Wapo Date Lab: Daters say they don’t tolerate racial bias. Their actions say otherwise

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I think most of us agree this whole concept is nonsense. Question is: why did the Post run this article and why are we giving it oxygen by discussing it? Sort of like the Tom Toles story. We are at fault for inflaming this

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

No, what's ridiculous (this is the proper spelling of that word, by the way) is to say that you're not attracted to Black men, for example. Because the only thing that all Black men have in common is being "Black". And maybe having a penis. But there's a vast array of different body types, height, hair types, and skin colors among Black men. Not to mention that each Black man is a unique individual, with his own personality, intellect, sense of humor, and sensitivity. To summarily dismiss "Black men" as a monolith to which you are not attracted is racist.

I summarily dismiss the same gender as me since I am not attracted to them. And I dismiss certain hair length believe it or not, even in my race. That doesn't mean I don't see all of the above as equal. I don't need to sleep with everyone to prove my what used to be considered liberal bonafide

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Anonymous wrote:I think most of us agree this whole concept is nonsense. Question is: why did the Post run this article and why are we giving it oxygen by discussing it? Sort of like the Tom Toles story. We are at fault for inflaming this

As much as I know we need to support journalism, I unsubscribed to the Post after that viscously awful Toles story, and this confirms it. Idiocracy comes to the left, after it devoured the right in 2016

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Anonymous wrote:I think most of us agree this whole concept is nonsense. Question is: why did the Post run this article and why are we giving it oxygen by discussing it? Sort of like the Tom Toles story. We are at fault for inflaming this

As much as I know we need to support journalism, I unsubscribed to the Post after that viscously awful Toles story, and this confirms it. Idiocracy comes to the left, after it devoured the right in 2016

The Post is journalism no more.

They should pay US to read their nonsense and enable their ad money.

[Anonymous]

I think people who say that they aren't attracted to people of a certain race are, in fact, racist, because not everyone of a certain race looks the same. It's one thing to say you prefer blondes or tall men or people with darker skin tones, but you can find people with those qualities in any race. (Yes, there are naturally blonde Black people.) If it's really about the physical traits, you would be willing to date someone of any race with that trait or combination of traits.

And it's always worth examining your supposedly innate preferences to see whether they are truly innate or whether they are based on stereotypes and assumptions about what people of certain races look like or are interested in.

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Anonymous wrote:White guy here. There are plenty of black women who I find attractive, but frankly they intimidate me because I know they deal with a whole lot of emotional / personal / professional problems that I can’t even begin to imagine, so it is certain that they are stronger than me.

Oh goodness, I love this. Love, love, love it as a POC who grew up in a stable home with parents still married and never was exposed to drinking, drugs, or infidelity. I did have the problem of paying for college but earned scholarships for undergrad and grad. Said earlier I have dated black, white, Hispanic, and Asian men. The biggest problem I have had in a few relationships was libido mismatch. College boyfriend who was black was low-libido. Hispanic man was the least...endowed. Best bedmate in terms of frequency, stamina, and size was the grad school boo.

No, no, no, I didn’t mean to imply all women of color are the products of broken dysfunctional homes. I am saying that I believe that someone like you, an educated professional, is still going to be a much stronger person than me, because frankly (to acknowledge my white male privilege) my life has not been tough.

I'm sure you're be able to find a nice "woke" woman to hold your balls in her purse.

Nah, I avoid liberal white suburban crazy women, who are pretty much everything that’s wrong with this country.

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Anonymous wrote:Colin Farrell every day and twice on Sunday. Who would not?

He looks like a heroin addict to me.

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Anonymous wrote:White guy here. There are plenty of black women who I find attractive, but frankly they intimidate me because I know they deal with a whole lot of emotional / personal / professional problems that I can’t even begin to imagine, so it is certain that they are stronger than me.

Oh goodness, I love this. Love, love, love it as a POC who grew up in a stable home with parents still married and never was exposed to drinking, drugs, or infidelity. I did have the problem of paying for college but earned scholarships for undergrad and grad. Said earlier I have dated black, white, Hispanic, and Asian men. The biggest problem I have had in a few relationships was libido mismatch. College boyfriend who was black was low-libido. Hispanic man was the least...endowed. Best bedmate in terms of frequency, stamina, and size was the grad school boo.

No, no, no, I didn’t mean to imply all women of color are the products of broken dysfunctional homes. I am saying that I believe that someone like you, an educated professional, is still going to be a much stronger person than me, because frankly (to acknowledge my white male privilege) my life has not been tough.

Question to White Guy: Do you have a hard time getting dates, or sustaining real relationships with women? If so, I can tell you why.

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Anonymous wrote:White guy here. There are plenty of black women who I find attractive, but frankly they intimidate me because I know they deal with a whole lot of emotional / personal / professional problems that I can’t even begin to imagine, so it is certain that they are stronger than me.

That isn't the case at all. Black women are just like other women. Give it a shot, you'll see.

Signed, white guy who dates black women

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Anonymous wrote:People would make fun of white women who dated non-white men. And I've heard a LOT of guys say they would never date a woman who had been with a black man (although they would all happily sleep with Beyonce)

I have never heard that once in my life, and I am an old white man with lots of male friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people who say that they aren't attracted to people of a certain race are, in fact, racist, because not everyone of a certain race looks the same. It's one thing to say you prefer blondes or tall men or people with darker skin tones, but you can find people with those qualities in any race. (Yes, there are naturally blonde Black people.) If it's really about the physical traits, you would be willing to date someone of any race with that trait or combination of traits.

And it's always worth examining your supposedly innate preferences to see whether they are truly innate or whether they are based on stereotypes and assumptions about what people of certain races look like or are interested in.

I have never actively chosen who I am attracted to. It just happens. How can something I literally have no control over make me a racist?

[Anonymous]

This thread is absurd. I don't owe a date to anyone. This whole thing reeks of grooming, that people should be open to dating anyone regardless of their level of attraction, lest they be called a racist. That's not how it should work.

[Anonymous]

I'm a black woman divorced from a black man but out of 10 black women friends, 7 are married to white men. For all but one they were the first black woman their now-husband had dated. I know because we have talked about this. The men said before dating their wives they had assumed black women didn't date white men. This is anecdotal obviously, but it seems that lots of people are ASSuming that people of a different race are not interested in them (the story talks about this and a poster on the first page commented on this) and cutting the conversation off before it can begin.

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Meh some of us (white people) are only attracted to POC, so it all evens out.

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Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. I have been friends with men of all shapes and colors, but I am not physically attracted to all shapes and colors. I am not physically attracted to blondes (Brad Pitt does nothing for me) and I am not physically attracted to black men either. This does not mean that I think many blond and black men are not objectively attractive, I am just not personally attracted to them. And the author explains this is all because of my "unconscious bias." Really tired of all of these articles trying to make a case of racism out of everything.

And yet, you probably vote for Democrats who encourage this line of thinking

Because over the top anti-racism like Democrats display is merely silly, whereas over the top racism like the Republicans display is morally corrupt and lethal.

Odd how all that lethal racism is happening in Democrat-controlled cities and states but somehow Republicans are to blame anyway... 🤔🤔🤔