I have STD symptoms. Did my wife cheat on me during her maternity leave?

[Anonymous]

Ok, re the man who did of HPV throat cancer - stop blaming his wife. HPV takes DECADES to develop into throat cancer. He could have gotten it from someone in high school. If you want to protect yourself from HPV, get the vaccine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, re the man who did of HPV throat cancer - stop blaming his wife. HPV takes DECADES to develop into throat cancer. He could have gotten it from someone in high school. If you want to protect yourself from HPV, get the vaccine.

This.

Unfortunately, the vaccine was not available to men until only recently. We will have a generation of men (and some women) with HPV-related throat cancer. I hope I'm not one of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The point is HPV can be dormant in your wife, then become active and infect you. But there are typically no symptoms.

So true - I get positive hpv results in my pap so years and negative others. I have also been vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

During maternity leave, I had these wild, kinky fantasies about sleeping for 20 hours.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is trying to build his own defense with this post.

[Anonymous]

Unlikely cheating during the maternity leave. More likely to be something (like the HPV previously mentioned) that flared during the baby making time. If you used protection before, but then stopped to make the baby, that is probably when you were infected. Without knowing WHAT it is, it's hard to know. Were you tested after she was pregnant before now? Or was your last test years ago? She could have had something for years or she could have cheated after you were married but before she got pregnant. You haven't given enough details to tell.

[Anonymous]

Wait for the results first & if they are not favorable, then perhaps ask your M.D. this question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'm sure that it's not a dormant thing since I did a round of STD tests a while back with all negative results. Have been faithful to my wife

Why did you feel the need to get tested if you’re faithful?

DP - think about the answer to your own question.....one person can be faithful but still have concerns about his/her partner......of courses in DCUM land, the woman can never be wrong and if she cheats, she must have had a good reason b/c her DH/BF deserved it, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'm sure that it's not a dormant thing since I did a round of STD tests a while back with all negative results. Have been faithful to my wife

FYI, they usually don’t test for herpes unless you ask specifically, and it can be dormant for a long time. If you test positive for gonorrhea and you haven’t slept with anyone then it’s a different story!

So if it's dormant, then your test would come back negative?

[Anonymous]

Cheating during maternity leave is a ridiculous idea, unless her maternity leave was two years long.

Cheating during pregnancy, however, could happen. Some men have a weird pregnancy kink, and some pregnant women get very horny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also I'm sure that it's not a dormant thing since I did a round of STD tests a while back with all negative results. Have been faithful to my wife

FYI, they usually don’t test for herpes unless you ask specifically, and it can be dormant for a long time. If you test positive for gonorrhea and you haven’t slept with anyone then it’s a different story!

So if it's dormant, then your test would come back negative?

No. It would be positive. Just not breaking out in sores. Millions of people have it but it is dormant and they never have a breakout.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating during maternity leave is a ridiculous idea, unless her maternity leave was two years long.

Cheating during pregnancy, however, could happen. Some men have a weird pregnancy kink, and some pregnant women get very horny.

Don't they check for STDs before birth though?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating during maternity leave is a ridiculous idea, unless her maternity leave was two years long.

Cheating during pregnancy, however, could happen. Some men have a weird pregnancy kink, and some pregnant women get very horny.

Don't they check for STDs before birth though?

Yes. At least it was standard procedure to check all patients for STDs when I was pregnant.

I can't imagine an exhausted woman who is recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn 24/7 cheating on her husband. That just does not seem likely at all.

[Anonymous]

How long was her mat leave. I do know someone who cheated on her mat leave but she was off for 6 months