Just found out that husband is on Only Fans

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Digital doesn’t mean it’s not sexual or immoral. Child porn is digital.

Well, and I would have two very different reactions if I found my husband looking at child porn, or found him engaged in a sex act with an actual child.

OMG you've gone off the deap end. Child porn has nothing to do with this topic or OnlyFans

If you would even consider shrugging child porn off as "just digital", you're seriously messed up. If I ever caught my DH looking at it, I'd immediately turn all evidence over to the police, divorce, and make sure he never saw our kids again.

Omfg. Yes. He’s a pedophile if he’s looking at child porn to get turned on. It won’t just be digital. It’s in his f@cking brain. They are the one group that cannot be rehabilitated...which is why chemical castration is on the table for the egregious ones.

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's amazing to me how low the bar is for men- apparently now women are okay with them literally paying for sex acts. Pathetic society

He's not "paying for sex acts". It's all digital.

Digital doesn’t mean it’s not sexual or immoral. Child porn is digital.

Well, and I would have two very different reactions if I found my husband looking at child porn, or found him engaged in a sex act with an actual child.

OMG you've gone off the deap end. Child porn has nothing to do with this topic or OnlyFans

If you would even consider shrugging child porn off as "just digital", you're seriously messed up. If I ever caught my DH looking at it, I'd immediately turn all evidence over to the police, divorce, and make sure he never saw our kids again.

Omfg. Yes. He’s a pedophile if he’s looking at child porn to get turned on. It won’t just be digital. It’s in his f@cking brain. They are the one group that cannot be rehabilitated...which is why chemical castration is on the table for the egregious ones.

DP, but why is there one or two posters obsessed with discussing child porn? OnlyFans has a bunch of 20 year olds, but I’m sure the moment they find out out something has someone under 18, they shut that shit down. They wouldn’t risk their entire business.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

So she's supposed to be grateful that he wants this crap?

Wow. Great way to make excuses for trash behavior, PP. You know he's not going to switch off this stuff the second OP births that baby.

An actually mature, thinking human being with some control over himself and an imagination can manage while waiting for the person he supposedly respects and loves, and without the aid of porn or IRL outside-the-marriage sex. Don't trot out the idiotic "But men are visual creatures and just have to have images for stimulation!" lecture. That makes it sound as if poor little men are such brainless automatons that they just can't function without porn. They can. People like you enable it with your "pregnancy makes it all OK" excuses.

+1. Pregnancy is a temporary situation. Can you imagine if a woman whose husband had, say, cancer said "oh well, guess I gotta go hop on a dating app and flirt with random dudes online since you're too sick for anything! Sorry, but I need nice dates and vacations to get off! You should appreciate it since now you don't have to do it yourself!" She'd be ripped apart.

If you can't deal with setting aside your own needs temporarily due to health reasons, you shouldn't get married.

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Honestly, or have kids. Because let's be real, anyone that impulsive and selfish is going to make a really lousy, subpar, stunted parent.

Temporary or not, expectant fathers generally do not just go into "monk mode" for 9 months. So assuming she's not down, that means he must be taking care of business some how. Therefore Yes: she should be grateful about his choice here.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

So she's supposed to be grateful that he wants this crap?

Wow. Great way to make excuses for trash behavior, PP. You know he's not going to switch off this stuff the second OP births that baby.

An actually mature, thinking human being with some control over himself and an imagination can manage while waiting for the person he supposedly respects and loves, and without the aid of porn or IRL outside-the-marriage sex. Don't trot out the idiotic "But men are visual creatures and just have to have images for stimulation!" lecture. That makes it sound as if poor little men are such brainless automatons that they just can't function without porn. They can. People like you enable it with your "pregnancy makes it all OK" excuses.

+1. Pregnancy is a temporary situation. Can you imagine if a woman whose husband had, say, cancer said "oh well, guess I gotta go hop on a dating app and flirt with random dudes online since you're too sick for anything! Sorry, but I need nice dates and vacations to get off! You should appreciate it since now you don't have to do it yourself!" She'd be ripped apart.

If you can't deal with setting aside your own needs temporarily due to health reasons, you shouldn't get married.

+1

Honestly, or have kids. Because let's be real, anyone that impulsive and selfish is going to make a really lousy, subpar, stunted parent.

Temporary or not, expectant fathers generally do not just go into "monk mode" for 9 months. So assuming she's not down, that means he must be taking care of business some how. Therefore Yes: she should be grateful about his choice here.

Why can't he just take care of it himself? That's a reasonable response to the temporary issue. What you're suggesting is not.

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Where do we draw the line? That’s why I feel this only fans site is a huge slippery slope for marriages and relationships. When people are seeking out specific contacts and paying them for certain acts, I feel like there’s an emotional component? I don’t mean to judge people or their relationships, but does anyone else (even those who are okay with porn) feel that these types of apps are an entirely different thing? I would be devastated if my partner sought out specific men/women in this way.

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Anonymous wrote:Where do we draw the line? That’s why I feel this only fans site is a huge slippery slope for marriages and relationships. When people are seeking out specific contacts and paying them for certain acts, I feel like there’s an emotional component? I don’t mean to judge people or their relationships, but does anyone else (even those who are okay with porn) feel that these types of apps are an entirely different thing? I would be devastated if my partner sought out specific men/women in this way.

No. Most men are able to have actual sex with no emotional attachment, so at a remove it’s even easier.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be upset that I married someone dumb enough to use his regular email for porn sites.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

So she's supposed to be grateful that he wants this crap?

Wow. Great way to make excuses for trash behavior, PP. You know he's not going to switch off this stuff the second OP births that baby.

An actually mature, thinking human being with some control over himself and an imagination can manage while waiting for the person he supposedly respects and loves, and without the aid of porn or IRL outside-the-marriage sex. Don't trot out the idiotic "But men are visual creatures and just have to have images for stimulation!" lecture. That makes it sound as if poor little men are such brainless automatons that they just can't function without porn. They can. People like you enable it with your "pregnancy makes it all OK" excuses.

+1. Pregnancy is a temporary situation. Can you imagine if a woman whose husband had, say, cancer said "oh well, guess I gotta go hop on a dating app and flirt with random dudes online since you're too sick for anything! Sorry, but I need nice dates and vacations to get off! You should appreciate it since now you don't have to do it yourself!" She'd be ripped apart.

If you can't deal with setting aside your own needs temporarily due to health reasons, you shouldn't get married.

+1

Honestly, or have kids. Because let's be real, anyone that impulsive and selfish is going to make a really lousy, subpar, stunted parent.

Temporary or not, expectant fathers generally do not just go into "monk mode" for 9 months. So assuming she's not down, that means he must be taking care of business some how. Therefore Yes: she should be grateful about his choice here.

NP here. This makes me think of how Amish men will force their wives to have sex just hours after giving birth, no matter how traumatic it was.

Anyway, I’m sure PP would also advocate for women cheating on their husbands if their husbands are unable to give them an orgasm, right?

[Anonymous]

If I could make money jerking off on Open Fams, I am sure my wife would be OK with it. Not sure about the carrot in my but though/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can have Only Fans... I’ll take a pregnant woman any day of the week. SAF!

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Meh, I'm a woman and while I don't have an only fans account I watch porn and masturbate to it regularly - even with a healthy sex life with my DH. Sometimes I just want to get off alone. I would not pay for it but I wouldn't care if my DH did as long as it wasn't an excessive amount that would cause us financial stress. I think you just let it go and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh, I'm a woman and while I don't have an only fans account I watch porn and masturbate to it regularly - even with a healthy sex life with my DH. Sometimes I just want to get off alone. I would not pay for it but I wouldn't care if my DH did as long as it wasn't an excessive amount that would cause us financial stress. I think you just let it go and move on.

Hi, I have a question for you. It seems like you are both on board with porn in your marriage. If you DH found, say, “Jessica” on Only Fans and began to regularly set aside time to “meet” with Jessica daily/every other day and pay this specific women to perform certain acts just for him, would you feel differently? I genuinely curious because this app seems different to me than just basic porn. Curious what people think about this scenario since only fans seems to allow users to develop a sort of “relationship” with the content makers by taking request, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh, I'm a woman and while I don't have an only fans account I watch porn and masturbate to it regularly - even with a healthy sex life with my DH. Sometimes I just want to get off alone. I would not pay for it but I wouldn't care if my DH did as long as it wasn't an excessive amount that would cause us financial stress. I think you just let it go and move on.

Hi, I have a question for you. It seems like you are both on board with porn in your marriage. If you DH found, say, “Jessica” on Only Fans and began to regularly set aside time to “meet” with Jessica daily/every other day and pay this specific women to perform certain acts just for him, would you feel differently? I genuinely curious because this app seems different to me than just basic porn. Curious what people think about this scenario since only fans seems to allow users to develop a sort of “relationship” with the content makers by taking request, etc.

*if your DH found

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You all are ridiculous! I think my DH does that stuff I don't care if he looks and jerks off. One less BJ I have to give. HA!

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Anonymous wrote:You all are ridiculous! I think my DH does that stuff I don't care if he looks and jerks off. One less BJ I have to give. HA!

How long has he been using Only Fans and how much does he charge per month? Just curious