If you're going to be rude and ask if a sibling can attend the birthday party

[Anonymous]

AT LEAST do so privately to me only so that the whole damn evite doesn't start asking the same thing, via comments. GOOD GRIEF.

I'm already paying hundreds for this activity gym party; thanks so much for causing a tidal wave that will cost me probably $100 more.

RUDE.

[Anonymous]

You messed up by publicly saying yes? And $100 is cheap in bday party world?

[Anonymous]

Learn to say “no,” OP.

[Anonymous]

Just publicly reply by saying "So sorry- we can't accommodate siblings at Josh's party. Sure hope to see Jordan there!"

Don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Ha! OP, wait until half of them don't show up, after you've paid extra. Good times!

[Anonymous]

OP - I state whether or not siblings are included in the initiation to avoid this.
So many people post here asking others to change when the easiest thing is to change yourself.

[Anonymous]

It’s so rude! Figure out, before you have four kids, what your plan will be to socialize them individually.

I had this happen a couple years ago. One of the tagalongs threw a fit because she couldn’t have a goody bag. Like on the ground kicking and screaming. The mom thought it was MY issue to solve. “Do you have just one more goody bag? Larla didn’t get one and she’s so sad.”

Larla wasn’t invited! Larla’s name wasn’t on the invite. Neither was little Carly or little Hannah over there, yet here they are, over in the corner, bored and rambunctious, with their ‘don’t mind us, we will be right outside if you need us’ mom. For the life of me, I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

I wish evites made clearer to whom they are addressed. My kids are little, so they do not have their own email addresses. But, they are also very close in age and are both friends with many of the same kids. Sometimes, I honestly cannot tell if the birthday kid is inviting one of my kids or both of them.

That said, I generally agree with OP that, if you have to ask, you should do so privately and in a way that makes it easy for the host to say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just publicly reply by saying "So sorry- we can't accommodate siblings at Josh's party. Sure hope to see Jordan there!"

Don't worry about it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I state whether or not siblings are included in the initiation to avoid this.
So many people post here asking others to change when the easiest thing is to change yourself.

Because the envelope the invite is in that’s addressed to Larla —and Larla alone— is just too vague to decipher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish evites made clearer to whom they are addressed. My kids are little, so they do not have their own email addresses. But, they are also very close in age and are both friends with many of the same kids. Sometimes, I honestly cannot tell if the birthday kid is inviting one of my kids or both of them.

That said, I generally agree with OP that, if you have to ask, you should do so privately and in a way that makes it easy for the host to say no.

This. The typical evite leaves it up to the person accepting to say how many people are coming. Also the convention at our school is to welcome siblings, so I don’t think it’s rude at all to ask for clarity.

[Anonymous]

I hate when this happens. These people always end up giving the cheapest gift too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish evites made clearer to whom they are addressed. My kids are little, so they do not have their own email addresses. But, they are also very close in age and are both friends with many of the same kids. Sometimes, I honestly cannot tell if the birthday kid is inviting one of my kids or both of them.

That said, I generally agree with OP that, if you have to ask, you should do so privately and in a way that makes it easy for the host to say no.

This. The typical evite leaves it up to the person accepting to say how many people are coming. Also the convention at our school is to welcome siblings, so I don’t think it’s rude at all to ask for clarity.

You can change the setting when you make the evite so that the person accepting can't change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You messed up by publicly saying yes? And $100 is cheap in bday party world?

No, no. You misunderstood - in addition to paying the several hundred already budgeted for the friend party, it’s going to be an EXTRA $100 (at least) for people to bring siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just publicly reply by saying "So sorry- we can't accommodate siblings at Josh's party. Sure hope to see Jordan there!"

Don't worry about it.

+1

I want to add- it's not rude to say "no". Life rule: Just because someone asks does not mean you have to accept. It's fine to say no.