Obese women who look put-together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am obese and I make sure that my face is always made up and my hair always looks good, for one thing. I buy expensive work clothes and have them tailored to fit. I have a uniform for casual clothes of things that I know look nice and I don't veer from him. I buy nice shoes.

I know that I have to go an extra 200 miles because thin women are judging me harshly based on my size. Don't deny it, ladies, I know it's true.

OP here. This is my issue. DC just started an at expensive private school, and I don't fit in. I mean, I never will, but I'd rather not look sloppy in front of them.

I totally understand, OP, but I will say that in addition to looking nice, 95% of this is about your confidence. Go in with a smile, be outgoing, own it, and you will make friends! I was you and this past year I made a real effort to reach out to other moms and try to plan things for my very shy daughter, and I am naturally an outgoing person, so I let go of my hangups about my weight and was just myself. I made a couple of really good friends (one of whom is, seriously, a fitness influencer with thousands of followers on instagram).

[Anonymous]

I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

^^ and I don't know if I actually look "put together", but I've fretted over what to wear for the past few years and these are some styles that I like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am obese and I make sure that my face is always made up and my hair always looks good, for one thing. I buy expensive work clothes and have them tailored to fit. I have a uniform for casual clothes of things that I know look nice and I don't veer from him. I buy nice shoes.

I know that I have to go an extra 200 miles because thin women are judging me harshly based on my size. Don't deny it, ladies, I know it's true.

OP here. This is my issue. DC just started an at expensive private school, and I don't fit in. I mean, I never will, but I'd rather not look sloppy in front of them.

Do your best to look polished and not sloppy. Do your hair, put on make up every day. Do your nails or go get them done. If you can afford it, get a nice designer handbag, invest in nice shoes. Find a couple of uniforms that you feel confident in. Before you go to school events, or if you can afford them regularly, get blowouts - makes so much of a difference. I say all this from experience. I get regular blowouts, invest in a few nice outfits and designer shoes and bags. I don't feel as confident dropping off my son with a messy bun and flip flops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am obese and I make sure that my face is always made up and my hair always looks good, for one thing. I buy expensive work clothes and have them tailored to fit. I have a uniform for casual clothes of things that I know look nice and I don't veer from him. I buy nice shoes.

I know that I have to go an extra 200 miles because thin women are judging me harshly based on my size. Don't deny it, ladies, I know it's true.

OP here. This is my issue. DC just started an at expensive private school, and I don't fit in. I mean, I never will, but I'd rather not look sloppy in front of them.

Do your best to look polished and not sloppy. Do your hair, put on make up every day. Do your nails or go get them done. If you can afford it, get a nice designer handbag, invest in nice shoes. Find a couple of uniforms that you feel confident in. Before you go to school events, or if you can afford them regularly, get blowouts - makes so much of a difference. I say all this from experience. I get regular blowouts, invest in a few nice outfits and designer shoes and bags. I don't feel as confident dropping off my son with a messy bun and flip flops.

Hair and makeup goes a LONG way. My housekeeper was very obese (has since had bypass and lost tons). She came to work in leggings and athletic type tops, but her hair and makeup always looked perfect. I always thought she looked beautiful, partly because it was clear she put effort into her appearance

[Anonymous]

Open front jackets
Tunics
Straight leg flattering pants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oops my reply got buried in a quote. I think the woman in the third picture looks great. Number 4 is terrible.

#3 is easiest to dress - she has long legs and well defined waist, plus she is probably on the taller side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

^^ and I don't know if I actually look "put together", but I've fretted over what to wear for the past few years and these are some styles that I like.

I’m not OP, but I want to say that it is really nice of you to go through the trouble of posting all this. DCUM can be so mean sometimes- every once in a while - there is kindness.

[Anonymous]

I follow a blogger OneRealMomma who puts out capsule wardrobes for each season that are perfectly coordinated and thought out. It helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

^^ and I don't know if I actually look "put together", but I've fretted over what to wear for the past few years and these are some styles that I like.

I’m not OP, but I want to say that it is really nice of you to go through the trouble of posting all this. DCUM can be so mean sometimes- every once in a while - there is kindness.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

This is good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to probably out myself because I'm the only fat mom at our private, but here is what I wear.

Almost always navy with pops of color. Usually straight dark pants with wedges. Simple jewelry, but sometimes more fun for fundraisers, etc.

Depends on the occasion (pick up, parent meeting, social event, etc.), but here are some things I wear (or similar):
https://www.talbots.com/faux-denim-mac/P213031021.html
https://www.talbots.com/notch-collar-sweater-blazer/P213121465.html
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-notched-lapel-blazer-plus-size/5922392
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-open-front-cardigan-plus-size/6446650
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-stretch-silk-slim-blouse-plus-size/5747381
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/lafayette-148-new-york-dales-organic-cotton-top-plus-size/5852181
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/maree-pour-toi-silk-button-up-blouse-plus-size/5422234
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ming-wang-long-sleeve-knit-top-plus-size/6414463
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/curves-360-by-nydj-perfect-blouse-plus-size/6146105
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/foxcroft-paityn-non-iron-cotton-shirt-plus-size/4268756
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/vince-camuto-rumple-fabric-blouse/5026948
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/nydj-blouse-plus-size/4563404

I usually just order a bunch from Nordstrom and see what works, but you could try to work with a stylist there.

I am also a fat mom who shops at Nordstrom (public school though, LOL). I've had great luck with their personal stylists who were very helpful in finding things that fit my [very hard to fit] body. The free tailoring is very, very helpful.

Of the brands that PP mentioned, I really, really like Vince Camuto and NYDJ tops and Lafayette 148 stretch wool pants.

[Anonymous]

PP again who made the personal stylist recommendation - I am short and short-waisted, so it's really hard to find clothes that me and it was nice to have someone push things on me that I ever, ever would have thought would look good on me. I never wore slim pants because I thought they accentuated my very round stomach and butt, but it turns out if I wear them with a short blazer, it is very slimming. I always went with wide or straight leg pants and longer jackets, I must have looked so dumpy!

[Anonymous]

I love this woman’s look…Rochelle Johnson. IG is IAMBUTICURVE.

https://www.google.com/search?q=iambeauticurve&client=safari&channel=ipad_bm&sxsrf=AOaemvLmMeVvJkRiAmb5zjs6QCTHdvQWuA:1631157502246&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwi0qvmb9_DyAhW7FlkFHQgpCzoQ_AUoBHoECAEQBg&biw=1300&bih=844&dpr=2" target="_new" rel="nofollow"> https://www.google.com/search?q=iambeauticurve&client=safari&channel=ipad_bm&sxsrf=AOaemvLmMeVvJkRiAmb5zjs6QCTHdvQWuA:1631157502246&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwi0qvmb9_DyAhW7FlkFHQgpCzoQ_AUoBHoECAEQBg&biw=1300&bih=844&dpr=2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to like Eileen Fisher but most of it is too unstructured.

Most Eileen Fisher looks awful on me. I'm curvy and need that waist definition. But I love it in concept.