WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

Yeah that's pretty bad. Sorry OP.

+1 I would be livid if my nanny left my small child with someone I'd never met without my permission. Good thing you asked her what really happened and that she was honest about it.

+1 Yikes!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

I’m shocked she was this honest.

She sounds like a basically decent person who made an irresponsible, inappropriate decision.

I was 100% anti-OP until I read the nanny’s explanation. Now I’m team OP. While the nanny get some points for finally coming clean what she did was so totally uncool. I would never give that nanny a good reference.

I was team no one and I’m still team no one. They both sound silly.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. And don’t give a bad reference over it. Seriously can’t believe you would do that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

I’m shocked she was this honest.

She sounds like a basically decent person who made an irresponsible, inappropriate decision.

I was 100% anti-OP until I read the nanny’s explanation. Now I’m team OP. While the nanny get some points for finally coming clean what she did was so totally uncool. I would never give that nanny a good reference.

I was team no one and I’m still team no one. They both sound silly.

If that sounds silly to you, I hope you never do childcare. Because parents care who there small kids are left with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

I’m shocked she was this honest.

She sounds like a basically decent person who made an irresponsible, inappropriate decision.

I was 100% anti-OP until I read the nanny’s explanation. Now I’m team OP. While the nanny get some points for finally coming clean what she did was so totally uncool. I would never give that nanny a good reference.

I was team no one and I’m still team no one. They both sound silly.

If that sounds silly to you, I hope you never do childcare. Because parents care who there small kids are left with.

Bc I said they both sound silly?! Umm ok.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I think this is terrible. I thought it was terrible before I heard what nanny actually did. A parent shouldn't have to specify all the places the baby shouldn't go. Don't take my kid to a new location without telling the parent. Awful.

MY nanny would just text, me - "hey, we are going to XXX park to check-it out".

It is even more awful to leave the child in someone's else's care without a specific OK. Terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I do not micromanage but she should tell me if she's going to take my kid somewhere he doesn't normally go to. My former nanny lives 20 miles away so what would be the point in going to her house to eat lunch? And yes, she's asked me before if she could take my kid to her house and I said no.

I forgot to mention the photos were dated right around when she was moving out of her other apartment. There were moving boxes in the photos so I'm guessing she brought my son to her house while she was moving.

And no she doesn't have newer references, her last day was a couple weeks ago. I would think another family would want to know something like this.

Wow! This is awful and shows very bad judgement on your nanny's part. I am sorry. Yes, I would want to know.

[Anonymous]

What do you think the saying something would accomplish? Do you expect her to apologize? I’m not sure what she should apologize for. All this would do is make you sound crazy and controlling. This was three years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

Yeah that's pretty bad. Sorry OP.

+1 I would be livid if my nanny left my small child with someone I'd never met without my permission. Good thing you asked her what really happened and that she was honest about it.

+1 Yikes!!!

Not buying it. You’re either a troll you’re making this up to justify your initial post. No way the nanny would tell you all this at this point, even if it were true, after all this time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when you outsource raising your kid

Ouch, this stings, but there's truth to it.

OP, let it go and accept that you won't know what your kid if doing most of the time. That, or take care of him yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So OP here for the very last time. I just decided to call my former nanny and ask her about the pictures. She seemed shocked that those pictures were in the album. I just asked her to be truthful with me.

Long story short - she took my son to her new apartment (boyfriend's apartment) 2 days in a row and her boyfriend's mother watched him all day while she moved. She said sorry and that she should've just taken those days off, but her boyfriend suggested that idea to her so she could keep her PTO days and have them paid out (we pay out anything not used). I told her I was upset and that I probably wouldn't be the best person to use as a reference since I would have to tell her new family the truth about what happened.

Former nanny said she completely understood and said sorry again. I told her good luck and thanked her for taking care of our son for 3 years.

Thanks all for responding! Made me realize I should just talk to her instead of wondering what really happened.

Yeah that's pretty bad. Sorry OP.

+1 I would be livid if my nanny left my small child with someone I'd never met without my permission. Good thing you asked her what really happened and that she was honest about it.

+1 Yikes!!!

Not buying it. You’re either a troll you’re making this up to justify your initial post. No way the nanny would tell you all this at this point, even if it were true, after all this time.

Possibly. But no way to be sure about anything we read on DCUM, and in any case, nanny was in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

This story is so ridiculous. Your nanny made a snapfish book and SHE included these incriminating photos? Why would she be so stupid? And then, three years later, when busted about it, she is so feckless as not to have thought up a better story about where the photo was taken? The whole thing is unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This story is so ridiculous. Your nanny made a snapfish book and SHE included these incriminating photos? Why would she be so stupid? And then, three years later, when busted about it, she is so feckless as not to have thought up a better story about where the photo was taken? The whole thing is unbelievable.

I could believe that. Lots of people are stupid enough to get caught. A couple I know are divorcing now, because the man accidentally posted pictures on Facebook of himself with his affair partner, thinking that he had posted them to just to the adultery partner.

[Anonymous]

OP, how about you spend some time giving attention to your kid instead posting on DCUM? Who knows what kind of neglect he underwent when he was in the care of this person.

[Anonymous]

Is this post true? He was in someone else’s care all day but the photos are of the nanny and kid having lunch together?