Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Excellent, thank you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have celiac disease and I would list being gluten free on my dating profile. Its not that big a deal at home but it is challenging when traveling, and some people are really into desserts which isn't the best fit for my life.

Celiac is tough. I'm sorry. My best friend has celiac and our nights out are always challenging, if fun...me being a vegan and all. I always remind myself that being vegan is a choice. Her dietary choices were taken from her. However, there is some overlap in our favorite foods so it tends to work out.

My good friend is gluten free (not celiac) and she is an ENORMOUS pain in the ass to go to dinner with. We went to 930 the other night and there are a limited number of restaurants near there and she had to call all of them first, talk to a manager and find out all about their use of gluten. She chose Declaration (I had no say) and she grilled the waiter about their GF pizza crust and cross contamination.

To say the least, I'd never date a vegan. GF is a big enough pain. Cant imagine travel with a vegan. Best to list it. Then people can have the choice in they want all that drama around food in their lives.

Calling ahead is actually far less of a pain than having to walk all over because everything on the menu might make you sick. Your friend handled that well. It’s good to ask questions when ordering, in time you learn how to that efficiently with minimal impact on the server abdvfellow guests. You sound fairly high maintenance yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

[Anonymous]

just give up OP You can't win. Apparently if you don't put it on, youre, lying and deceitful, and if you do put it on youre pushy and high maintenance.

Jesus Christ. I swear you make dating way harder than it has to be with all these arbitrary f****** rules

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Include it so we know. Also include if you are a crossfire enthusiast. These two categories have sucked the life out of a few first dates of mine. Would have preferred to dodged those.

Lol.

Vegans are a special kind of crazy, in particular if they are of either the PETA brand of vegan or the antivax brand of vegan.

Both are types to be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

+1 - that's the thing. Putting it on the profile makes it seem like it IS a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

+1 - that's the thing. Putting it on the profile makes it seem like it IS a big deal.

Also okay with me. I'd rather avoid men that demean women by calling them high maintenance if she prioritizes something for herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

+1 - that's the thing. Putting it on the profile makes it seem like it IS a big deal.

Also okay with me. I'd rather avoid men that demean women by calling them high maintenance if she prioritizes something for herself.

Refusing to eat at most of the eateries a date might suggest makes a woman high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

I would love to meet or hear about a vegan who never tells anybody they are a vegan but instead just eats vegan silently. Would that really be that hard?

I find the vegan problem is the talking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

I’m in the put it in your profile camp, but I would never think they are high maintenance ... it’s a lifestyle difference for me. Do you always read incorrectly between the lines?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

+1 - that's the thing. Putting it on the profile makes it seem like it IS a big deal.

What is they put something like, 'friendly happy vegan capable of enjoying a meal out!' or 'vegan but a low maintenance one!'

like some humor and acknowledgement of the issues and how she's a go with the flow type

[Anonymous]

Guy here. As someone who cooks and grills a lot, the only reason I care is that a vegan partner means that she can't enjoy one of my hobbies. Yes, I can learn how to make vegetarian dishes, but it would be somewhat sad that I could never have her try most of the dishes I like to create and am proud of.

I also like to fish, so I would hope that she doesn't also have an aversion to people who do.

But this ranks very low on the compatibility priorities. I've dated vegetarians without issue before.

[Anonymous]

The only think this thread proves is that Anthony Bourdain (RIP) was indeed correct when he said, “Vegetarians, and their Hezbollah-like splinter-faction, the vegans, are a persistent irritant to any chef worth a damn."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

OK, I'll bite. How often do you go out to eat? What are your regular restaurants? How often do you refuse to go to a restaurant because of your veganism? DO you travel extensively? Internationally? Who cooks at home? What do you make at home?

Yes please do share all of your wonderful meals and dinners out and happiness?

Fine I'll bite too. I will start with meat palaces. In the last year, I have been to incredibly fancy steakhouses or high-end seafood joints in New York, Vegas, Italy, the Bahamas, miami, and New Orleans. And California.

My husband my son and I travel about once every six weeks. We always eat out and look for local cuisine. never once have I been able to not find something enjoyable at any of these restaurants, even if it's not always as adventurous at a steakhouse as it would be at any other place

Here in the DC area, since November, we have eaten recently at the inn at Little Washington, Zaytinya, Woodlands, Osteroa Bibiana, and Ambar. I am sure there are more exciting places, but we really enjoyed these restaurants

We do do a chain restaurant for normal everyday eating out. We eat at true food once a week

The definition of a foodie is going all over the country and eating in incredibly fancy . . . steakhouses? Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

Personally I would not care if you were vegan so long as you didn't start pushing it on me or lecturing me about it.

But if you put it on the profile, I would suspect that this meant, "I am annoying and high maintenance, and will try to force you to be vegan too if we start dating seriously".

I’m in the put it in your profile camp, but I would never think they are high maintenance ... it’s a lifestyle difference for me. Do you always read incorrectly between the lines?

LOL anyone who would never think vegan meant high maintenance has obviously never met a vegan.