I’m not your kid’s chauffeur! A vent.

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHM of one, and I’m so tired of people assuming it’s no big deal for me to schlep their kids around town for them. Stop assuming we don’t have anything going on and it’s just so fun for us to bring your kid home or take them to dance class for you, just because we don’t work or don’t have as many kids as you. I’m this close to finishing off the year by asking each and every one of these moms to be my kid’s personal chauffeur, because what’s one more? Did I mention they are never really appreciative and downright offended when you decline? So done.

[Anonymous]

Kids these days are very clued in to the environment. Your DC will push to carpool, if she doesn't already.

[Anonymous]

gurl, you need to take a day off, clearly your role is overwhelming for you.

just say, I'll drive there if you can drive home. Assuming you haven't used their nanny as a daycare during the day so you can "volunteer".

[Anonymous]

Tips on how to say "No".

https://www.inc.com/jonathan-alpert/7-ways-to-say-no-to-someone-and-not-feel-bad-about-it.html

[Anonymous]

I get where you are coming from, in a different way. I WOH, but I have a SAHM who just sends her kids down to my house to "play with my girls" the second she sees my car in the driveway. My girls aren't really connected with her kids. It's fine sometimes, but sometimes we just want to have some focused time together.

But instead of stewing about it, I finally just said, "Please don't send your kids down without texting or calling me first. It just doesn't work for me sometimes, and I don't like sending them back and being the one to disappoint them."

And...problem solved! It was a little awkward, but we moved on.

I know it's irritating to be put in that kind of position in the first place, but the only way to solve this problem is to open your mouth and say no.

[Anonymous]

Who does this?

[Anonymous]

I say this kindly: You have done this to yourself and you have no one to blame for yourself for feeling this way. . Next time somebody asks kindly say no. “No” is not a bad word or a mean word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who does this?

NP. A lot of people feel entitled to “have” the time of those who are apparently less busy.

[Anonymous]

Set boundaries if you need to.

OR

Look at yourself as very lucky to be able to be there for your kids and see it as an example of kind behavior to your kids.

OR

Do both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I say this kindly: You have done this to yourself and you have no one to blame for yourself for feeling this way. . Next time somebody asks kindly say no. “No” is not a bad word or a mean word.

Did you not read the part about saying no and people acting entitled regardless? And it never stops them from asking again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I say this kindly: You have done this to yourself and you have no one to blame for yourself for feeling this way. . Next time somebody asks kindly say no. “No” is not a bad word or a mean word.

Did you not read the part about saying no and people acting entitled regardless? And it never stops them from asking again.

And nothing to stop you from saying no again. Why do you care how other people "act"? That's not your problem. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I say this kindly: You have done this to yourself and you have no one to blame for yourself for feeling this way. . Next time somebody asks kindly say no. “No” is not a bad word or a mean word.

Did you not read the part about saying no and people acting entitled regardless? And it never stops them from asking again.

No, I didn’t see where she said that. But my advice is the same and and people can ask and you can continue to say no. Just because they act entitled and feel like they can impose their will on you doesn’t mean you have to give in and say yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who does this?

NP. A lot of people feel entitled to “have” the time of those who are apparently less busy.

It happens to nannies all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I say this kindly: You have done this to yourself and you have no one to blame for yourself for feeling this way. . Next time somebody asks kindly say no. “No” is not a bad word or a mean word.

Did you not read the part about saying no and people acting entitled regardless? And it never stops them from asking again.

And nothing to stop you from saying no again. Why do you care how other people "act"? That's not your problem. Get over yourself.

I kind of agree. You can't control other people's reactions. As long as you politely, but clearly, say no, they can react however they want. How is that your problem?

Also, are you mad that they react poorly, or that they ask in the first place? I don't see anything wrong with asking, politely, if a kid can hitch a ride with someone else. I do see a problem with being rude when someone declines.

[Anonymous]

WOTH mom of one and I can relate. I feel bad for the kid because sometimes DD's friend (who is one of four) can't go if we don't take her. But when we do, it always turns into childcare because mom needs to drop her early or is not there when we return.

I want my only child to have friends, so I look at it as facilitating that. But it bugs me.