO with the parent's parenting. I assume no one who has an autistic or bi-polar child is suddenly blaming the parent, are they? Why should this be any different if the parents are generally trying their best?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a school (though am not a teacher). So many kids are unlikeable these days because parents refuse to parent.

+1. Kids are a reflection of their parents and their ability to parent. Always.

+100

I’m just a mom and I see so many unlikable kids too.

Attention hugs
Me me me!
Interrupters
Reactive
Over talkers
Insensitive

Anytime I see a kid who is calm, kind, observant, thoughtful, I’m relieved

[Anonymous]

Give them up for adoption.