Is refusing to date or marry outside of your race/culture considered racism?
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Anonymous
| I don’t know and don’t care. I only want to be with people who want me so it matters not one bit to me the reason I am not the choice of those who don’t want me. |
Anonymous
| I don't think it's racism any more than choosing a partner based on any other physical criteria is--weight, athleticism, age, hair color etc. People gravitate toward certain things and skin color is just one of them. |
Anonymous
I don’t think attraction to gender and race are the same thing. I think gender attraction is predetermined and biological, and not changeable. I don’t really think attraction based on race is something easily changed either, but I do think these type of preferences (for race, height, hair color, etc) are unconsciously formed based on early experiences and socialization, rather than biologically predetermined in the womb like gender preference is. So no, I don’t think this is a “gotcha”. |
Anonymous
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I'm going to say that this is part of why there is so much divorce. It is one thing to say you will only marry people who share values with you-- that is a good thing. It is another thing to say that you will only marry a person of a certain race or that a person of another race cannot share your background or values. I know a woman who is ethnically Korean and raised by an American Italian family from childhood. I know black kids raised in white suburbia. I know Indian, Korean, Lebanese, Brazilian, Mexican, Syrian and Colombians who share many of the same values and even religion even though their food and language may be different. As far as attraction - I wouldn't marry someone I'm not attracted to but a good connection makes a person grow in attraction for me and most women. (There are studies about this.)
I also think that sharing a specific religion is less important if you don't plan on having kids or are marrying for a second time, with grown kids. Many people are willing to live with someone and respect their religion and their practice of religion but when it comes to kids, they want to raise kids in their own religion. I like to fill my life with good people and I've found good people of all different backgrounds. Dismissing people outright because of race is just making your world smaller. |
Anonymous
The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist? If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific. |
Anonymous
Yes. But not all religions accept converts. |
Anonymous
By definition, Black people can't be racist. |
Anonymous
Only in Orwell's world. |
Anonymous
+1000 Not possible. |
Anonymous
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I don't think you should tell your own children who they can marry or date.
If I had married someone of another race, my kids would not look like me. In reality, that might not have been the case, but that's how I felt when I was dating. I think if I were dark haired and dark eyed, I'd have an easier time intermixing with various races. It's not that I don't find other races attractive. I just felt my genes would be visually wiped out. |
Anonymous
Explain this? So a white woman who refuses to date a black man is racist, but a black man who refuses to date a white woman is not. Is that what you're saying? |
Anonymous
+1000. PP is both hilarious and delusional. |
Anonymous
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Don’t give a shit who you fantasize about.
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Anonymous
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No.
It’s discrimination. But most discriminatory is perfectly fine. You have every right to discriminate in this manner. |
Anonymous
Oh but they can be.... |