Dating in 50’s - people who have children vs people who dont

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Agree. I feel the same way about old men in their 50’s. Unfit and just can’t keep up. The toll of cumulative inactivity and long hours working definitely catches up with them. Both men & women need to keep the fitness up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

The thing is if a guy met you he would probably think you are much younger than your age because you look good and have energy. So you are not falling into his misconceptions of women in 50’s. That is why i specifically tell men (and women) my age when they comment on my fitness. There is bias from both genders. Men (when THEY ask) usually don’t believe me and sheepishly walk away. Women can sometimes get pissed as they know they could get in better shape. Fitness is a life long lifestyle that requires consistency. I’m married to a fit man..thank goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are all tossed in the eldercare forum at 50 anyway. That's all women are supposed to do, tend to older seniors, certainly not "date."

If this is what is in the dating pool at 50 I would rather pass and go on holidays with my girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m married with kids so I may not match your criteria but solely on a selfish basis if I was single again - which is a strong possibility given current marital state - and this is very selfish of me but I would have a strong preference for a mid 50’s women who did not have kids as I think it would make things a lot less complicated.

Childfree woman in 50s here. I would want a childfree man ONLY.

You’re both looking for unicorns...

There's lots of rhem. Expand your social circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m married with kids so I may not match your criteria but solely on a selfish basis if I was single again - which is a strong possibility given current marital state - and this is very selfish of me but I would have a strong preference for a mid 50’s women who did not have kids as I think it would make things a lot less complicated.

Childfree woman in 50s here. I would want a childfree man ONLY.

You’re both looking for unicorns...

There's lots of rhem. Expand your social circle.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

I am high libido, high energy woman. Some men can keep up with the energy but the libido aspect doesn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

Oh my god, you’re a TOTAL LOSER, why are you trolling this forum? You’re probably an 18 yo boy who is exorcising his anger at his mom by throwing insults at women his mom’s age. If you really are a 50 yo, dude you really have issues, to feel a need to keep saying that women your age are not good enough for you. Lots of anger, lots of rage. Why would an older, wiser woman see any value in you when you are old and immature as well?

OK, I don't think he's a "TOTAL LOSER" for liking what he likes. I'm a woman, but this is a bit of a double standard: if a woman posted that she preferred older men, nobody would roast her here. He's allowed to have his preferences, and attacking him like this is not a good look for us. I think he's right: he's offering another perspective, and it is a valid one in the dating world. This kind of reaction really does look unreasonable and coming from a personal angle that you need to keep in check.

I'm 40f, by the way, so not in his demographic, but I'm fine with hearing his ideas.

My best friend is my age, dating someone his age, and she goes on and on about what "older men have to offer." It goes both ways, people, and you like what you like. Leave the guy alone.

Its fine for him to like what he likes, it is extremely juvenile to make a statement that women in their 50's are invisible to him and mentioning women hitting the wall. I'm not sure what value you get from hearing derogatory remarks like that. It's fine for him to date younger women, it's not healthy to have such angry regard in relation to older women - why are they invisible to him? I mean how utterly weird, are older men invisible to him as well or just women? Does it mean he can't even be civil to the older lady serving him at the bank, he can't see that members of society are just getting on with their lives, he doesn't have to date all members but why show such disdain for a certain group in society who have done nothing toward him personally. Because what women in their 50's look older they all should hear about his disdain toward them. Why can't he just get on with his life and leave others well enough alone.

We all age and will be lucky to become elderly like he is at 54. I couldn't imagine being so dismissive of older or younger men, I couldn't imagine having that much of a problem with them. Does your best friend dismiss younger men, say they are invisible to her, I bet she doesn't because it's not normal. She likes older men but I bet she doesn't show disdain for all young men.

See, if I were dating, I WOULD find value in hearing his perspective. I wouldn't want to date someone who actually put those thoughts into words, and I would find it useful to know that some men think this way. It would make me appreciate the right one when I found him, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

Here’s the thing, we don’t care if they are using us for money or connections. I know I’m bringing my A game and know how to make them O big time. I won’t get explicit so nothing more on that. I’ll also just say younger women often have much less if any baggage. And lots of women in their 40s and 50s seem insane after a few dates. Sorry. Not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

Here’s the thing, we don’t care if they are using us for money or connections. I know I’m bringing my A game and know how to make them O big time. I won’t get explicit so nothing more on that. I’ll also just say younger women often have much less if any baggage. And lots of women in their 40s and 50s seem insane after a few dates. Sorry. Not sorry.

Ewwww!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

Here’s the thing, we don’t care if they are using us for money or connections. I know I’m bringing my A game and know how to make them O big time. I won’t get explicit so nothing more on that. I’ll also just say younger women often have much less if any baggage. And lots of women in their 40s and 50s seem insane after a few dates. Sorry. Not sorry.

Your gross...... those young girls can have you. Women in their 50’s have no tolerance for your BS. Keep sleeping w/ girls your daughters age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

New poster. Your lifestyle sounds as absurd as his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Agree. I feel the same way about old men in their 50’s. Unfit and just can’t keep up. The toll of cumulative inactivity and long hours working definitely catches up with them. Both men & women need to keep the fitness up!

I agree with that. Just for health reasons alone. The thing is when I look at guys 50 and up even if they are in shape they often look old. I lived in the west and all the older bicyclists, golfers, etc. are very wrinkled. I'm married, but if my DH died I wouldn't be able to date. No attraction to over 50. I can understand how older men feel, and why they try to date younger women. Sure its mainly going to be about money for the women, but I'm sure a percentage of men don't care.

[Anonymous]

I’m 56 and I like to date women in their 50’s especially those who like to stay fit and active. They are usually empty nesters or don’t have children which gives them a good amount of free time. Regardless, a healthy libido is a must. I have no interest in dating someone with children at home as that phase of my life, which I enjoyed, is over. A childless 40-45 year old would certainly be an attractive option but how many of them are out there?