Guys: how often do you need sex with your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:or you missed mine.

sex is a want
so is emotional support, most women get it from friends

It's okay to have wants but don't act like you can't control your actions because your wants are not met.

So you're fine with him outsourcing his sexual wants just like you outsource your emotional wants, then?

What you're missing is that women want emotional intimacy with their husbands/life partners and that having friends does not take its place. For a husband to say, she can unload on her and I don't need to bother to engage emotionally, is exactly what's going to torpedo her desire for physical intimacy. Likewise, a woman who does not make any effort toward physical intimacy can expect to find her husband less inclined toward emotional intimacy. To put it another way, it feels just as lonely for a woman to not be able to talk to or be heard by her spouse as it is for a husband to feel that his wife never wants to have sex.

DP. You're pretty obtuse. Wifey can put out and put out, and DH can jettison the emotional support. It happens both ways.

What you're missing is that the woman invariably expects the "emotional intimacy" to continue even after she loses interest in sex. She stops having sex, or reduces it to once a month starfish, and then she's baffled why he doesn't give a shit about providing her with "emotional support" and listening to her incessant stream of consciousness bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:or you missed mine.

sex is a want
so is emotional support, most women get it from friends

It's okay to have wants but don't act like you can't control your actions because your wants are not met.

So you're fine with him outsourcing his sexual wants just like you outsource your emotional wants, then?

What you're missing is that women want emotional intimacy with their husbands/life partners and that having friends does not take its place. For a husband to say, she can unload on her and I don't need to bother to engage emotionally, is exactly what's going to torpedo her desire for physical intimacy. Likewise, a woman who does not make any effort toward physical intimacy can expect to find her husband less inclined toward emotional intimacy. To put it another way, it feels just as lonely for a woman to not be able to talk to or be heard by her spouse as it is for a husband to feel that his wife never wants to have sex.

DP. You're pretty obtuse. Wifey can put out and put out, and DH can jettison the emotional support. It happens both ways.

What you're missing is that the woman invariably expects the "emotional intimacy" to continue even after she loses interest in sex. She stops having sex, or reduces it to once a month starfish, and then she's baffled why he doesn't give a shit about providing her with "emotional support" and listening to her incessant stream of consciousness bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Early 60’s. Twice a day would be fantastic!

[Anonymous]

The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

[Anonymous]

Every day...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

I agree... Keep them drained. If not, I have a FWB that is more than willing to drain them
For me and best of all, she wants to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

I agree... Keep them drained. If not, I have a FWB that is more than willing to drain them
For me and best of all, she wants to!

Wow. If having sex with your wife is simply to drain your balls ... No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Every other day is the goal for us and we find we are much happier overall at that frequency. You can’t be mad at someone you can still taste on your lips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

I agree... Keep them drained. If not, I have a FWB that is more than willing to drain them
For me and best of all, she wants to!

Bullshit Dude! On every post, there's some guy on here talking about their FWB or AP. None of you are getting anything. Stop spending so much time on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every other day is the goal for us and we find we are much happier overall at that frequency. You can’t be mad at someone you can still taste on your lips.

Damn! That's a good way to look at it.

[Anonymous]

I know I'm probably in the minority but I'm a guy who is fine with once a week or less

With kids in the house it's very hard to get alone time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

I agree... Keep them drained. If not, I have a FWB that is more than willing to drain them
For me and best of all, she wants to!

Bullshit Dude! On every post, there's some guy on here talking about their FWB or AP. None of you are getting anything. Stop spending so much time on the internet.

How do you know...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ideal is once morning and evening to keep the balls drained. That's not happening. We compromise at 2/3 times a week. I wish it were more. A man has needs.

I agree... Keep them drained. If not, I have a FWB that is more than willing to drain them
For me and best of all, she wants to!

Wow. If having sex with your wife is simply to drain your balls ... No thank you.

Different strokes for different folks. That’s what makes the world go round.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm probably in the minority but I'm a guy who is fine with once a week or less

With kids in the house it's very hard to get alone time

Hundreds of generations of your ancestors who lived in one-room huts but still managed to have lots of children laugh at you from the afterlife.

Heck, my great-grandparents lived in a one room apartment and still had five kids. Good times!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm probably in the minority but I'm a guy who is fine with once a week or less

With kids in the house it's very hard to get alone time

I'm good with once a week. Trouble is that it happens more like once a month.