Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

Holy crap the meat eaters on this thread are crazy! Why so defensive? Someone was positing about HER life and HER experiences and you get all bent out of shape over it? How totally bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Nothing you have said makes your husband a "true foodie."

Why do you care so much about proving a point? If it works for you, great. That doesn't work for some others. Chill out.

That's rich coming from Mr/Mrs I need a burger at every meal.

DP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.

It would also matter to a lot of people who enjoy traveling. Especially if you travel abroad often, traveling with a vegan is a nightmare. Ask me how I know...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

If, after coffee, I suggest going and getting a burger and there is hemming and hawing about which restaurant because you want to know if there will be something available for you to eat, then I'm not interested. You're already too much work. If you had put it in your profile, then I would know not to bother with you. Not because you're not a great person, a great fit, a great whatever.....it really is about ME. I have no interest in dealing with food limitations.

Sounds like your issue is possibly having to spend more than $20 on s date. That's nothing to do with being a vegan. That's just you being cheap or poor. Both things you should mention in your profile.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.

It would also matter to a lot of people who enjoy traveling. Especially if you travel abroad often, traveling with a vegan is a nightmare. Ask me how I know...

To follow up on this, veganism is a whole different game than vegetarianism. It’s pretty easy to travel with a vegetarian, even in meat-focused parts of the world like Brazil. But traveling with a vegan is difficult even in India, home of vegetarianism. Most people just do not understand veganism and most cuisines cannot accommodate it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.

It would also matter to a lot of people who enjoy traveling. Especially if you travel abroad often, traveling with a vegan is a nightmare. Ask me how I know...

Ha, true, I've had a similar experience. It makes no sense not to disclose. It will turn off some, but not the right ones so why withhold that info>

[Anonymous]

If you have to hide something major about yourself, then maybe you just aren't cut out of online dating. Or maybe you are exactly cut out for online dating.

Either way, you be you. The right person will come along.

[Anonymous]

I would only mention it if its an issue if you go out to eat. I am a vegetarian and its not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

Were you vegan when you two met, or at least before you got married?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Are you under the impression that you're just talking to one person? You aren't. At least two of us think you're a high maintenance, defensive PITA.

Make that three.

[Anonymous]

I would date a vegan just not the one shrieking and word comiting in this post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

If, after coffee, I suggest going and getting a burger and there is hemming and hawing about which restaurant because you want to know if there will be something available for you to eat, then I'm not interested. You're already too much work. If you had put it in your profile, then I would know not to bother with you. Not because you're not a great person, a great fit, a great whatever.....it really is about ME. I have no interest in dealing with food limitations.

Then you should put in YOUR profile you only want someone who will go out for burgers with you. Sounds like you are the one with the strict requirements, not OP. She can choose not to date you, if you say off the bat that you will only date meat eaters.

I could put that I only date people without food restrictions. I feel the same way about vegans that I do about gluten.

Then problem solved. If you reach out to OP on Match.com or wherever, and she sees in your profile that you don't date anyone with food restrictions - she can just not reply to you, or reply explaining why you aren't a match. It's really not a problem as long as you are explicit about who you are excluding from your pool. To repeat: YOU are the one with the food requirements, not OP.

You are seriously off your rocker. Go get a cheeseburger or something.

[Anonymous]

Comiting should be vomiting oops!

[Anonymous]

DP and different perspective.

I'm a meat eater with some food allergies, two of which are unfortunately cow's milk and soybeans. Going out to eat with me is a real PITA and I've definitely had some nonstarter relationships because of it. (I'm married now, with kids.)

But I recognize this issue and try to minimize the inconvenience for my dining partners. I try to read the menu in advance and give the restaurant a heads up. This is a lot harder when traveling, but I manage. There have been a few times where I've made do with a drink and a roll.

So, if I was single, I would date a vegan who was willing to let me be, diet wise, and who didn't center our lives around the food restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Are you under the impression that you're just talking to one person? You aren't. At least two of us think you're a high maintenance, defensive PITA.

Make that three of us.

No her. Then the 3 of you are ridiculous. Pp sounds far from being a pita or high maintenance. The three if you on the other hand sound like spoiled 3 year olds who refuse to eat anything but chicken nuggets and fries. _ Someone who loves meat!

First of all, I can't tell you the last time I had chicken nuggets and french fries. Second of all, if you read all of PP's posts, she sounds like a shrill, argumentative, crazy person who would talk to you about her vegan lifestyle for hours at a cocktail party while you tried to get away. I'm not saying that's who she is, I'm saying that's how she comes across. Seriously, read her posts - $100 chili - what is she even prattling on about? She's the one who is way more bent out of shape than the "carnivores." They're saying they don't want to date a vegan. They have every right to say that. She's the one going off on how being a vegan doesn't impact a relationship NO REALLY IT DOESN'T BECAUSE WE EAT EXPENSIVE CHILI.