Guys: how often do you need sex with your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

If you think he is happy....then I have waterfront property in Kansas to sell you. I am sorry, but if you are not having sex with your husband, he is having sex without you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:or you missed mine.

sex is a want
so is emotional support, most women get it from friends

It's okay to have wants but don't act like you can't control your actions because your wants are not met.

So you're fine with him outsourcing his sexual wants just like you outsource your emotional wants, then?

What you're missing is that women want emotional intimacy with their husbands/life partners and that having friends does not take its place. For a husband to say, she can unload on her and I don't need to bother to engage emotionally, is exactly what's going to torpedo her desire for physical intimacy. Likewise, a woman who does not make any effort toward physical intimacy can expect to find her husband less inclined toward emotional intimacy. To put it another way, it feels just as lonely for a woman to not be able to talk to or be heard by her spouse as it is for a husband to feel that his wife never wants to have sex.

What you're missing is that the woman invariably expects the "emotional intimacy" to continue even after she loses interest in sex. She stops having sex, or reduces it to once a month starfish, and then she's baffled why he doesn't give a shit about providing her with "emotional support" and listening to her incessant stream of consciousness bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

If you think he is happy....then I have waterfront property in Kansas to sell you. I am sorry, but if you are not having sex with your husband, he is having sex without you.

Where did I say we are not having sex. We have sex 3x per week.

What I am saying is that he does not provide me emotional support and I am fine with that because i have friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

We're not hearing his side of the story. He is undoubtedly miserable. If she had sex with him, he'd listen to her "venting" (and even make an effort to pretend to be interested).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

If you think he is happy....then I have beachfront property in Kansas to sell you. I am sorry, but if you are not having sex with your husband, he is having sex without you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:late-40's couple. Two kids, high school age

We get up at 530am, kids up at 6

Breakfast, walk dog, everyone out the door by 7

At work at 8-830

Work until 530-6

Pick up one kid from atheletics 4x per week at 630

Home at 7

Dinner at 730-745

Exhausted by 830

Sound asleep by 9




When does that leave any time for sex?

If sex is important, you make it a priority. If it’s not important, you make excuses.

This is so so true

[Anonymous]

If it happens it happens, otherwise I just masturbate couple of times a week and move on, certainly quicker. All this obsession with sex is for people who have nothing better to occupy themselves with or who get bored easily.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I’m 47 and 1-2x a week is fine for me. In my 30’s- early 40’s I wanted it every day and it felt a bit like I was gasping for air sometimes. She’s about a once a week person so our needs are nearly lined up. The 1-2x a week that we do it now are usually high quality times. I do the things she likes and vice-versa.

[Anonymous]

what does it matter? most women don't give a f*ck what a man wants when it comes to sex and intimacy.

[Anonymous]

How often do I need sex with my wife? Never! How often do I need sex? A lot! That's why I'm pretty miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what does it matter? most women don't give a f*ck what a man wants when it comes to sex and intimacy.

The shrill harpies on DCUM certainly don't care what men want, but they get off on the power of denying their man sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm sorry your marriage is like that. That sucks.

He cooks, does dishes, morning routine, daddy tracked to be a more involved parent, is full of life, brings art and music to our lives.

I couldn't care less that I have friends to lean on for emotional support actually, it's ideal.

Right, and it sucks.

For him.

And I am sorry your marriage is like that.

Why are you sorry that he is happy with his role in the marriage.

He just doesn't like to listen to venting. So what?

If you think he is happy....then I have beachfront property in Kansas to sell you. I am sorry, but if you are not having sex with your husband, he is having sex without you.

You must live alone with your cats in Kansas if you think a dude getting it 3x a week is not happy because his wife doesn't vent to him.

[Anonymous]

one a week with wife and twice a week with mistress is the best balance

[Anonymous]

The need part is not just with the wifey. Self service and needing sex with the wife is balanced. I guess between the two I need it 5-6 times per week