Considering an affair

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

Nope. Empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

Nope. Empathy.

Until you have endured years of no sex/affection from the person who is supposed to WANT to have sex with you, and lacks empathy to meet the basic spousal needs you have repeatedly brought to their attention, please climb down from your high horse and STFU.

Signed, Not OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

Nope. Empathy.

Until you have endured years of no sex/affection from the person who is supposed to WANT to have sex with you, and lacks empathy to meet the basic spousal needs you have repeatedly brought to their attention, please climb down from your high horse and STFU.

Signed, Not OP

Then get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

Nope. Empathy.

Until you have endured years of no sex/affection from the person who is supposed to WANT to have sex with you, and lacks empathy to meet the basic spousal needs you have repeatedly brought to their attention, please climb down from your high horse and STFU.

Signed, Not OP

Then get a divorce.

Agreed. Get a divorce first. Or, tell your spouse first what you are doing so your spouse can make his or her own decision whether to divorce or not. Otherwise, you're just being selfish, deceptive, and cowardly, having your cake and eating it, too.

[Anonymous]

I love to eat cake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love to eat cake.

Think about what you'll be eating when you get caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16:35 here one more time...just to say, my xMM ended up divorced. Turned out I wasn't the only MW he had in the stable. And I got an STD, which is what led to my d-day...what I thought was "romantic" (unprotected sex) resulted in my own stupidity. So at the very minimum, protect yourself. There are so, so many things I regret in regard to my affair...it makes me both sad and angry to see others contemplating an affair as something positive when it resulted in the lowest point of my life, and my H's life. Please, please consider other options...counseling, divorce even...it's not worth the loss of self-respect or integrity or whatever more you can lose.

You are a good writer. I don't believe for a minute that this is "your" story, but you do write well.

It's like every bit bit of moralizing and warnings about what can go wrong in an affair all rolled into one neat story of a few paragraphs.

Wow, you realized the error of your ways and the harm you were causing, got an STD, had to confess, he forgave you and you are still together, while the other guy is no longer married and you found out he was seeing others besides you?

Seriously, your tell is cramming way too much into this BS story.

16:35 here again...thanks for the laugh. If only it was a story. I'd much rather be a shitty writer than have put my H through what I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16:35 here one more time...just to say, my xMM ended up divorced. Turned out I wasn't the only MW he had in the stable. And I got an STD, which is what led to my d-day...what I thought was "romantic" (unprotected sex) resulted in my own stupidity. So at the very minimum, protect yourself. There are so, so many things I regret in regard to my affair...it makes me both sad and angry to see others contemplating an affair as something positive when it resulted in the lowest point of my life, and my H's life. Please, please consider other options...counseling, divorce even...it's not worth the loss of self-respect or integrity or whatever more you can lose.

You are a good writer. I don't believe for a minute that this is "your" story, but you do write well.

It's like every bit bit of moralizing and warnings about what can go wrong in an affair all rolled into one neat story of a few paragraphs.

Wow, you realized the error of your ways and the harm you were causing, got an STD, had to confess, he forgave you and you are still together, while the other guy is no longer married and you found out he was seeing others besides you?

Seriously, your tell is cramming way too much into this BS story.

16:35 here again...thanks for the laugh. If only it was a story. I'd much rather be a shitty writer than have put my H through what I did.

I personally appreciated what you shared, 16:35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go read some of the stories on surviving infidelity or talk about marriage, and then see if you still want to be a cheater. Maybe consider getting individual counseling to figure out why you think potentially blowing up your family could be a good idea.

Seriously? Those stories do nothing for me. I always end up thinking how pathetic the cheated upon seem.

I mean... you’re probably a sociopath. Just go ahead and do it, if you lose at least some access to your children they are probably better off.

I was thinking the same. This OP is missing something.

Yep. Sex.

--NP

Nope. Empathy.

Until you have endured years of no sex/affection from the person who is supposed to WANT to have sex with you, and lacks empathy to meet the basic spousal needs you have repeatedly brought to their attention, please climb down from your high horse and STFU.

Signed, Not OP

This person said that they looked down on betrayed spouses. If someone isn’t happy with their sex lives, they’re entitled to sh*tty behavior, according to you. Since you’re telling me the STFU, you must agree with her opinion that betrayed spouses somehow deserve to be cheated on. I’m happy to be on my high horse and tell both of you that you’re lowlife POSs.

[Anonymous]

OP, there's a reason that throughout history humans haven't dealt well with infidelity. EITHER be up front with your spouse about it and do it, or get a divorce and have all cake you want. But don't hurt another person because someone is attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16:35 here one more time...just to say, my xMM ended up divorced. Turned out I wasn't the only MW he had in the stable. And I got an STD, which is what led to my d-day...what I thought was "romantic" (unprotected sex) resulted in my own stupidity. So at the very minimum, protect yourself. There are so, so many things I regret in regard to my affair...it makes me both sad and angry to see others contemplating an affair as something positive when it resulted in the lowest point of my life, and my H's life. Please, please consider other options...counseling, divorce even...it's not worth the loss of self-respect or integrity or whatever more you can lose.

You are a good writer. I don't believe for a minute that this is "your" story, but you do write well.

It's like every bit bit of moralizing and warnings about what can go wrong in an affair all rolled into one neat story of a few paragraphs.

Wow, you realized the error of your ways and the harm you were causing, got an STD, had to confess, he forgave you and you are still together, while the other guy is no longer married and you found out he was seeing others besides you?

Seriously, your tell is cramming way too much into this BS story.

16:35 here again...thanks for the laugh. If only it was a story. I'd much rather be a shitty writer than have put my H through what I did.

I personally appreciated what you shared, 16:35.

Me too. Thank you, 16:35, for sharing your important real-life cautionary tale.

[Anonymous]

So 16:35, you are still with your husband? Because the DCUMers all say when the husband cheats, the couple might be able to reconcile, but when the wife cheats the marriage is over.

Did you find any attraction for your husband again or are you just sexless roommates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So 16:35, you are still with your husband? Because the DCUMers all say when the husband cheats, the couple might be able to reconcile, but when the wife cheats the marriage is over.

Did you find any attraction for your husband again or are you just sexless roommates?

Yes, ten years later, my H and I are still together. There was no rug-sweeping or avoidance in our reconciliation. My H made clear early on that for us to have a chance, he had high expectations from me. I worked hard on myself and that work benefited not only me but our relationship.

Yes, I am attracted to my husband, we are definitely more than just roommates.

[Anonymous]

Humans are not meant to be monogamous