Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

It is fundamental to your personality and lifestyle if you eat such a restricted diet.

[Anonymous]

Include because it is something that matters right off the bat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

If, after coffee, I suggest going and getting a burger and there is hemming and hawing about which restaurant because you want to know if there will be something available for you to eat, then I'm not interested. You're already too much work. If you had put it in your profile, then I would know not to bother with you. Not because you're not a great person, a great fit, a great whatever.....it really is about ME. I have no interest in dealing with food limitations.

[Anonymous]

no, you will automatically turn off a lot of people

[Anonymous]

Yes, because nobody wants to deal with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see any reason to include it, if you don't consider it fundamental to your personal identity and need a partner who shares your dietary choices.

I feel like it's a myth of online dating that you need to put every single thing about yourself - esp stuff that could turn someone else off - on your profile. No need to mention that you like Big Bang Theory, either, or that you don't have a passport. That's all stuff that someone can find out after getting to know you a little, so it's not the only info they are going on.

Back when I was single, I did mention being vegetarian on my profile - but that's because it *is* fundamental to my self-identity, and I wanted to be with someone who shared that or at least who was open to it. (Course I ended up marrying a guy who periodically does Atkins, eating only meat - so there you go.)

It is fundamental to your personality and lifestyle if you eat such a restricted diet.

I agree. It requires a partner who is willing to accept the challenges of being with someone with significant restrictions and, therefore, should be included in your profile. I wouldn't date a vegan.

[Anonymous]

Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no, you will automatically turn off a lot of people

Better to for them to know they aren't compatible up front than wasting time/money on a date/meet up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.

+1 I would have no interest in dating a vegan regardless of the reason for being one.

Weird.

One of my favorite things to do is eat out and explore new restaurants. I'm a really good cook, and often try new dishes. When I travel, I love trying the local cuisine. In many cases, I choose the place I'm going *because* of the cuisine. I have zero interest in dating someone who would inhibit that.

I could deal with a vegetarian, but not a vegan. I'd rather date a smoker.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

No, he isn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.

+1 I would have no interest in dating a vegan regardless of the reason for being one.

Weird.

One of my favorite things to do is eat out and explore new restaurants. I'm a really good cook, and often try new dishes. When I travel, I love trying the local cuisine. In many cases, I choose the place I'm going *because* of the cuisine. I have zero interest in dating someone who would inhibit that.

I could deal with a vegetarian, but not a vegan. I'd rather date a smoker.

you're assuming that a vegan would necessarily inhibit your ability to eat out. Eating out is a small part of life my friend. Also, if you do.

when people say they love cooking and they love food and they can't imagine dating a vegan or vegetarian, what they mean is they only like a narrow kind of food. They are unwilling to try anything different than what they are used to.

Imagine choosing a restaurant that has amazing vegan food. It would be an expansion of what you are used to, not a limitation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.

Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.

OK, I'll bite. How often do you go out to eat? What are your regular restaurants? How often do you refuse to go to a restaurant because of your veganism? DO you travel extensively? Internationally? Who cooks at home? What do you make at home?