Dating in 50’s - people who have children vs people who dont

[Anonymous]

I think there are wonderful people in both groups, but just in my own experience, people without children don't fully understand how fundamentally central parenting is to the identity of people with children. I mean I think they understand it intellectually, in the abstract sense, but not fully. I know I didn't when I didn't have children!

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Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

I’m seeing a man 19 years older (me early 30s/him early 50s). Yes, he’s more emotionally available, mature, and better in bed than men my own age, but I think he’s also better at those than most other 50s men, too. It works well for us.

Unfortunately you will see a big difference in 40s (if not before). As you both age the changes and differences will become more pronounced. It will be like you are living a decade or so older than yourself. In your 50s, you will have peers with husbands in 50s having fun, enjoying life. You will be dealing with an elderly man who has been on Medicare already for 5 years. Time goes by very fast. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

I am female in my 30's and would rather date a man who had no kids and no interest in having any... dated someone with a kid and it was nothing but annoying drama.

Smart woman! Do not settle for men with baggage.

[Anonymous]

Smart woman! Do not settle for men with baggage.

The only baggage around here is carried by the batshit crazy people like you.

[Anonymous]

Smart woman! Do not settle for men with baggage.

A post brought to you by someone that no one would ever want to have kids with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

I’m seeing a man 19 years older (me early 30s/him early 50s). Yes, he’s more emotionally available, mature, and better in bed than men my own age, but I think he’s also better at those than most other 50s men, too. It works well for us.

Unfortunately you will see a big difference in 40s (if not before). As you both age the changes and differences will become more pronounced. It will be like you are living a decade or so older than yourself. In your 50s, you will have peers with husbands in 50s having fun, enjoying life. You will be dealing with an elderly man who has been on Medicare already for 5 years. Time goes by very fast. Good luck!

This has crossed my mind. One thing going for us is that he’s very energetic and physically active- way more than any man I know that’s my own age. I also adore the guy so much that I don’t really care. I figure it’s better to have a few really great years with someone I’m madly in love with than several decades with someone I’m just meh about.

[Anonymous]

PP, it would be if you were 20. But at 30, if you are interested in a traditional family with kids setup, you don’t have much time to fritter away. Good luck to you.

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Smart woman! Do not settle for men with baggage.

The only baggage around here is carried by the batshit crazy people like you.

Sorry but baggage is baggage. Jealous much! This lady was smart enough to figure it out.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

They are dating His money


As you are invisible to women in their 20,s and 30’s. Keep wishing grandpa!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

I’m seeing a man 19 years older (me early 30s/him early 50s). Yes, he’s more emotionally available, mature, and better in bed than men my own age, but I think he’s also better at those than most other 50s men, too. It works well for us.

Unfortunately you will see a big difference in 40s (if not before). As you both age the changes and differences will become more pronounced. It will be like you are living a decade or so older than yourself. In your 50s, you will have peers with husbands in 50s having fun, enjoying life. You will be dealing with an elderly man who has been on Medicare already for 5 years. Time goes by very fast. Good luck!

This has crossed my mind. One thing going for us is that he’s very energetic and physically active- way more than any man I know that’s my own age. I also adore the guy so much that I don’t really care. I figure it’s better to have a few really great years with someone I’m madly in love with than several decades with someone I’m just meh about.

It sounds like you will be out soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced man in my mid-50s. I have two adult children (one in grad school and one in college.)

I found that I enjoyed dating women who were mothers more than women who were not because the women who had kids could relate to being a parent. I love being a parent and seem to get along better with women who enjoyed this as well. To provide some background:

After my divorce, my teen-age daughter lived with me instead of her mom so I know what it is like to the primary custodial parent.
I never dated a woman who was more than five years younger than I am, and normally date women one or two years younger. Please know that I dated a woman who was five years older, and she was wonderful.
I wish that I would have had more than two children; however, my wife had four miscarriages between our first child and our second. After the birth of my second, we did not want to put her through another miscarriage.

Finally a mature, well thought answer that actually had something to do with the OP’s question. Others take note!

[Anonymous]

Sorry but baggage is baggage. Jealous much! This lady was smart enough to figure it ou

t.


Did your mommy and daddy tell you that you were baggage? In your case, they were right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry but baggage is baggage. Jealous much! This lady was smart enough to figure it ou

t.


Did your mommy and daddy tell you that you were baggage? In your case, they were right.

Ha. Excellent comeback.

[Anonymous]

I would probably want to date someone in a situation that was similar to mine. For example, if my kids were out of the house I would want someone in a similar situation so we both have a lot of time to spend together. Conversely, if my kids were still at home I would probably want someone with kids at home so they would be understanding about my time limitations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

I’m seeing a man 19 years older (me early 30s/him early 50s). Yes, he’s more emotionally available, mature, and better in bed than men my own age, but I think he’s also better at those than most other 50s men, too. It works well for us.

Unfortunately you will see a big difference in 40s (if not before). As you both age the changes and differences will become more pronounced. It will be like you are living a decade or so older than yourself. In your 50s, you will have peers with husbands in 50s having fun, enjoying life. You will be dealing with an elderly man who has been on Medicare already for 5 years. Time goes by very fast. Good luck!

This has crossed my mind. One thing going for us is that he’s very energetic and physically active- way more than any man I know that’s my own age. I also adore the guy so much that I don’t really care. I figure it’s better to have a few really great years with someone I’m madly in love with than several decades with someone I’m just meh about.

NP. I know a number of couples with a 15-25 year age difference. Most are very happy. I would imagine, however, that as both get older the age-related issues increase. That said, it's not a guarantee that they won't in partners who are close in age.

I'm 3 months younger than my husband (we're both 48) but he's much more out of shape, and he already has a number of age related health issues (he has to take statins for his heart, antacids for heartburn, and anti-inflammatory meds for his shoulder and knees). I'm no spring chicken either but I've been taking better care of myself. It's a crap shoot, I guess, but if a partner is significantly older, even those who take exceptional care of themselves will eventually hit old age hard before the younger one.

As for dating someone in their 50s, if I were dating again, I would be open to dating someone with or without kids. But I'm female and generally easy-going. I've read it's tough out there for people in their 50s dating. I wouldn't want to narrow the field even more by seeking only those with the same life experiences as myself.