Clueless biracial nephew
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Anonymous
I don’t tell anyone how to deal with anything. Their experience is their experience, and to this point: it seems that nephew has not chosen to fill his life with anger. That is 100% his choice. His choices have nothing to Do with him being “clueless”. He might outright reject racism, but choose to deal with it his way. He is already living HIS life, in his skin, and, given OPs post, has experienced racism in his family. He’s decided not to get pissy, or turn into some angry activist type, and that is making OP livid. THAT is the problem. No one should dictate, or surmise they CAN dictate, how another person deals with their issues, be it racism, misogyny, homophobia, ableism, etc. OP is ticked right off that nephew isn’t following some kind of prescribed course of being angry about persecution, and not wanting to understand that is not HIS experience or way of dealing with racism. That is his right, an no more or less correct than what OP wants. |
Anonymous
+1 This is how the OP comes across |
Anonymous
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Thread summary....
When you don't perceive things as holding you back... They don't hold you back.... |
Anonymous
.. or "ignorance is bliss". |
Anonymous
Except he's not ignorant, he just doesn't attribute slights in the same way as others. The other side is just as ignorant because they ASSUME malice while being ignorant as to whether it really is... I'll live like the nephew anyday... |
Anonymous
How do you know he's not ignorant, and that you are just projecting? I don't know either, which is why I stated "or"... Sometimes the other side is truly ignorant, like the whole "go back to your country" thing with Trump, as if that is not racist. |
Anonymous
Yet saying "go back to your country" has absolutely zero impact on anyone I know who is here as a US citizen. Just words... |
Anonymous
| He actually said Go back to your country and improve things there (instead of come here, publicly rail on america 5 years in to living here, run for small district office, and try to change America to your liking). |
Anonymous
He said this to congresswomen born in the United States you idiot. Only one of the four was born outside of the U.S. This is the definition of racism. He assumes that because the congresswomen are not white they aren’t real Americans. |
Anonymous
I immigrated here legally and it doesn’t impact me in the sense that your words aren’t going to change my actions/plans. You’re still a racist though, but it’s on you to live with that. |
Anonymous
Having racist words thrown at you is still being impacted by racism. Only a white person would think that is not the case. Are you saying that if OP's nephew was called the N word it would not impact him? Does it stop him from living his life? No, of course not. Neither does his MIL hating him because of his race. But, I'm betting that OP's nephew would still feel awful if he was called the N word. |
Anonymous
The ^^PP also assumed it, hence the post. This is probably one of the things OP's nephew is unaware of, that these words are indeed racist because they are generally thrown at non white people, and the ignorant ahole who says these words (ahem.. Trump) usually aSSumes that the nonwhite person was not born here. |
Anonymous
I am a white naturalized US citizen with a clearly foreign name. I can be, and have been a target of ignorant ridicule and xenophobia, but being a target does not make one a victim. |
Anonymous
His method doesn't help. I'm not saying get in a tizzy of every slight but his way of thinking is dangerous. That's like saying let's ignore rapes, homeless, or poverty and they should go away. His ignorance only helps him and no one else. |
Anonymous
| Op I wouldn't make too much effort to change him. Unfortunately you can try and educate him but if he is not open it's pointless. Some people are just lost and unfortunately your brother sounds to blame for what's happened. It's not your job to fix. At this point your nephew is an adult. |