Dating in 50’s - people who have children vs people who dont

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married with kids so I may not match your criteria but solely on a selfish basis if I was single again - which is a strong possibility given current marital state - and this is very selfish of me but I would have a strong preference for a mid 50’s women who did not have kids as I think it would make things a lot less complicated.

Childfree woman in 50s here. I would want a childfree man ONLY.

I want a supermodel. So what; we all want things. What can you actually make happen?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married with kids so I may not match your criteria but solely on a selfish basis if I was single again - which is a strong possibility given current marital state - and this is very selfish of me but I would have a strong preference for a mid 50’s women who did not have kids as I think it would make things a lot less complicated.

Childfree woman in 50s here. I would want a childfree man ONLY.

I want a supermodel. So what; we all want things. What can you actually make happen?

I did make what I wanted happen. My husband and I are childfree by choice. Happily married 25 years. I guess I (and he) got lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that people would want to match up with others who have similar life experiences. As childfree person I would definitely seek someone childfree.

+1

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All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

Sure you do.........more like you wish you did. Women in that age range aren’t looking at you pops.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

And you’re invisible to us-30 yr old.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

Oh my god, you’re a TOTAL LOSER, why are you trolling this forum? You’re probably an 18 yo boy who is exorcising his anger at his mom by throwing insults at women his mom’s age. If you really are a 50 yo, dude you really have issues, to feel a need to keep saying that women your age are not good enough for you. Lots of anger, lots of rage. Why would an older, wiser woman see any value in you when you are old and immature as well?

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

The wall doesn't matter with this particular question. The op asked whether you feel you have more in common with people specifically around life experience with people who have kids or don't have kids. Your answer was that you only date women in their 20's and 30's. Ok, do you have anything to add about them having kids or not and if you have more in common with them etc? Anything constructive at all that actually relates to the op's post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married with kids so I may not match your criteria but solely on a selfish basis if I was single again - which is a strong possibility given current marital state - and this is very selfish of me but I would have a strong preference for a mid 50’s women who did not have kids as I think it would make things a lot less complicated.

Childfree woman in 50s here. I would want a childfree man ONLY.

You’re both looking for unicorns...

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

Oh my god, you’re a TOTAL LOSER, why are you trolling this forum? You’re probably an 18 yo boy who is exorcising his anger at his mom by throwing insults at women his mom’s age. If you really are a 50 yo, dude you really have issues, to feel a need to keep saying that women your age are not good enough for you. Lots of anger, lots of rage. Why would an older, wiser woman see any value in you when you are old and immature as well?

OK, I don't think he's a "TOTAL LOSER" for liking what he likes. I'm a woman, but this is a bit of a double standard: if a woman posted that she preferred older men, nobody would roast her here. He's allowed to have his preferences, and attacking him like this is not a good look for us. I think he's right: he's offering another perspective, and it is a valid one in the dating world. This kind of reaction really does look unreasonable and coming from a personal angle that you need to keep in check.

I'm 40f, by the way, so not in his demographic, but I'm fine with hearing his ideas.

My best friend is my age, dating someone his age, and she goes on and on about what "older men have to offer." It goes both ways, people, and you like what you like. Leave the guy alone.

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Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

The OP was asking a question that related to childfree.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

The wall doesn't matter with this particular question. The op asked whether you feel you have more in common with people specifically around life experience with people who have kids or don't have kids. Your answer was that you only date women in their 20's and 30's. Ok, do you have anything to add about them having kids or not and if you have more in common with them etc? Anything constructive at all that actually relates to the op's post.


I guess OP should have left the age range out of post and then would have got more relevant responses to the question. Don’t know why people get so hung up on ages. Everybody ages everyday and we all will be elderly (with some luck) someday. Then that brings on a different set of problems..that belong in eldercare forum.

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We are all tossed in the eldercare forum at 50 anyway. That's all women are supposed to do, tend to older seniors, certainly not "date."

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

Oh my god, you’re a TOTAL LOSER, why are you trolling this forum? You’re probably an 18 yo boy who is exorcising his anger at his mom by throwing insults at women his mom’s age. If you really are a 50 yo, dude you really have issues, to feel a need to keep saying that women your age are not good enough for you. Lots of anger, lots of rage. Why would an older, wiser woman see any value in you when you are old and immature as well?

OK, I don't think he's a "TOTAL LOSER" for liking what he likes. I'm a woman, but this is a bit of a double standard: if a woman posted that she preferred older men, nobody would roast her here. He's allowed to have his preferences, and attacking him like this is not a good look for us. I think he's right: he's offering another perspective, and it is a valid one in the dating world. This kind of reaction really does look unreasonable and coming from a personal angle that you need to keep in check.

I'm 40f, by the way, so not in his demographic, but I'm fine with hearing his ideas.

My best friend is my age, dating someone his age, and she goes on and on about what "older men have to offer." It goes both ways, people, and you like what you like. Leave the guy alone.

Its fine for him to like what he likes, it is extremely juvenile to make a statement that women in their 50's are invisible to him and mentioning women hitting the wall. I'm not sure what value you get from hearing derogatory remarks like that. It's fine for him to date younger women, it's not healthy to have such angry regard in relation to older women - why are they invisible to him? I mean how utterly weird, are older men invisible to him as well or just women? Does it mean he can't even be civil to the older lady serving him at the bank, he can't see that members of society are just getting on with their lives, he doesn't have to date all members but why show such disdain for a certain group in society who have done nothing toward him personally. Because what women in their 50's look older they all should hear about his disdain toward them. Why can't he just get on with his life and leave others well enough alone.

We all age and will be lucky to become elderly like he is at 54. I couldn't imagine being so dismissive of older or younger men, I couldn't imagine having that much of a problem with them. Does your best friend dismiss younger men, say they are invisible to her, I bet she doesn't because it's not normal. She likes older men but I bet she doesn't show disdain for all young men.