Just found out that husband is on Only Fans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Anthony Weiner had just waited 10 years he could have sent his d**k pics to these women and they wouldn't have given a flying f about sexual harassment.

His problem is he sent it to girls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently 8 months pregnant and I’m in a few pregnancy groups on Fb. There have been several posts over the last month about women finding messages from this site, husbands paying for explicit videos, etc. I had no idea what it was. So my husband is sitting right next to me and we are pretty open with our phones, we’ve never hid anything but I’ve also never looked. So i get his phone and search Only fans And sure enough he got an email confirmation YESTERDAY signing up for this. I didn’t do anymore digging... didn’t look at the app or messages, etc. The app itself didn’t pop up in search so maybe he deleted it (he says he did)

Anyway, I don’t know how to react. I don’t care if he looks at porn. I feel like it’s crossing the line when you are paying and interacting with specific women though. Like, there is a ton of free content out there. Why would he be on this site??

I’m feeling pretty sad 😔

I think you’re sexy. Hopefully that helps you from not feeling sad.

[Anonymous]

It’s a pandemic. He might be a cheater with no current way to meet in person so he’s using this for now. It’s quite possible he’s had physical contact in the past.

[Anonymous]

Is this really that much of a thing out there? Or is this just a back-handed way to promote this website by stirring up interest in it?

[Anonymous]

DH here, thanks for letting me know about this site. Never would have known if not for this forum. Signing up now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here, thanks for letting me know about this site. Never would have known if not for this forum. Signing up now.

Who cares? There's lots of simps like you around, a dime a dozen. No one is interested in your dick, that's why you have to pay for this service. At least do it in silence and leave normal people out of it.

[Anonymous]

First of all, I am sorry you are going through this. Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time, emotionally. The only thing that you can do is completely
Voice your feelings and opinions. It may be time for a reset sort of conversation. Usually we have these conversations at the beginning of relationships to establish our expectations and boundaries for the relationship. In long-term relationships, it is critical to continue to have these conversations over time. It’s okay to have different relationship expectations than other people here on DCUM. Many are okay with porn, and many are not okay with porn. You should be honest and tell your husband that paying for access to specific acts is not something you are okay with. Maybe he doesn’t know you are not okay with since you were already okay with porn?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH here, thanks for letting me know about this site. Never would have known if not for this forum. Signing up now.

Who cares? There's lots of simps like you around, a dime a dozen. No one is interested in your dick, that's why you have to pay for this service. At least do it in silence and leave normal people out of it.

Lol +1 😂

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Are you sure it's not spam, and that he really did sign up for the site? Kind of like how you read about something on DCUM, then find that the ads all hawk that item or service?

Oh yea he definitely signed up. As soon as I saw it I said something. He looked shocked, told me he was curious but already deleted it, asked me why I was going through his phone and then he started crying apologizing

Well, at least he feels remorse.

My sleezeball STBX has been caught numerous times having inappropriate relationships with women he works with, ex's, women he meets out at bars, etc. Not remorseful at all. Goes all deflect, blame me, bring up unrelated crap from 10 years ago, plays victim, stonewalls.

I'm pregnant, too.

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Are you sure it's not spam, and that he really did sign up for the site? Kind of like how you read about something on DCUM, then find that the ads all hawk that item or service?

Oh yea he definitely signed up. As soon as I saw it I said something. He looked shocked, told me he was curious but already deleted it, asked me why I was going through his phone and then he started crying apologizing

Well, at least he feels remorse.

My sleezeball STBX has been caught numerous times having inappropriate relationships with women he works with, ex's, women he meets out at bars, etc. Not remorseful at all. Goes all deflect, blame me, bring up unrelated crap from 10 years ago, plays victim, stonewalls.

I'm pregnant, too.

I’m sorry. This doesn’t sound like a good relationship. Why do you stay with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d go nuclear on him.

I did something similar when my H was being a creep while I was pregnant. We were on vacation, so I packed up, went home, and moved out. Didn’t move back in until I made it very clear that if it ever happened again, he would lose half his money, half his time with his child, and would never see me again.

I know people will say it’s too extreme but I’ve learned that men don’t GAF unless there are severe consequences. Act like a dog, get treated like one.

FYSA-- your husband will just be more careful the next time he cheats. The only thing your explosive reaction taught him is to be more careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

So she's supposed to be grateful that he wants this crap?

Wow. Great way to make excuses for trash behavior, PP. You know he's not going to switch off this stuff the second OP births that baby.

An actually mature, thinking human being with some control over himself and an imagination can manage while waiting for the person he supposedly respects and loves, and without the aid of porn or IRL outside-the-marriage sex. Don't trot out the idiotic "But men are visual creatures and just have to have images for stimulation!" lecture. That makes it sound as if poor little men are such brainless automatons that they just can't function without porn. They can. People like you enable it with your "pregnancy makes it all OK" excuses.

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Anonymous wrote:
Are you sure it's not spam, and that he really did sign up for the site? Kind of like how you read about something on DCUM, then find that the ads all hawk that item or service?

Oh yea he definitely signed up. As soon as I saw it I said something. He looked shocked, told me he was curious but already deleted it, asked me why I was going through his phone and then he started crying apologizing

Well, at least he feels remorse.

My sleezeball STBX has been caught numerous times having inappropriate relationships with women he works with, ex's, women he meets out at bars, etc. Not remorseful at all. Goes all deflect, blame me, bring up unrelated crap from 10 years ago, plays victim, stonewalls.

I'm pregnant, too.

I’m sorry. This doesn’t sound like a good relationship. Why do you stay with him?

DP. Note that the PP refers to him as her "STBX" (soon to be ex). It's so sad that they're breaking up with a baby on the way but that is far better than raising a child in a sham of a relationship. Doing that would model to the child that dad's behaviors are somehow acceptable.

I really, really hope all the women posting here about their experiences are getting tested for STDs. I figure the pregnant PP above would know if she had an STD, since she's seeing doctors frequently at this point, but....yeah, I'd still ask the doctor about whether there are STDs that wouldn't show without specific testing for them.

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Anonymous wrote:
Are you sure it's not spam, and that he really did sign up for the site? Kind of like how you read about something on DCUM, then find that the ads all hawk that item or service?

Oh yea he definitely signed up. As soon as I saw it I said something. He looked shocked, told me he was curious but already deleted it, asked me why I was going through his phone and then he started crying apologizing

Well, at least he feels remorse.

My sleezeball STBX has been caught numerous times having inappropriate relationships with women he works with, ex's, women he meets out at bars, etc. Not remorseful at all. Goes all deflect, blame me, bring up unrelated crap from 10 years ago, plays victim, stonewalls.

I'm pregnant, too.

I’m sorry. This doesn’t sound like a good relationship. Why do you stay with him?

DP. Note that the PP refers to him as her "STBX" (soon to be ex). It's so sad that they're breaking up with a baby on the way but that is far better than raising a child in a sham of a relationship. Doing that would model to the child that dad's behaviors are somehow acceptable.

I really, really hope all the women posting here about their experiences are getting tested for STDs. I figure the pregnant PP above would know if she had an STD, since she's seeing doctors frequently at this point, but....yeah, I'd still ask the doctor about whether there are STDs that wouldn't show without specific testing for them.

Thanks, I overlooked the STBX thing. Yeah, I agree. I just want other woman and young ladies to know that not all men are like this. And I agree about getting tested.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we assume OP that you are not having much sex with him these days due to your lack of interest? So I think you should appreciate the fact his alternative source is online and not IRL.

So she's supposed to be grateful that he wants this crap?

Wow. Great way to make excuses for trash behavior, PP. You know he's not going to switch off this stuff the second OP births that baby.

An actually mature, thinking human being with some control over himself and an imagination can manage while waiting for the person he supposedly respects and loves, and without the aid of porn or IRL outside-the-marriage sex. Don't trot out the idiotic "But men are visual creatures and just have to have images for stimulation!" lecture. That makes it sound as if poor little men are such brainless automatons that they just can't function without porn. They can. People like you enable it with your "pregnancy makes it all OK" excuses.

Absolutely. The whole idea that the only two options are to give your husband sex every single night or be thankful they have a porn addiction is absolutely ridiculous. At the same time, I do feel empathy for the people that have this perspective. There are so many great men out there that can function without porn or cheating. However, I don’t think we can expect a man or a woman to be happy in a sexless marriage. There is certainly a balance and both parties should try to understand their partners expectations and boundaries. More importantly, we need to have these conversations with our partners before pregnancy or marriage. This will help avoid conflict in the marriage over these topics.