Is it unethical/immoral/unChristian to leave my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I just want to say to OP that when you said you're "taking my vows seriously" has been rankling with me. If that were true, you'd never have divorced wife #1. Sorry. Truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want to say to OP that when you said you're "taking my vows seriously" has been rankling with me. If that were true, you'd never have divorced wife #1. Sorry. Truth.

Well that's the thing - I feel unbearable guilt about #1 so just up and leaving #2 is messing with my head.

What good is my word? My promise? My promise before God?

Then again, this entire situation is a complete and utter disaster. So how does that play into everything?

[Anonymous]

Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to get a job.

You guys need Financial Peace. It's never too late for Dave Ramsey.

No jobs to be had now. And in any event she doesn’t have a degree or any valuable skills to speak of :/

I’m going to lose my pay, maybe my job, and then I’m immediately screwed because I have no savings. And the decision will be do I leave - and burden my elderly parents and leave everyone homeless - or go down with the ship.

I am a total failure.

Walmart is a job; even in a rural area.

Walmart distribution centers are built in rural areas. Amazon distribution centers build in rural areas. Wife can do baby sitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

And how do I reconcile her behavior with basically acting as a private nurse for me for years?

I'm losing my mind over this

[Anonymous]

Memory issues--eat protein, eat fats, avacados, olive oil, eat veggies, eat fruits. Eat walnuts-unprocessed and other nuts unprocessed. Eat some carbs, sweet potatoes, rice, potato,

Eat nothing processed. Many can get 25 - 30% improvement through diet. Eat nothing out of packages. Eat nothing with ingredient lists on them. Eat from mother nature.

Eliminate all sugar.

Take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

And how do I reconcile her behavior with basically acting as a private nurse for me for years?

I'm losing my mind over this

Is there someone you can talk to local about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

And how do I reconcile her behavior with basically acting as a private nurse for me for years?

I'm losing my mind over this

Is there someone you can talk to local about this?

I have no insurance so no therapists/docs :/

No connections to church bc I watch it online (the noise/crowd was overwhelming).

Lost "the friends" mostly in the divorce.

I am alone and broke and rapidly unwinding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate the thoughts but I have no assets to speak of. House is for sale and I might lose it to foreclosure. Small 401k. A few thousand dollars worth of personal possessions.

I'm absolutely doomed and my anxiety is unbearable today.

You make $200K per year. Take your paycheck and start putting it into those protected assets I spoke of. Talk the bankruptcy attorney about the best way to stop paying your creditors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

And how do I reconcile her behavior with basically acting as a private nurse for me for years?

I'm losing my mind over this

Is there someone you can talk to local about this?

I have no insurance so no therapists/docs :/

No connections to church bc I watch it online (the noise/crowd was overwhelming).

Lost "the friends" mostly in the divorce.

I am alone and broke and rapidly unwinding

NAMI hotline and chat function exists as you’ve been told multiple times, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, generally in cases of one or more of the three "A"s, divorce is more acceptable: Abuse, Adultery, Addiction

It sounds like per previous thread your wife is abusive so
there is that.

And how do I reconcile her behavior with basically acting as a private nurse for me for years?

I'm losing my mind over this

Is there someone you can talk to local about this?

I have no insurance so no therapists/docs :/

No connections to church bc I watch it online (the noise/crowd was overwhelming).

Lost "the friends" mostly in the divorce.

I am alone and broke and rapidly unwinding

NAMI hotline and chat function exists as you’ve been told multiple times, troll.

I did call per my other thread. On the phone for almost an hour. Didn't talk too much about the financial stuff, just kids.

And now that I have more compelling reasons to do what I think ought to be done I don't know how to accomplish it and actually do it.

[Anonymous]

OP, what possessed you to support these kids? Do you expect them to care for you in old age? I don't think so and they won't.

[Anonymous]

If you're not a troll, you are a codependent relationship martyr. Only you can change your life.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe OP's story because how can someone make $200K in a remote area???? Working from home too???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OP's story because how can someone make $200K in a remote area???? Working from home too???

Remote like 1.25 - 1.5 hours outside DC. Yes I work from home. Although that might be ending very soon and then I don’t know what will happen.