If you're going to be rude and ask if a sibling can attend the birthday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may think that your child's birthday party is a great time, however, no other parent is really wants to be there. No parent wants to pay for a babysitter for other siblings so one child can attend.

You have never heard of drop off?

Presumably the OP is not offering that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may think that your child's birthday party is a great time, however, no other parent is really wants to be there. No parent wants to pay for a babysitter for other siblings so one child can attend.

You have never heard of drop off?

No one is asking to bring siblings to drop off parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You know what's tricky? Some siblings ARE invited, but some aren't. We genuinely socialize as a group with some families, and the siblings are close in age, etc. Or my cousin is welcome to bring all 4 of her kids, because that's family.

So I can't make some blanket "no sibling" statement when some siblings are invited.

I'm just frustrated because the people asking are all daycare folks we don't know well at all. But they all have my contact info, and I don't get why they couldn't ask PRIVATELY.

Well I think that is kind of rude. I would welcome all siblings or not.

It's not rude at all, good grief. She wants to invite family kid units her kid is friends with, not random siblings her kid has no interest or friendship with. Where do you people come from?!

[Anonymous]

Why don’t people understand that you are not entitled to bring kids to a party they were not invited to? If it doesn’t work for your family, decline the invitation and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of the reason why we no longer those types of "event" birthday parties. ITA, that is rude. The invite was for x child because the kid is friends with x not with the sibling. Why do people insinuate their other children into these birthday parties. It's like inviting yourself to a party you were not invited to.

People bring siblings because they don’t have other childcare.
I have never had a parent ask to bring a sibling to a drop off party.

If you can’t accommodate siblings at all, then tell the person asking that you can’t have Larlo’s brother there, but you will keep an eye on Larlo during the party.

If you can't go because of child care issues, decline the invitation. That's really it, folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of the reason why we no longer those types of "event" birthday parties. ITA, that is rude. The invite was for x child because the kid is friends with x not with the sibling. Why do people insinuate their other children into these birthday parties. It's like inviting yourself to a party you were not invited to.

People bring siblings because they don’t have other childcare.
I have never had a parent ask to bring a sibling to a drop off party.

If you can’t accommodate siblings at all, then tell the person asking that you can’t have Larlo’s brother there, but you will keep an eye on Larlo during the party.

If you can't go because of child care issues, decline the invitation. That's really it, folks.

Not everyone feels the way you do. If I don’t want you at my kids birthday party, then I won’t invite you. I am happy to make a small accommodation to have a wanted guest present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is part of the reason why we no longer those types of "event" birthday parties. ITA, that is rude. The invite was for x child because the kid is friends with x not with the sibling. Why do people insinuate their other children into these birthday parties. It's like inviting yourself to a party you were not invited to.

People bring siblings because they don’t have other childcare.
I have never had a parent ask to bring a sibling to a drop off party.

If you can’t accommodate siblings at all, then tell the person asking that you can’t have Larlo’s brother there, but you will keep an eye on Larlo during the party.

If you can't go because of child care issues, decline the invitation. That's really it, folks.

Not everyone feels the way you do. If I don’t want you at my kids birthday party, then I won’t invite you. I am happy to make a small accommodation to have a wanted guest present.

Same. If you’ve been invited, I want you there and will help ensure that you can make it. Thank goodness real life isn’t like DCUM. At younger ages where parents most attend the party, I completely understand the need to bring a sibling. I have always had people ask. If the venue can accommodate space-wise, I say yes. I have had to say no, and saying NO is not that hard, people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! OP, wait until half of them don't show up, after you've paid extra. Good times!

This is the only thing that annoys me. I get that things come up but so many people no-show after confirmation on RSVP... they have to know there's a cost involved. And no one ever has a gift for my kid, so pretty sure they just never planned on coming.