Considering an affair

[Anonymous]

We are both married with kids, how do I test the waters and let him know I am interested? We will be working on a personal project together the next few months, and its an itch I want to scratch, but at same time don't want to make it completely awkward if he's just not interested. What do I do? Met him 3 months ago and I am wildly attracted to him. I am attractive and feel like there could be interest, but just not sure. I've never cheated and this is the first time I have been interested in pursuing something outside of my marriage. I know Im going to get skewered on here for this post, but could use some thoughtful guidance.

Thanks....

[Anonymous]

Don’t. Just do not. Have integrity.

[Anonymous]

Think of how your kids will know you are a tramp when they find out. This just happened to a friend of mine. Her kids hate her now for ruining their family.

[Anonymous]

This is a stupid way to scratch an itch. Find a better way.

[Anonymous]

Don't you are going down a road and dragging innocent people with you. Grow up and think of your children.

[Anonymous]

Are you a woman or man?

[Anonymous]

The answer is always yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both married with kids, how do I test the waters and let him know I am interested? We will be working on a personal project together the next few months, and its an itch I want to scratch, but at same time don't want to make it completely awkward if he's just not interested. What do I do? Met him 3 months ago and I am wildly attracted to him. I am attractive and feel like there could be interest, but just not sure. I've never cheated and this is the first time I have been interested in pursuing something outside of my marriage. I know Im going to get skewered on here for this post, but could use some thoughtful guidance.

Thanks....

Lots of married people have an interest in pursuing something outside marriage, but only those who are selfish and morally bankrupt do it. Remember, when you cheat on your spouse, you cheat on your kids.

[Anonymous]

Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Think about how you will be ruining your kids’ lives and then decide whether getting some new D is worth it to you.

[Anonymous]

You must be low on empathy — for your spouse and their spouse (and kids).

[Anonymous]

The odds are that your affair will be discovered, so think about what your life would be like when that happens and when you kiss your children goodnight and look down lovingly as they peacefully sleep, think about how your selfish actions will destroy their childhood and forever confuse and damage their innocent lives. Also think about how your life will feel, only seeing them for half of theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be low on empathy — for your spouse and their spouse (and kids).

In other words, she’s a woman.

[Anonymous]

Flirt like you would if you were single. If he's interested he will flirt back. Or you can casually mentioned how you and your husband haven't been intimate in a while andet him intervene

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The odds are that your affair will be discovered, so think about what your life would be like when that happens and when you kiss your children goodnight and look down lovingly as they peacefully sleep, think about how your selfish actions will destroy their childhood and forever confuse and damage their innocent lives. Also think about how your life will feel, only seeing them for half of theirs.

Odds are it won’t be discovered, but it’s still not worth it.