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Do public school parents feel superior to private school ones?
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Anonymous
I don't get what you are saying. |
Anonymous
I agree with your underlying issue -- that the "best fit" argument often chills any meaningful comparison of schools. But I don't think there's any way to avoid it. Anytime you try to say one school is better than another, you're putting a whole gang of parents on the defensive, and starting a fight that can never be resolved. The "best fit" mantra sometimes seems like the thin thread that holds DCUM back from open warfare. Maybe the answer is be very specific when comparing schools. For example, you might legitimately say that one school has a better soccer team than another school. Or you might say that one school does better in math competitions than another. But you can't really say one school is "better" than another in all respects unless you compare all aspects. Be as respectful when comparing schools as (I hope) you would be in comparing children. You'd never say Johnny is a better child than Susie, but you might say he's better at drawing while she's a better at baseball. |
Anonymous
| Performance is neither puff nor pomposity. |
Anonymous
| Hey, I don't like living in a society where ruthless self-promotion substitutes for competence and hard work, but I'm under no illusion that "performance" explains success in the US. |
Anonymous
My cat, Puff, is neither pompous nor purrs. |
Anonymous
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Even in the US, performance still trumps, puff, purrs and pomposity.
Performance is the safest route even if many non performers rise to the top of a heap of cards. |
Anonymous
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Even in the US, performance still trumps, puff, purrs and pomposity.
Performance is the safest route even if many non performers rise to the top of a heap of cards. |
Anonymous
| What are you talking about pp and why did you post the exact thing twice? |
Anonymous
Probably puffed a little bit too much of something. |
Anonymous
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Only a douche says "I went to school in New Haven." This so called "modesty" is the new elitism. It's like saying "I'm soooo rich, but I try to wear middle-class clothing." I guess it's a way for the old money to distinguish themselves from the new.
Elitist attitudes are obnoxious whether you take the so called humble route or not. On the flip side, it's just as obnoxious to assume that people are elitist merely because of their school choice. |
Anonymous
| I agree, but some people mistake goal orientation with elitism. You should be able to say you're proud your son got into Harvard without someone accusing you of being elitist. |
Anonymous
Well sure, because that's telling you exactly where the person went to school, displaying false modesty because you're supposed to know what "New Haven" means, and also sort of testing you to see whether you know what "New Haven" means. But if the answer is "Connecticut," the situation might be very different. |
Anonymous
| Agreed. And if my DC ever gets into Harvard, I won't care what anyone thinks. I'll just be proud that he managed to get in. |
Anonymous
Ha, well, not many folks want to draw attention to living in New Haven. If I had gone to Yale instead of Harvard, maybe I would say, "I went to school north of the city." Kidding aside, New Haven is not a college mecca as is Boston. There is a reason why folks can fly under the radar with the Boston phrase. |
Anonymous
| When did "douchebag" get officially shortened to "douche"? |