Is it a marriage red flag when a couple only has one child? One daughter?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah I literally don’t know anyone who was sad about having a girl. Try again, troll.

I know a few, but they are all from patriarchal cultural backgrounds and are mostly sad that their families don’t value their DDs. No one actually wishes their DD was a son instead. I have a friend who let her in-laws pressure her into aborting a girl during her first pregnancy and then she conceived a girl the second pregnancy as well. She and her DH moved away from his parents and went in to have two lovely girls.

Your friend is horrible for caving. That is unacceptable and her husband should have stuck up for her.

And you're horrible for judging her for what she did under unreasonable pressure.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but as the Marchioness of Walderhurst I am really obligated to give my husband an heir. You know how it is.

[Anonymous]

My only child is a daughter which I guess is a shame because she can’t inherit the massive fortune we’ve built up. If only we had a male heir to carry on the legacy of my DH and I, two school teachers.

[Anonymous]

A red flag for what, exactly? Not confirming to society’s expectations of the nuclear family? Deciding that they were satisfied with one child? Or having fertility issues that prevented them from expanding their family? What a rude comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two couples we're close with only have one daughter each. The gals are both entering 5th and 7th grade, so it seems the two couples are done with kids. Odd, yeah? I feel like a single child with one boy, the so called male heir, is less strange.

Sexist much?
WTF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hey everybody, Grandpa figured out how to use the internet.

It is a troll for sure.

But i love the comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two couples we're close with only have one daughter each. The gals are both entering 5th and 7th grade, so it seems the two couples are done with kids. Odd, yeah? I feel like a single child with one boy, the so called male heir, is less strange.

Are you serious?

Why is having a male child superior to having a female child?

You have NO IDEA if:
- The parents only intended to have one child.
- The parents tried to have more children, but struggled with infertility.
- The parents suffered pregnancy or infant loss.

It is NONE of your business, and is actually appalling that you think it is remotely appropriate to not only question this, but to post about it. Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

This post is why I support strong limits on immigration. These kinds of people never assimilate or at least integrate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is why I support strong limits on immigration. These kinds of people never assimilate or at least integrate.

Well, this thread certainly took a turn.

[Anonymous]

I (Single Moms by Choice) and all the friends i can think of who have "just" one child did it because that is what I/they could afford.

Speaking for myself, I wish I had adopted a sibling group instead of a singleton the first time around. I can't afford another adoption.

[Anonymous]

This is a troll, yeah?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of this judgmental bullshit.

My DH and I have been happily married for 18 years. We have a lovely 10 year old daughter. We also have spent over $100k trying to have a second child but IVF has not worked. We have lost very wanted pregnancies along the way.

This is tragic but it has made our marriage stronger. We are deeply grateful for our child and each other.

Stop thinking you know anything about anyone other than yourself. JUST STOP.

Now you're the wacko, PP. You could have adopted several children with that kind of money.

-- Mom of adopted boy and girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sick of this judgmental bullshit.

My DH and I have been happily married for 18 years. We have a lovely 10 year old daughter. We also have spent over $100k trying to have a second child but IVF has not worked. We have lost very wanted pregnancies along the way.

This is tragic but it has made our marriage stronger. We are deeply grateful for our child and each other.

Stop thinking you know anything about anyone other than yourself. JUST STOP.

Yep, most people I know who have one daughter (or one son) stopped at one because the second IVF or adoption didn't work out.

It means nothing.

[Anonymous]

You are nuts, OP.

DH and I wanted one child and we desperately wanted a daughter. That’s what we have. Why don’t you go get a life?!

[Anonymous]

I don't find that odd at all. But, I do find your weird investment in their life choices extremely bizarre.