Dating in 50’s - people who have children vs people who dont

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Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

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Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

Lol, so self-important.

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Don't think it's a 54M. Why are you on a mom's forum dishing about dating - "54 yr old male", lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

It’s one thing to say you date younger women, but to say that women in their 50s are invisible to you is just so remarkably immature. Sex appeal is the only thing that connects you to other human beings? I don’t imagine your relationships go the distance.

The specific question was about dating. In other words, what am I sexually attracted to? That is not a matter for "mature" conscious decision for a man any more than it is for a woman. I know very well that most women in their 20s and 30s are not attracted to me, and I don't waste my time rebuking them for being "remarkably immature". It's enough for me that there are some young women who are.

Sex appeal is not the only thing that connects me to other human beings, but it is the prerequisite for a sexual relationship. This is so obvious it shouldn't need discussion. Of course sex appeal is not the only thing that is needed for a relationship to exist, but it has to be there.

As for you, I have no doubt that there are many men who are invisible to you as sexual beings. And for very shallow, immature reasons - e.g., they are shorter than you, or fat, or they don't meet one of the countless criteria on your personal list.

Thank you for your interest in my relationships. You'll be happy to know they are very satisfactory!

Actually the question isn't about dating but having kids vs not having kids and whether you have more in common with one than the other. You haven't even answered the ops original question because you were so desperate to say you date 20 year olds.

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Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

Peter cook is 60. Fiancé is 22. Almost 40 yr age difference.

Have a friend who married guy 18-20 yrs older in her 20s. She was happy then but now that she is 50..not so much. He is a nice guy but the age difference now feels really prevalent as you just slow down at 70 compared to 50. I know it weighs on her. At 50, I can’t imagine being married to a 70 yr old guy. Just no!

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

Did you have something to add to the actual topic or just trying to stir the pot a little. The topic is more about people with children vs childless. This isn't about what age range you want to date.

If have no experience with women in their 50's then you don't have anything of value to add.

I am adding the valuable, relevant perspective that it does not matter if she has kids or not because The Wall is so far behind her it isn't even in the rearview mirror any more.

As divorced man in my 50s, I, too, don’t consider women anywhere near my age. But I understand the other people wondering why this guy is posting at all on this topic.

Might I suggest he start a spinoff thread on men on 50s dating? Personally I can’t even imagine dating a woman in her 50s. I’m so immature and have so much energy that there is a huge energy and life expectation disparity with late 40s and 50s women. Of course I’d be open to it if I met one.

Just because a woman is in her 50’s means she’s dead! I’m a 53 year old female, have a lot of energy, huge sexual appetite, like to have fun, still go to my alma mater games and tailgate like I’m 20, and look great! You and the other dude who won’t consider dating someone in her 50’s are doing nothing but feeding your male ego. And those young women in their 20s & 30s dating you are using you for your money, nice dinners, etc. I was in my 20s and 30s once, dated a man in his 50s.....it was kind of a joke and my friends made fun of men like you. You think your cool.....trust me, you look pathetic. Enjoy their attention now, because when you hit 60 no one will want you!

Here’s the thing, we don’t care if they are using us for money or connections. I know I’m bringing my A game and know how to make them O big time. I won’t get explicit so nothing more on that. I’ll also just say younger women often have much less if any baggage. And lots of women in their 40s and 50s seem insane after a few dates. Sorry. Not sorry.

Sure grandpa

Lol. Whatever you can do, a guy in his 30s does it better. And he's available and ready to marry and start a family.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

54M here.

I don't care if women in their 50s have kids or not, because I only date women in their 20s and 30s.

I don't think OP was asking the age cohort that you date, only if you yourself are in your 50's and if you have kids, do you also prefer to date people with kids, or vice versa.

She asked me how I view women in their 50s.

I don't view them at all. They are invisible to me.

It’s one thing to say you date younger women, but to say that women in their 50s are invisible to you is just so remarkably immature. Sex appeal is the only thing that connects you to other human beings? I don’t imagine your relationships go the distance.

Obviously not going the distance..since he is still trying to chase women.

With his “O face”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

Some come here while they are planning to have children, or looking to buy a house or dealing with infertility but you know that with your smug ass

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Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

Some come here while they are planning to have children, or looking to buy a house or dealing with infertility but you know that with your smug ass

You forgot to add to throw shade at Internet randos. That’s the most important one. -smug-ass pp you’re quoting.

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Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

Some come here while they are planning to have children, or looking to buy a house or dealing with infertility but you know that with your smug ass

You forgot to add to throw shade at Internet randos. That’s the most important one. -smug-ass pp you’re quoting.

You seem miserable. Get help and try to have a better life.

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Anonymous wrote:Men or women in your 50’s: do you feel that you have more in common when dating someone , specially around life experience, with people who have kids vs. who don’t? And men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

I am female in my 30's and would rather date a man who had no kids and no interest in having any... dated someone with a kid and it was nothing but annoying drama.

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Anonymous wrote:All my passing curiosity about why childless people are on a parenting forum aside, if I were to date at my age, I’d prefer to be with someone who’s been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. Shared experiences matter to me, and raising people is a biggie.

Some come here while they are planning to have children, or looking to buy a house or dealing with infertility but you know that with your smug ass

Parenting forum? This topic is about relationships? Why do I have to be a parent to talk about relationships?

[Anonymous]

men- do you view a female in her 50’s differently who haven’t had children?

This is like asking, "I have a 1992 Honda Civic for sale. 300,000 miles, leaking oil, transmission is shot, smoke billowing from rusty exhaust pipe, body panels out of alignment, engine makes mysterious rattling noises, sheet of plastic for a back window. But would you view it differently if it had a sunroof and power windows?"

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I am a divorced man in my mid-50s. I have two adult children (one in grad school and one in college.)

I found that I enjoyed dating women who were mothers more than women who were not because the women who had kids could relate to being a parent. I love being a parent and seem to get along better with women who enjoyed this as well. To provide some background:

After my divorce, my teen-age daughter lived with me instead of her mom so I know what it is like to the primary custodial parent.
I never dated a woman who was more than five years younger than I am, and normally date women one or two years younger. Please know that I dated a woman who was five years older, and she was wonderful.
I wish that I would have had more than two children; however, my wife had four miscarriages between our first child and our second. After the birth of my second, we did not want to put her through another miscarriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Aka he went on a date with one woman in her 40s who implied she was late thirties one time.

Peter Cook, who has a $100 million net worth, is marrying the worlds ugliest woman in her twenties. If that’s what an actual wealthy person can get there is no one on this board that is in their 50s dating someone in their twenties.

Is a 15-20 year age gap really that surprising? I know a handful of couples like this and they seem to have great relationships that have aged well.

I’m seeing a man 19 years older (me early 30s/him early 50s). Yes, he’s more emotionally available, mature, and better in bed than men my own age, but I think he’s also better at those than most other 50s men, too. It works well for us.