Is refusing to date or marry outside of your race/culture considered racism?

[Anonymous]

I was only attracted to people of my own race and religion to marry and have kids with. I have friends from many races and religion and while I am close to them and enjoy their culture, I wanted to pass on my own culture to my children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just being honest, the Indian kids at my DD’s high school only sat with one another at school. They spoke in Hindu to each other. They weren’t allowed to hang around with “other” kids outside of school, let alone date them.

Your ignorance is showing. Hindu is a religion and a person who follows Hinduism. The language that some Indians speak is Hindi. There are many Indian languages and I can assure you that most of the kids are not speaking their mother tongue outside of their home and outside of their family group.

There are no Indian kids at your daughter's school. They are Indian Americans. The reason that they are not hanging out with other kids is that they are focussed academically. They do hang out with kids from other races who are into academics, scholastic endeavors or EC activities. My Indian-American HS kid has a close group of kids who are from all colors and (gasp!) all political leanings - but they all are good well behaved kids and come from families that prioritize learning. All are liked very much by the teachers.

Trust me, if any Indian-American kids do not hang out with some kids, it is less to do with their race and more to do with their character.

PP here. You proved my point. It’s past tense btw-her school had class rank and she was ranked above those kids (she was in the top 2% of the class). They weren’t Indian Americans; they all came directly from India in the last ~7-9 years. I’m just sharing her experience-they did not hang out with kids of “other” colors. Your experience doesn’t cancel out my child’s. She was assigned to work on group projects with many of them and they spoke in their mother tongue in class the whole time. This was a “diverse” high school with kids from hundreds of countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was only attracted to people of my own race and religion to marry and have kids with. I have friends from many races and religion and while I am close to them and enjoy their culture, I wanted to pass on my own culture to my children.

So gross and provincial.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes to answer your question - its racism.

So now I'm a racist because I am not attracted to people of a different race. OK, you folks have gone off the deep end. This is getting ridiculous.

Yeah that is a little crazy. I am not at all attracted to asian guys. I'm not racist and can be friends with anyone.

Uh, you pretty much defined a trait a racism by saying you’re not attracted to Asian guys.

Guess what?

You’re racist!!


Betcha didn’t know that about yourself, did you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is a student at a NE college, and a lot of students will only date/marry their own race or culture, which is surprising to him, being raised here in the dc area, and it started an interesting dinner table conversation yesterday. Im curious what others think.

Is it racism for people to refuse themselves or to refuse to allow their children to date or marry outside their race/culture?

If it is you or your children's own decision I think that is ok. But if you cut your kid off for dating a Black kid than you are racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just being honest, the Indian kids at my DD’s high school only sat with one another at school. They spoke in Hindu to each other. They weren’t allowed to hang around with “other” kids outside of school, let alone date them.

Hindu is a religion, not a language idiot. Maybe your daughter is stupid as you, and that’s why they didn’t hang out with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes to answer your question - its racism.

So now I'm a racist because I am not attracted to people of a different race. OK, you folks have gone off the deep end. This is getting ridiculous.

Yeah that is a little crazy. I am not at all attracted to asian guys. I'm not racist and can be friends with anyone.

Uh, you pretty much defined a trait a racism by saying you’re not attracted to Asian guys.

Guess what?

You’re racist!!


Betcha didn’t know that about yourself, did you?

That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it sexist to refuse to date or marry someone of a particular sex?

I do wonder sometimes why women (who tend to be more sexually fluid) don’t date other women more often. I hear a lot about curiosity and experimentation, but it’s usually focused on sexy and not on romance. I think even when women are open to bisexuality, they seem to look for heterosexual romance. I don’t understand enjoying kissing another woman but not dating her. That does sound homophobic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes to answer your question - its racism.

So now I'm a racist because I am not attracted to people of a different race. OK, you folks have gone off the deep end. This is getting ridiculous.

Yeah that is a little crazy. I am not at all attracted to asian guys. I'm not racist and can be friends with anyone.

Uh, you pretty much defined a trait a racism by saying you’re not attracted to Asian guys.

Guess what?

You’re racist!!


Betcha didn’t know that about yourself, did you?

That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

You DO owe everyone a fair chance at being judged by their personal characteristics and their personality and not their race.

It is not racism to say Bob is a jerk or Bob is bald
Is IS racism to say that Bob is automatically unattractive because he is Asian/Indian/White/Black/Hispanic/etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just being honest, the Indian kids at my DD’s high school only sat with one another at school. They spoke in Hindu to each other. They weren’t allowed to hang around with “other” kids outside of school, let alone date them.

Hindu is a religion, not a language idiot. Maybe your daughter is stupid as you, and that’s why they didn’t hang out with her.

I'm not the PP you're responding to, but autocorrect has turned Hindi into Hindu on my phone in the past. I have friends who speak Hindi with their kids so it's come up.

Just saying.

Typical of DCUM though to jump on any poster who makes a one-letter error and to assume it's a vicious plot rather than possibly just an innocuous mistake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes to answer your question - its racism.

So now I'm a racist because I am not attracted to people of a different race. OK, you folks have gone off the deep end. This is getting ridiculous.

Yeah that is a little crazy. I am not at all attracted to asian guys. I'm not racist and can be friends with anyone.

Uh, you pretty much defined a trait a racism by saying you’re not attracted to Asian guys.

Guess what?

You’re racist!!


Betcha didn’t know that about yourself, did you?

That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

You DO owe everyone a fair chance at being judged by their personal characteristics and their personality and not their race.

It is not racism to say Bob is a jerk or Bob is bald
Is IS racism to say that Bob is automatically unattractive because he is Asian/Indian/White/Black/Hispanic/etc

Sure, for employment, for housing, for education, absolutely. For respectful treatment every time I encounter that person, certainly. For dating? No. I don’t owe anyone my time or my body. This line of argument is appalling.

[Anonymous]

This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it sexist to refuse to date or marry someone of a particular sex?

I do wonder sometimes why women (who tend to be more sexually fluid) don’t date other women more often. I hear a lot about curiosity and experimentation, but it’s usually focused on sexy and not on romance. I think even when women are open to bisexuality, they seem to look for heterosexual romance. I don’t understand enjoying kissing another woman but not dating her. That does sound homophobic.

So you think...it's homophobic to be straight? Or only homophobic if you admit to curiosity but then don't follow through physically--? Or if you do follow through physically but don't want romance and a relationship?

Why would a straight woman date other women? I think you think straight women are more "fluid" than they really are.