Husband leaves room to talk to MIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

[Anonymous]

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soexcited123 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my mom calls I usually leave the room unless I'm in the middle of a project that can only be done in that room (like if I'm cooking I stay in the kitchen). I figure my wife will find it easier to read, watch TV, listen to music, whatever else she was doing. If my mom called with a question that involves my my wife (like when we're free to get together) or something else my wife needs to know about right away, I'll come back out and tell her.

My wife calls her parents almost every day when walking to the metro. If I'm ready at the same time we'll both be there when she calls; if we walk separately I don't care if she talks to her parents without me. I trust her. If I'm bugging her and she wants to tell her parents that, it's ok with me, though I don't think that's what they spend most of their time discussing! Besides, if my wife were keeping a big secret from me, I doubt she'd tell her parents about it.

I guess it's a worry that my husband is confiding in his mom about an issue we are having in our marriage and I would rather him go to me about it or an unbiased party such as a counselor. I like to keep any issues between us. Yes before anyone asks I apply the same rule for myself as well. I don't confide in my parents or ask for advice about issues in our marriage

As a former MIL (my son has been divorced for five years) I can tell you what they are talking about: You.

You might think this is inappropriate or whatever but you know why he's doing it. There are issues in the marriage and much as you would wish he would just address them with you he has decided to confide in his mother and get counsel from her.

So, there you go. Good luck.

Maybe that's why your son is divorced

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

Haha actually no. It was your responses that certified how insane you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

Haha actually no. It was your responses that certified how insane you are.

This is OP,

How were my responses insane?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

Haha actually no. It was your responses that certified how insane you are.

You can't go by responses on here to determine how I respond with my husband. I told you I simply told him it bothers me if after all the years we spent together and everything we been through together that is a deal breaker than that's crazy. I just talked to him again and he said it is just a habit to go out of the room and that his mom was saying that once every other Friday she wants dinner with just him and his sister and leaving me out. His sister isn't married or dating any one. He said oh that won't work for me and soexcited123 and she said oh I don't want her there. He said he has been trying to address why she doesn't include me as part of the family and like an outsider when we are married and therefore she is family and should be included in family dinners and whatnot. He also addressed how she doesn't acknowledge my birthday and he said he didn't wanna upset me by having me hear them arguing. His mom can't accept her son is a grown man with a wife even though she had plenty of time to get used to it we been together almost 15 yesrs for petes sake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

Haha actually no. It was your responses that certified how insane you are.

You can't go by responses on here to determine how I respond with my husband. I told you I simply told him it bothers me if after all the years we spent together and everything we been through together that is a deal breaker than that's crazy. I just talked to him again and he said it is just a habit to go out of the room and that his mom was saying that once every other Friday she wants dinner with just him and his sister and leaving me out. His sister isn't married or dating any one. He said oh that won't work for me and soexcited123 and she said oh I don't want her there. He said he has been trying to address why she doesn't include me as part of the family and like an outsider when we are married and therefore she is family and should be included in family dinners and whatnot. He also addressed how she doesn't acknowledge my birthday and he said he didn't wanna upset me by having me hear them arguing. His mom can't accept her son is a grown man with a wife even though she had plenty of time to get used to it we been together almost 15 yesrs for petes sake.

Why would she acknowledge your birthday?

[Anonymous]

I think it's very telling you have been together 15 years, but only married the last 2.

[Anonymous]

Do you have siblings OP? Do you not do things just with them?

My sisters and I and our mom sometimes have lunch and dinner together no husbands.

Husbands also can their moms and talk privately and visit them without the wives.

[Anonymous]

I think it's kind of weird. Any why is it always mommy? My DH calls his dad way more. I call my mom way more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's very telling you have been together 15 years, but only married the last 2.

What does that have to do with anything? If anything the fact that we been together so long is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have siblings OP? Do you not do things just with them?

My sisters and I and our mom sometimes have lunch and dinner together no husbands.

Husbands also can their moms and talk privately and visit them without the wives.

Ok but usually grown men don't have that much in common with their mom usually girls talk privately with mom about girly things and vice versa with guys and their dads. Also please give me an example of something a husband might want to talk to privately with his mom and not his wife? I usually don't hear grown men telling their mom their deepest darkest secrets

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's very telling you have been together 15 years, but only married the last 2.

What does that have to do with anything? If anything the fact that we been together so long is a good thing.

He married you as a last resort. Kept you around because his options weren't great, figured he had to after all this time.

You know this deep, down which is why you are so insecure and force the " I'm his wife" thing and constant togetherness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is probably helping DH divorce you. He definitely needs to escape from your abusive, controlling, and psychotic behavior

You got all that from one post I made about telling my husband it make me feel weird that he walks away to take phone calls with his mom. Boy that's quite the leap to make off of one post and one request to my husband.

Haha actually no. It was your responses that certified how insane you are.

You can't go by responses on here to determine how I respond with my husband. I told you I simply told him it bothers me if after all the years we spent together and everything we been through together that is a deal breaker than that's crazy. I just talked to him again and he said it is just a habit to go out of the room and that his mom was saying that once every other Friday she wants dinner with just him and his sister and leaving me out. His sister isn't married or dating any one. He said oh that won't work for me and soexcited123 and she said oh I don't want her there. He said he has been trying to address why she doesn't include me as part of the family and like an outsider when we are married and therefore she is family and should be included in family dinners and whatnot. He also addressed how she doesn't acknowledge my birthday and he said he didn't wanna upset me by having me hear them arguing. His mom can't accept her son is a grown man with a wife even though she had plenty of time to get used to it we been together almost 15 yesrs for petes sake.

Why would she acknowledge your birthday?

That's the only thing you got out of what I said in my response? Because I'm her DIL. Im a member of her family and she goes all out for everyone else in the family including nieces she barely sees but her own DIL she sees a lot more often gets the shaft. Why is that even a question? If she wasn't one to celebrate birthdays that would be different but clearly she is a big bday person being that extended family all gets celebrated but I don't. Before you ask yes I acknowledge hers every year even when we were dating. I always texted her along with giving her a nice gift. My parents always acknowledge my husband as well never making him feel not part of the family

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's very telling you have been together 15 years, but only married the last 2.

What does that have to do with anything? If anything the fact that we been together so long is a good thing.

He married you as a last resort. Kept you around because his options weren't great, figured he had to after all this time.

You know this deep, down which is why you are so insecure and force the " I'm his wife" thing and constant togetherness.

Wow that's pretty rude and presumptuous considering your barely know me. Nope he could have broken up with me don't comment on things you know nothing about or make assumptions about what kind of gf and now wife I am. He obviously is still with me after all these years. Unless you been around us as a couple for all these years you really don't know.