Wapo Date Lab: Daters say they don’t tolerate racial bias. Their actions say otherwise

[Anonymous]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/date-labdaters-say-they-dont-tolerate-racial-bias-their-actions-say-they-do-have-racial-preferences/2020/06/18/0d1eace4-a039-11ea-9590-1858a893bd59_story.html

"My industry has allowed daters who claim to be friendly advocates of black people to hide racial bias under the guise of dating preferences for far too long."

[Anonymous]

Before moving to D.C. for college I always assumed that no white man who had access to eligible white women would want to get serious with a black woman. I was proven wrong again and again. I do think that some people who would, in theory, prefer to date a white person actually have a set of other preferences that they mistakenly associate with whiteness. I suspect that quite a few people, Gen X and younger, are more open than they think when they meet the 'right' person.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

This. You literally do not choose who you are attracted to.

[Anonymous]

I never dated anyone blonde. Does that make me biased against Scandinavians?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/date-labdaters-say-they-dont-tolerate-racial-bias-their-actions-say-they-do-have-racial-preferences/2020/06/18/0d1eace4-a039-11ea-9590-1858a893bd59_story.html

"My industry has allowed daters who claim to be friendly advocates of black people to hide racial bias under the guise of dating preferences for far too long."

I am a friendly advocate of gay people and I don't date gay people. Shocking, I know, that those two concepts can exist.

This country is devolving between two idiot factions yelling at each other while the sane middle silently cries

[Anonymous]

I’m a divorced white guy. I am as open to being ignored by Women of Color on the dating apps as I am to being ignored by white women.

[Anonymous]

You don’t get to tell people who they can be attracted to. You don’t get to make “dating a different race” a requirement of Date Lab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before moving to D.C. for college I always assumed that no white man who had access to eligible white women would want to get serious with a black woman. I was proven wrong again and again. I do think that some people who would, in theory, prefer to date a white person actually have a set of other preferences that they mistakenly associate with whiteness. I suspect that quite a few people, Gen X and younger, are more open than they think when they meet the 'right' person.

I see this in the black community as well when black men will claim that they can’t find a black woman interested in x, y, x, even when black women interested in those things actually outnumber black men. I saw this growing up with two of my cousins. And again in college. But it was not until I was in my 30s and in online communities or going to cons that it became glaringly obvious. Black men would ignore the existence of black womenswear in their fandoms. It was really a big deal when I met DH (we’re self-described black nerds) and realized that ALL of his AA male friends in our shared interest community were married to white or Asian women. A few had never dated a black woman and claimed that there aren’t any AA women where they meet women. And I’m standing right there pointing out 15 other black women in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

This. You literally do not choose who you are attracted to.

You are socialized to prefer one skin color over another.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. I have been friends with men of all shapes and colors, but I am not physically attracted to all shapes and colors. I am not physically attracted to blondes (Brad Pitt does nothing for me) and I am not physically attracted to black men either. This does not mean that I think many blond and black men are not objectively attractive, I am just not personally attracted to them. And the author explains this is all because of my "unconscious bias." Really tired of all of these articles trying to make a case of racism out of everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

This. You literally do not choose who you are attracted to.

You are socialized to prefer one skin color over another.

Wrong. Are you socialized to prefer thin people? No, it's evolutionary.

[Anonymous]

This article is ridiculous. It told me that there is actually more racial bias in dating preference from one race, but then stated a bunch of excuses for that and turned around and lectured another race.

And also, part of what is maddening about this current time is that this country is not only black and white! I swear, you would think only two races exist in the United States.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, attraction is hard wired. It's rediculous to say I am racist for being attracted to certain races as it is to say I am only attracted to people who are in shape, or to full hair vs bald, large vs small cheated women, fat vs thin. Gay people are born this way, as it is for body features which includes skin tone.

This. You literally do not choose who you are attracted to.

You are socialized to prefer one skin color over another.

Even if true, so what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. I have been friends with men of all shapes and colors, but I am not physically attracted to all shapes and colors. I am not physically attracted to blondes (Brad Pitt does nothing for me) and I am not physically attracted to black men either. This does not mean that I think many blond and black men are not objectively attractive, I am just not personally attracted to them. And the author explains this is all because of my "unconscious bias." Really tired of all of these articles trying to make a case of racism out of everything.

And yet, you probably vote for Democrats who encourage this line of thinking