Should I reject him or schedule another date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

This guy is amazing and has a great, easy going personality. However, I don’t feel physical attraction towards him.

I guess the reason for this might be that he’s not my ‘type’. I’m attracted to tall, slender men. This guy on the other hand is short and stocky. I don’t mean to sound shallow, but I’m just not attracted to that body type at all.

I feel that I need my man to be way taller than me. I’m attracted to tall men. With this guy, I’m trying to focus on his great personality force myself to look past his body structure, but unconsciously I can’t help it.

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not (please let me know). The last date I felt we were in the friend zone. The reason I feel repulsed is because I see him as someone like my dad’s friend, rather than a future sexual and romantic partner. I can’t picture him as being my future husband,

Des this make me sound awful and am I being unreasonable?

You are totally reasonable, because in reality he has preferences too. He most probably wouldn't be attracted to a woman bigger and taller than him, so don't feel bad.

I think the biggest problem here is that you feel repulsed. It is one thing to not be attracted and another to feel repulsed. There is hope if you think that a person is likable, cute, but you just don't feel the spark. There is 0 hope he will grow on you if you are repulsed by a thought of kissing him.

No, she is not totally reasonable. She is repulsed by a guy because he’s not a statistical anomaly - much taller than her. If another guy claimed to be repulsed by any woman who wasn’t statistically abnormal in appearance, I certainly wouldn’t pat him on the back and tell him he was being reasonable.

[Anonymous]

It’s reasonable because we like what we like - but it’s a shame. I prefer short and stocky to tall and slender. Chemistry is chemistry, and it’s not a choice. Repulsion can’t be overcome so whether or not you’re being “reasonable” is beside the point. It’s too bad, because he sounds like a great guy - and he should be free to find one of the possibly many people who will appreciate his personality AND his body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s reasonable because we like what we like - but it’s a shame. I prefer short and stocky to tall and slender. Chemistry is chemistry, and it’s not a choice. Repulsion can’t be overcome so whether or not you’re being “reasonable” is beside the point. It’s too bad, because he sounds like a great guy - and he should be free to find one of the possibly many people who will appreciate his personality AND his body.

I have no preference. I've loved them them all. Extremely obese, no, because there is something very wrong with them to allow that. But somebody with a great personality/character, I found them very hot even if not society's objective version of beauty. That person became the most beautiful person on the planet and none other could turn my head.

[Anonymous]

It’s reasonable because we like what we like

“I’m holding out for a guy who is 6-5, has one blue and one brown eye, and loves Latvian opera. I don’t know how to meet any men like that though. But my standards are reasonable because I like what I like.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s reasonable because we like what we like

“I’m holding out for a guy who is 6-5, has one blue and one brown eye, and loves Latvian opera. I don’t know how to meet any men like that though. But my standards are reasonable because I like what I like.”

If you're into BDSM, I'm your match.

[Anonymous]

Did OP schedule the date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did OP schedule the date?

Must not have been able to take the heat. Still want to know what "way taller" means, how tall she is and the height of the guy. She's abandoned the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

This guy is amazing and has a great, easy going personality. However, I don’t feel physical attraction towards him.

I guess the reason for this might be that he’s not my ‘type’. I’m attracted to tall, slender men. This guy on the other hand is short and stocky. I don’t mean to sound shallow, but I’m just not attracted to that body type at all.

I feel that I need my man to be way taller than me. I’m attracted to tall men. With this guy, I’m trying to focus on his great personality force myself to look past his body structure, but unconsciously I can’t help it.

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not (please let me know). The last date I felt we were in the friend zone. The reason I feel repulsed is because I see him as someone like my dad’s friend, rather than a future sexual and romantic partner. I can’t picture him as being my future husband,

Des this make me sound awful and am I being unreasonable?

You are totally reasonable, because in reality he has preferences too. He most probably wouldn't be attracted to a woman bigger and taller than him, so don't feel bad.

I think the biggest problem here is that you feel repulsed. It is one thing to not be attracted and another to feel repulsed. There is hope if you think that a person is likable, cute, but you just don't feel the spark. There is 0 hope he will grow on you if you are repulsed by a thought of kissing him.

No, she is not totally reasonable. She is repulsed by a guy because he’s not a statistical anomaly - much taller than her. If another guy claimed to be repulsed by any woman who wasn’t statistically abnormal in appearance, I certainly wouldn’t pat him on the back and tell him he was being reasonable.

This is just your very rigid version of things. In reality he is probably as tall as her when she wears heals or maybe even shorter. Most women wouldn't like that. Most women who have a choice would avoid that. So, what's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question for OP. Again, I want to know what you consider way taller than you. How tall are you and how tall/short is the guy?

For me way taller would be 6 feet. I’m attracted to men in this range.

I’m 5’2 and the guy is 5’4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

This guy is amazing and has a great, easy going personality. However, I don’t feel physical attraction towards him.

I guess the reason for this might be that he’s not my ‘type’. I’m attracted to tall, slender men. This guy on the other hand is short and stocky. I don’t mean to sound shallow, but I’m just not attracted to that body type at all.

I feel that I need my man to be way taller than me. I’m attracted to tall men. With this guy, I’m trying to focus on his great personality force myself to look past his body structure, but unconsciously I can’t help it.

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not (please let me know). The last date I felt we were in the friend zone. The reason I feel repulsed is because I see him as someone like my dad’s friend, rather than a future sexual and romantic partner. I can’t picture him as being my future husband,

Des this make me sound awful and am I being unreasonable?

You are totally reasonable, because in reality he has preferences too. He most probably wouldn't be attracted to a woman bigger and taller than him, so don't feel bad.

I think the biggest problem here is that you feel repulsed. It is one thing to not be attracted and another to feel repulsed. There is hope if you think that a person is likable, cute, but you just don't feel the spark. There is 0 hope he will grow on you if you are repulsed by a thought of kissing him.

No, she is not totally reasonable. She is repulsed by a guy because he’s not a statistical anomaly - much taller than her. If another guy claimed to be repulsed by any woman who wasn’t statistically abnormal in appearance, I certainly wouldn’t pat him on the back and tell him he was being reasonable.

This is just your very rigid version of things. In reality he is probably as tall as her when she wears heals or maybe even shorter. Most women wouldn't like that. Most women who have a choice would avoid that. So, what's your point?

Why would most women be opposed to a guy as tall as her when she wears heels? Inquiring minds want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did OP schedule the date?

Must not have been able to take the heat. Still want to know what "way taller" means, how tall she is and the height of the guy. She's abandoned the thread.

I answered the question.

[Anonymous]

Attraction is science based. You can't help what you find appealing. It's one thing to give a guy a chance when there isn't chemistry and it's another when you are repulsed by the thought of a kiss. Move on. There are a ton of great people in this world and they all aren't attracted to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did OP schedule the date?

Must not have been able to take the heat. Still want to know what "way taller" means, how tall she is and the height of the guy. She's abandoned the thread.

I answered the question.

So guy needs to be 10" taller than you. You are into fetish territory.

[Anonymous]

Stop hemming and hawing. Just dump him already.

[Anonymous]

Why are posters criticizing OP? Men are not told to go on another date 8f they're not physically attracted to a woman, smh.