dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?

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Anonymous wrote:First, two baby mamas make you not so attractive, so you'd better have a big bank account to up your value.

Next, no, you're not looking for a unicorn. There are many women who will have no interest in your kids. The problem is, she'll want you to also have no interest in your kids.

Wait! OP has 2 i=different women as mothers to his children and is 45 and doesn't want to date anyone over 30? This is a mess.

No, I do not. Someone made that up. I have one ex, who is the mother of both my kids. I also never said I didn't want to date anyone over 30. I even said I was not trying to find a 25 year old. The people who are making stuff up are the mess.

You said the idea of dating women your own age was hard to swallow. A woman in her thirties does not want to date a man who has kids in elementary school but doesn’t want any more kids. You need to target women around your age. There are plenty of them.

Again, no, I didn't say that. I said that limiting myself to 45+ was hard to swallow because of how narrow the pool of potential matches becomes, which is definitely not the same as dating my own age is hard to swallow. I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50? Someone who's fit at whatever age (as am I). She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of helpful posts. Thanks for those.

The problem with 35-40 is you’re still solidly in the childbearing range. It’s going to be easier to screen for your preference 40+.

[Anonymous]

This is why I would not divorce. Definitely could not even consider bringing a strange man around my kids. I like my DH enough to keep working on things. Blended family is also a hell no. To the OP, honestly-get into the sugar daddy market. Don’t introduce them to your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:First, two baby mamas make you not so attractive, so you'd better have a big bank account to up your value.

Next, no, you're not looking for a unicorn. There are many women who will have no interest in your kids. The problem is, she'll want you to also have no interest in your kids.

Wait! OP has 2 i=different women as mothers to his children and is 45 and doesn't want to date anyone over 30? This is a mess.

No, I do not. Someone made that up. I have one ex, who is the mother of both my kids. I also never said I didn't want to date anyone over 30. I even said I was not trying to find a 25 year old. The people who are making stuff up are the mess.

You said the idea of dating women your own age was hard to swallow. A woman in her thirties does not want to date a man who has kids in elementary school but doesn’t want any more kids. You need to target women around your age. There are plenty of them.

Again, no, I didn't say that. I said that limiting myself to 45+ was hard to swallow because of how narrow the pool of potential matches becomes, which is definitely not the same as dating my own age is hard to swallow. I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50? Someone who's fit at whatever age (as am I). She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of helpful posts. Thanks for those.

You want inequality regarding children, so you need to accept another form of inequality(theoretically).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First, two baby mamas make you not so attractive, so you'd better have a big bank account to up your value.

Next, no, you're not looking for a unicorn. There are many women who will have no interest in your kids. The problem is, she'll want you to also have no interest in your kids.

Wait! OP has 2 i=different women as mothers to his children and is 45 and doesn't want to date anyone over 30? This is a mess.

No, I do not. Someone made that up. I have one ex, who is the mother of both my kids. I also never said I didn't want to date anyone over 30. I even said I was not trying to find a 25 year old. The people who are making stuff up are the mess.

You said the idea of dating women your own age was hard to swallow. A woman in her thirties does not want to date a man who has kids in elementary school but doesn’t want any more kids. You need to target women around your age. There are plenty of them.

Again, no, I didn't say that. I said that limiting myself to 45+ was hard to swallow because of how narrow the pool of potential matches becomes, which is definitely not the same as dating my own age is hard to swallow. I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50? Someone who's fit at whatever age (as am I). She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of helpful posts. Thanks for those.

You want inequality regarding children, so you need to accept another form of inequality(theoretically).

NP I don’t follow your logic - I that is your goal. Inequality for who? How could someone bringing in a new partner achieve equity ? That can’t and so why push this angle ?

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny without kids, who is 45 looking for a divorced Dad. But I live in Los Angeles and the only men here who want to date a 45 year old are 60+ so it’s probably not going to happen for me unless I move to a town with less shallow people.

[Anonymous]

Oh, so you wanna screw someone exclusively who doesn't have kids. Nice. So she would have to deal with your kids, but you don't want to deal with hers. Nice.

[Anonymous]

Green card...

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Anonymous wrote:First, two baby mamas make you not so attractive, so you'd better have a big bank account to up your value.

Next, no, you're not looking for a unicorn. There are many women who will have no interest in your kids. The problem is, she'll want you to also have no interest in your kids.

Wait! OP has 2 i=different women as mothers to his children and is 45 and doesn't want to date anyone over 30? This is a mess.

No, I do not. Someone made that up. I have one ex, who is the mother of both my kids. I also never said I didn't want to date anyone over 30. I even said I was not trying to find a 25 year old. The people who are making stuff up are the mess.

You said the idea of dating women your own age was hard to swallow. A woman in her thirties does not want to date a man who has kids in elementary school but doesn’t want any more kids. You need to target women around your age. There are plenty of them.

Again, no, I didn't say that. I said that limiting myself to 45+ was hard to swallow because of how narrow the pool of potential matches becomes, which is definitely not the same as dating my own age is hard to swallow. I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50? Someone who's fit at whatever age (as am I). She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of helpful posts. Thanks for those.

You want inequality regarding children, so you need to accept another form of inequality(theoretically).

NP I don’t follow your logic - I that is your goal. Inequality for who? How could someone bringing in a new partner achieve equity ? That can’t and so why push this angle ?

You are too picky. A childless woman doesn’t want it take on baggage unless you bring $ to the table. Keep dreaming about a 30 year old. You need to find someone your own age, unless you have lots of money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First, two baby mamas make you not so attractive, so you'd better have a big bank account to up your value.

Next, no, you're not looking for a unicorn. There are many women who will have no interest in your kids. The problem is, she'll want you to also have no interest in your kids.

Wait! OP has 2 i=different women as mothers to his children and is 45 and doesn't want to date anyone over 30? This is a mess.

No, I do not. Someone made that up. I have one ex, who is the mother of both my kids. I also never said I didn't want to date anyone over 30. I even said I was not trying to find a 25 year old. The people who are making stuff up are the mess.

You said the idea of dating women your own age was hard to swallow. A woman in her thirties does not want to date a man who has kids in elementary school but doesn’t want any more kids. You need to target women around your age. There are plenty of them.

Again, no, I didn't say that. I said that limiting myself to 45+ was hard to swallow because of how narrow the pool of potential matches becomes, which is definitely not the same as dating my own age is hard to swallow. I don't have a fixed age range in mind. Maybe 35-50? Someone who's fit at whatever age (as am I). She doesn't have to be rich, but I'm also not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of helpful posts. Thanks for those.

You want inequality regarding children, so you need to accept another form of inequality(theoretically).

NP I don’t follow your logic - I that is your goal. Inequality for who? How could someone bringing in a new partner achieve equity ? That can’t and so why push this angle ?

His idealized woman has better options.

[Anonymous]

Why would a childless woman want a man with kids? Get real. You are only going to find a woman 40+ who couldn’t have kids of her own but wanted them. Unless you are a multi millionaire, no one childless what’s to take on someone else’s kids!

[Anonymous]

Where does he say he wants to date a 30 year old? This thread is crazy. So far you have misread him to give him an extra second ex - wife, and now he only wants to date a 30 year old. It's crazy! You're arguing about things he never even wrote.

Anyway OP I think in all of this you have your answer... You've gotten responses that there are women out there who match what you're looking for. Try to wade through the low reading comprehension and find those.

[Anonymous]

My 35 year-old friend who doesn’t want kids only dates younger men, those who also don’t want kids, or once, a father with a high schooler (and said never again). Young women who don’t want kids don’t want your kids either.

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Anonymous wrote:Where does he say he wants to date a 30 year old? This thread is crazy. So far you have misread him to give him an extra second ex - wife, and now he only wants to date a 30 year old. It's crazy! You're arguing about things he never even wrote.

Anyway OP I think in all of this you have your answer... You've gotten responses that there are women out there who match what you're looking for. Try to wade through the low reading comprehension and find those.

The poor reading comprehension is shocking.

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Anonymous wrote:Where does he say he wants to date a 30 year old? This thread is crazy. So far you have misread him to give him an extra second ex - wife, and now he only wants to date a 30 year old. It's crazy! You're arguing about things he never even wrote.

Anyway OP I think in all of this you have your answer... You've gotten responses that there are women out there who match what you're looking for. Try to wade through the low reading comprehension and find those.

The only reason people are responding this way is because this would not be an issue if he would date women his own age. If he dated women who were 45, having more kids wouldn’t need to be a consideration. It likely wouldn’t even mater if she was 40. OP’s problem only materializes if he’s trying to date women who are 10 - 15 years younger. That’s why he sounds ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh I don't want to have kids so I definitely don't want yours. What do you have to offer except take take take

+1 Honestly OP almost feels like a troll: "Where can a man with metric tons of baggage find a woman with no baggage of her own or desires for the future who wants to take care of him and his kids and dispense BJs?"

Crazy isn’t it?