Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

It depends, are you hot?

[Anonymous]

Yes because I wouldn’t date you.

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Anonymous wrote:But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me

You've convinced me, PP. You have demonstrated that vegans are kind, and considerate, and not at all defensive, and all-around wonderful people. I definitely want to date one now.

Except . . . you didn't do that at all. Quite the opposite, actually.

You better hang onto that husband of yours - he's apparently a saint.

You have something seriously wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Definitely put it in your profile! There's another vegan out there who will see it and be thrilled to date you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your case, I'd leave it off. If it was more of a moral issue, I'd include it.

This. Though if it would be difficult for you to eat in regular restaurants, then I'd probably add it.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends, are you hot?

Always the right answer.

If you're a 10, no red-blooded man is going to turn you down for being a vegan. In fact, he'll be open minded about it and probably expand his palette.

If you're a 5, being a vegan becomes a deal breaker for more guys. Especially if you scowl at his steak.

Yeah, life is unfair.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because what is the point of going on tons of bad dates that could be avoided?

Also the person on the date probably would be surprised that this information wasn't on your profile and would be wondering what other surprises you neglected to mention.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Are you under the impression that you're just talking to one person? You aren't. At least two of us think you're a high maintenance, defensive PITA.

Make that three of us.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

OK, I'll bite. How often do you go out to eat? What are your regular restaurants? How often do you refuse to go to a restaurant because of your veganism? DO you travel extensively? Internationally? Who cooks at home? What do you make at home?

Yes please do share all of your wonderful meals and dinners out and happiness?

Fine I'll bite too. I will start with meat palaces. In the last year, I have been to incredibly fancy steakhouses or high-end seafood joints in New York, Vegas, Italy, the Bahamas, miami, and New Orleans. And California.

My husband my son and I travel about once every six weeks. We always eat out and look for local cuisine. never once have I been able to not find something enjoyable at any of these restaurants, even if it's not always as adventurous at a steakhouse as it would be at any other place

Here in the DC area, since November, we have eaten recently at the inn at Little Washington, Zaytinya, Woodlands, Osteroa Bibiana, and Ambar. I am sure there are more exciting places, but we really enjoyed these restaurants

We do do a chain restaurant for normal everyday eating out. We eat at true food once a week

Cool, cool, what did you eat at all of these meat palaces?

I eat meat and so does my DH. We enjoy going out and sharing dishes. If you do not care about that, and always want to eat separate things and cook two version of meals or different meals altogether, good on you. I never would want to do that.

[Anonymous]

that is totally legit if that's not how you want to go out and eat and go out on dates. If you enjoy sharing dishes totally cool.

But the assumption that vegans or vegetarians are automatically high-maintenance and unable to eat out is faulty on its premise

No arguing here with your personal choice and what you find enjoyment in

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Nothing you have said makes your husband a "true foodie."

Why do you care so much about proving a point? If it works for you, great. That doesn't work for some others. Chill out.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Nothing you have said makes your husband a "true foodie."

Why do you care so much about proving a point? If it works for you, great. That doesn't work for some others. Chill out.

That's rich coming from Mr/Mrs I need a burger at every meal.

[Anonymous]

No one want to be with 'that' person at a restaurant who badgers the waitstaff about every menu item and creates an entirely new dish not on the menu just due to food preferences.

Add it unless you can promise it will never affect where you go out to eat, your ability to order, the dates ability to cook for you and you aren't some self righteous b!tch about others who eat animals and animal products.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

OK, I'll bite. How often do you go out to eat? What are your regular restaurants? How often do you refuse to go to a restaurant because of your veganism? DO you travel extensively? Internationally? Who cooks at home? What do you make at home?

Yes please do share all of your wonderful meals and dinners out and happiness?

Fine I'll bite too. I will start with meat palaces. In the last year, I have been to incredibly fancy steakhouses or high-end seafood joints in New York, Vegas, Italy, the Bahamas, miami, and New Orleans. And California.

My husband my son and I travel about once every six weeks. We always eat out and look for local cuisine. never once have I been able to not find something enjoyable at any of these restaurants, even if it's not always as adventurous at a steakhouse as it would be at any other place

Here in the DC area, since November, we have eaten recently at the inn at Little Washington, Zaytinya, Woodlands, Osteroa Bibiana, and Ambar. I am sure there are more exciting places, but we really enjoyed these restaurants

We do do a chain restaurant for normal everyday eating out. We eat at true food once a week

Cool, cool, what did you eat at all of these meat palaces?

I eat meat and so does my DH. We enjoy going out and sharing dishes. If you do not care about that, and always want to eat separate things and cook two version of meals or different meals altogether, good on you. I never would want to do that.

I responded above but I also forgot to answer the first part of your question.

at three out of four of those Steakhouses, I have started by ordering a salad and have had the server asked me if I was vegetarian. They then offered the chef's special off menu veg or vegan dish which has always been pretty standard but also good.

also, we eat out a lot. I'll be honest. Way too much. So not every meal needs to be a huge culinary experience for me. Sometimes it's about the craft cocktails and company for me. And going to a place that others enjoy.

if we ate out less, maybe I would see things differently and it would be more special. So I'm okay with taking a hit with the occasional salad or portobello mushroom at a steakhouse

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.

Are you under the impression that you're just talking to one person? You aren't. At least two of us think you're a high maintenance, defensive PITA.

Make that three of us.

No her. Then the 3 of you are ridiculous. Pp sounds far from being a pita or high maintenance. The three if you on the other hand sound like spoiled 3 year olds who refuse to eat anything but chicken nuggets and fries. _ Someone who loves meat!