Is it a marriage red flag when a couple only has one child? One daughter?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You must be from a backward country, where women aren’t valued and people aren’t free to make their own decisions regarding family size.

Welcome to the US and welcome to the 21st century.

Male heir carries the surname in the US as well. Daughters marry into other families, sons carry on the family legacy.

When I married, I kept my maiden name which is my dad’s last name. None of my brothers had kids. My girls have my dad’s last name hyphenated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two couples we're close with only have one daughter each. The gals are both entering 5th and 7th grade, so it seems the two couples are done with kids. Odd, yeah? I feel like a single child with one boy, the so called male heir, is less strange.

Really? Jesus they could have fertility issues.

[Anonymous]

There's a thing called fertility problems. Some people have it and can't get pregnant again. Or - shockingly - people are allowed to only have one child! Mind your own business. And get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of this judgmental bullshit.

My DH and I have been happily married for 18 years. We have a lovely 10 year old daughter. We also have spent over $100k trying to have a second child but IVF has not worked. We have lost very wanted pregnancies along the way.

This is tragic but it has made our marriage stronger. We are deeply grateful for our child and each other.

Stop thinking you know anything about anyone other than yourself. JUST STOP.

Now you're the wacko, PP. You could have adopted several children with that kind of money.

-- Mom of adopted boy and girl.

How kind of you to read about the difficulties my DH and I have been through and then take the opportunity to call me an ugly name. We did pursue adoption for a time and for reasons that are complex and personal, we concluded it was not the right path for us.

[Anonymous]

OP I need whatever you're smoking to get me through this pandemic. It seems like some gooooooood stuff!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of this judgmental bullshit.

My DH and I have been happily married for 18 years. We have a lovely 10 year old daughter. We also have spent over $100k trying to have a second child but IVF has not worked. We have lost very wanted pregnancies along the way.

This is tragic but it has made our marriage stronger. We are deeply grateful for our child and each other.

Stop thinking you know anything about anyone other than yourself. JUST STOP.

Now you're the wacko, PP. You could have adopted several children with that kind of money.

-- Mom of adopted boy and girl.

How kind of you to read about the difficulties my DH and I have been through and then take the opportunity to call me an ugly name. We did pursue adoption for a time and for reasons that are complex and personal, we concluded it was not the right path for us.

Judgy PP before you is an asshole pot-stirrer. Please just ignore. <3

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Wha??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be from a backward country, where women aren’t valued and people aren’t free to make their own decisions regarding family size.

Welcome to the US and welcome to the 21st century.

Male heir carries the surname in the US as well. Daughters marry into other families, sons carry on the family legacy.

Ours doesn't.

[Anonymous]

It's a red flag when a couple has terrible friends.

[Anonymous]

You sound simple and immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I (Single Moms by Choice) and all the friends i can think of who have "just" one child did it because that is what I/they could afford.

Speaking for myself, I wish I had adopted a sibling group instead of a singleton the first time around. I can't afford another adoption.

Oh please don't OP is talking about married people only having one child, the fact that single people are parenting one child will probably blow their mind and create a whole new thread because OP doesn't understand that a family may not be mom, dad and 2 children, a boy and a girl with a house in the suburbs with a white picket fence.

Op is probably having a heart attack just reading that. It's all too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound simple and immature.

+1. I think I recognize this poster as well and he comes across consistently as simple, immature, and often downright misogynistic. You can spot him by his use of "gals."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be from a backward country, where women aren’t valued and people aren’t free to make their own decisions regarding family size.

Welcome to the US and welcome to the 21st century.

Male heir carries the surname in the US as well. Daughters marry into other families, sons carry on the family legacy.

When I married, I kept my maiden name which is my dad’s last name. None of my brothers had kids. My girls have my dad’s last name hyphenated.

I deeply regret not giving my son my last name. He is the very last boy in the family line. I wasn't married when he was born but it didn't occur to me not to give him his father's name. The divorce was final only three weeks after my second was born, but I wanted the two to share a last name.

I still feel like an idiot and wish I'd followed your idea. I am a hyphenate professionally, but use my maiden name outside of that. I'm working on name changes for both of my children.

TLDR/ I should have listened to my mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you dumb or insane?

A troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be from a backward country, where women aren’t valued and people aren’t free to make their own decisions regarding family size.

Welcome to the US and welcome to the 21st century.

Male heir carries the surname in the US as well. Daughters marry into other families, sons carry on the family legacy.

When I married, I kept my maiden name which is my dad’s last name. None of my brothers had kids. My girls have my dad’s last name hyphenated.

I deeply regret not giving my son my last name. He is the very last boy in the family line. I wasn't married when he was born but it didn't occur to me not to give him his father's name. The divorce was final only three weeks after my second was born, but I wanted the two to share a last name.

I still feel like an idiot and wish I'd followed your idea. I am a hyphenate professionally, but use my maiden name outside of that. I'm working on name changes for both of my children.

TLDR/ I should have listened to my mother.

If the divorce wasn’t final for another 3 weeks, you were still legally married.