I have STD symptoms. Did my wife cheat on me during her maternity leave?

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Troll. (I hope the furlough ends soon.)

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating during maternity leave is a ridiculous idea, unless her maternity leave was two years long.

Cheating during pregnancy, however, could happen. Some men have a weird pregnancy kink, and some pregnant women get very horny.

Don't they check for STDs before birth though?

Yes. At least it was standard procedure to check all patients for STDs when I was pregnant.

I can't imagine an exhausted woman who is recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn 24/7 cheating on her husband. That just does not seem likely at all.

No. They do not test for herpes. It has never been standard procedure. You would need to specifically ask for the blood test for HSV.

They ask you about it and you go to umpteen million prenatal appts before your baby is born. If something like that is going on down there the doctor is going to notice it.

I do not think that Op's wife suddenly became contagious with Herpes years after they got married and while she happened to be on maternity leave. She has probably been to the doctor since the birth for a follow up appt. Yet, the doctor noticed no symptoms?

Whatever is wrong with Op is probably not his wife's doing.

Uh, no. Not if you're asymptomatic.

Herpes often lies dormant for many years. Childbirth is frequently a catalyst for initial outbeaks.

Please do not bother replying to threads if you have nothing of value to add.

+1 Pregnancy was what brought on my initial outbreak of herpes. I only had a handful of partners before marriage and my husband was -and 15 years later- still is HSV negative thanks to Valtrex. It sucks but it happens and it's not the end of the world. And all the PPs are right. My doctor told me that the standard STD panel doesn't test for herpes unless you roll up with what looks like an active outbreak.

Did you go throughout your pregnancy, childbirth and post natal appts w/o your doctor noticing your outbreaks? That really seems extremely unlikely.

You're honestly so dense how do you not understand that a person can have the virus and shed the virus without ever having an outbreak?

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting on the test results still. Nothing positive yet

Who did you have sex with besides/before your wife?

Post partum women do not want to have sex, fyi.

They just passed a giant bloody human out of their hoohaw, are leaking everywhere and have not had more than 2 consecutive house of sleep for weeks. Sex is the last thing they want.

Look to your own history to figure it out.

I am a death do you part kind of girl, and if my husband came to me after 9 months of pregnancy and accused me of acquiring and std during my postpartum maternity leave then giving it to him, he would be out the door.

Go to the most logical conclusion first...your business trip...office Christmas party...strip club..whatever nonsense you do in your spare time.

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I was startled to have my ob/gyn casually mention a positive hpv test while going over detail shortly before birth. I’d always tested negative in the past. I had no idea it could be asymptotic, go dormant, then surface years later. My partner is currently negative and from what I can tell, so am
I as my pap is once again entirely normal. My doc says we both could be carriers.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

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Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

If you really are married, you need to sit down and think about your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

If that’s your takeaway from all these posts, plus your uninformed and erroneous assumptions about your friend’s widow, I think you’re the problem. You are suspicious of women.

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Anonymous wrote:I was startled to have my ob/gyn casually mention a positive hpv test while going over detail shortly before birth. I’d always tested negative in the past. I had no idea it could be asymptotic, go dormant, then surface years later. My partner is currently negative and from what I can tell, so am
I as my pap is once again entirely normal. My doc says we both could be carriers.

HPV IS NOT THE SAME AS HSV1 OR HSV2.

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OP WHAT ARE THE RESULTS?

I can only imagine how much of a drag you are as a husband. To accuse your wife of cheating on you while postpartum.

Do you not know that we bleed for a solid six weeks?

My heart goes out to your wife, you need to get a grip and do better plus let your insecurities GO

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating during maternity leave is a ridiculous idea, unless her maternity leave was two years long.

Cheating during pregnancy, however, could happen. Some men have a weird pregnancy kink, and some pregnant women get very horny.

Don't they check for STDs before birth though?

Yes. At least it was standard procedure to check all patients for STDs when I was pregnant.

I can't imagine an exhausted woman who is recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn 24/7 cheating on her husband. That just does not seem likely at all.

No. They do not test for herpes. It has never been standard procedure. You would need to specifically ask for the blood test for HSV.

They ask you about it and you go to umpteen million prenatal appts before your baby is born. If something like that is going on down there the doctor is going to notice it.

I do not think that Op's wife suddenly became contagious with Herpes years after they got married and while she happened to be on maternity leave. She has probably been to the doctor since the birth for a follow up appt. Yet, the doctor noticed no symptoms?

Whatever is wrong with Op is probably not his wife's doing.

Uh, no. Not if you're asymptomatic.

Herpes often lies dormant for many years. Childbirth is frequently a catalyst for initial outbeaks.

Please do not bother replying to threads if you have nothing of value to add.

+1 Pregnancy was what brought on my initial outbreak of herpes. I only had a handful of partners before marriage and my husband was -and 15 years later- still is HSV negative thanks to Valtrex. It sucks but it happens and it's not the end of the world. And all the PPs are right. My doctor told me that the standard STD panel doesn't test for herpes unless you roll up with what looks like an active outbreak.

Did you go throughout your pregnancy, childbirth and post natal appts w/o your doctor noticing your outbreaks? That really seems extremely unlikely.

You're honestly so dense how do you not understand that a person can have the virus and shed the virus without ever having an outbreak?

If it's so easy to infect another person while you have no symptoms then it would also make sense that you could infect your newborn if you had no symptoms.

Herpes can blind a baby you would think that they would test all pregnant women if there was a risk of an asymptomatic transmission.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

If that’s your takeaway from all these posts, plus your uninformed and erroneous assumptions about your friend’s widow, I think you’re the problem. You are suspicious of women.

Huh? I'm op, not the poster who talked about a widow

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Anonymous wrote:I was startled to have my ob/gyn casually mention a positive hpv test while going over detail shortly before birth. I’d always tested negative in the past. I had no idea it could be asymptotic, go dormant, then surface years later. My partner is currently negative and from what I can tell, so am
I as my pap is once again entirely normal. My doc says we both could be carriers.

HPV IS NOT THE SAME AS HSV1 OR HSV2.

No shit. Not everyone is emotionally invested enough here to read every post, I didn’t see herpes specified. Step away from the all caps before you blow a blood vessel.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

If you really are married, you need to sit down and think about your life.

What is so controversial about what I said?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not a real post. OP hasn’t come back to provide any details re symptoms because he doesn’t know what to say that will sound credible.

This forum is anonymous but I still don't feel like sharing my exact symptoms

I think an STD is not likely, but I thought it was interesting to start this thread

To be honest, it has actually been helpful in making me think it's quite unlikely it is an STD. I'll get the results soon

It will either be validation that my wife didn't cheat while pregnant or (less likely) on leave or it will be a live preview of the end of my marriage for everyone to gawk at

If you really are married, you need to sit down and think about your life.

What is so controversial about what I said?

If your test comes back positive then you are going to blame your wife for cheating on you while she was pregnant or on maternity leave. Judge, jury, done.

What if she doesn't even have herpes? What if she tests negative for it? Do you not know your wife's body well enough that you would know if she had a herpes outbreak?

I don't know what you have, Op, but the idea of your wife cheating on you shortly after giving birth to your baby is preposterous.

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Yeah I agree. So the test will almost certainly show a non STD infection

But if it does and my only sexual contact was with my wife... Well you do the math