Is it a marriage red flag when a couple only has one child? One daughter?

[Anonymous]

My friend changed the last name of her 4 children to her last name. She and hubby decided his was too difficult to pronounce and spell and hers was - well -- a great name ! They put his last name as their middle name.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

NP, but we do live in different worlds. I don’t pass judgement on people who have difficult choices to make between adoption and fertility treatments and choose fertility treatments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

You should be thankful that an empathy evaluation wasn’t part of the adoption process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

You should be thankful that an empathy evaluation wasn’t part of the adoption process.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two couples we're close with only have one daughter each. The gals are both entering 5th and 7th grade, so it seems the two couples are done with kids. Odd, yeah? I feel like a single child with one boy, the so called male heir, is less strange.

That's a really weird thing for you to be worrying about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend changed the last name of her 4 children to her last name. She and hubby decided his was too difficult to pronounce and spell and hers was - well -- a great name ! They put his last name as their middle name.

Cringe.

[Anonymous]

Only daughter here. It’s not strange. You are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

NP. I did IVF. I had several stages I was willing to go through. 1. wanting our genes. 2. if that doesn't work trying sperm or egg donor because I really wanted to carry a pregnancy. 3. moving on to surrogate. Everyone has different choices and budgets. I wasn't trying to get the cheapest kids I could. International adoption is problematic too.

[Anonymous]

No male heir!

[Anonymous]

OP, you are bizarre. Just a really creepy, stunted person.

I had no idea anyone in the Western world thought like this. I hope you don't have any children, ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted our *3* kids internationally and we spent far less than 100K. I too can't understand anyone blowing the family fortune on IVF -- and perhaps not even getting a family in the end. Guess we live in different worlds.

There are a lot of issues with this post that other people have commented on, but you make adoption seem so easy. I have friends who have been on adoption lists for years with no results ( no they are not picky about gender, race, etc.). I also have a friend who adopted an infant and a few months in the birth mother changed her mind and took the child back. It destroyed my friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two couples we're close with only have one daughter each. The gals are both entering 5th and 7th grade, so it seems the two couples are done with kids. Odd, yeah? I feel like a single child with one boy, the so called male heir, is less strange.

Male heir..hahahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend changed the last name of her 4 children to her last name. She and hubby decided his was too difficult to pronounce and spell and hers was - well -- a great name ! They put his last name as their middle name.

Cringe.

Why cringe?

[Anonymous]

Our friends, happily married 25 years, have one daughter, their only child. I won’t dignify your ridiculous post by explaining why they have one child rather than more, but suffice to say it has no effect on the state of their marriage. I’d say they’re one of the most happily married couples I know.