Would you punish college son or daughter for getting fired from summer internship?

[Anonymous]

And if so, how?

[Anonymous]

Need way more information, OP.

Age of student? Why fired? What type of internship? Truly "fired" for poor performance?

[Anonymous]

Presumably being fired is punishment enough, but we don’t punish adult offspring generally.

[Anonymous]

Reason for being fired?

[Anonymous]

Uh. What? How does one “punish” a non minor? Was it earning money crucial towards college budget? If so make clear you are not going to make up that money and they need to find a new way to earn cash, stat.

Why did he or she get fired??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need way more information, OP.

Age of student? Why fired? What type of internship? Truly "fired" for poor performance?

+1

Not sure how to "punish" an adult student, but I do think I'd make it clear that my continued support (living at home during summers/ after graduation, any monetary support you give them now while they're in college, etc) was contingent upon them making the right choices. If you're not working, getting decent grades, and generally behaving like you have a life plan and take it seriously, then you shouldn't plan on an extended stay at Hotel Mom & Dad.

[Anonymous]

Depends on reason.

Fired for cause, or laid off because not enough work available etc?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Assuming intern could have prevented it, use it as opportunity to figure out what’s going wrong and why. Be happy you have the chance to help teach before it’s a job with funds necessary for living. Don’t be punitive, be helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need way more information, OP.

Age of student? Why fired? What type of internship? Truly "fired" for poor performance?

That would be fairly impossible to verify, unless you knew the boss, I suppose. But otherwise you have to believe your fired child’s account, who doesn’t exactly have a ton of credibility at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on reason.

Fired for cause, or laid off because not enough work available etc?

Fired for cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming intern could have prevented it, use it as opportunity to figure out what’s going wrong and why. Be happy you have the chance to help teach before it’s a job with funds necessary for living. Don’t be punitive, be helpful.

+1

Unless the student somehow deliberately got themselves fired, the firing is punishment enough. Time to figure out how to help them for when it counts a lot more.

[Anonymous]

No punishment, but disappointment, certainly, as well as a lecture on what not to do at work. It will depend on the mistake, of course. My son has Asperger's tendencies, and I can see myself in that situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on reason.

Fired for cause, or laid off because not enough work available etc?

Fired for cause.

OK, but what kind of "cause". Repeatedly late? Drugs on job? Sexual misadventures on the desk? Didn't show up because of meth addiction? What?

[Anonymous]

You have bigger problems than punishment. What is the root of this behavior?