Best Guy Friend, His New GF, and Vacation - Help

[Anonymous]

Op you need to just go without him. The trip won't be the same now even if it's just the two of you. Trip and friendship are ruined because he's thinking with his d*ck instead of his brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you need to just go without him. The trip won't be the same now even if it's just the two of you. Trip and friendship are ruined because he's thinking with his d*ck instead of his brain.

Not at all. He found a new long-distance girlfriend and wants to meet up with her. The friendship isn't ruined at all. If he was thinking with his d*ck, he would be trying to screw OP.

[Anonymous]

I like you,OP. We would be friends.

[Anonymous]

This would be very awkward for both women on the trip. Cancel. Let him and her pay for the AriBnb and you eat the flight change. Yes, it's costly but you will avoid a very awkward trip.

[Anonymous]

Years ago this happened to me with a guy friend who loved international travel as did I but we didn't have partners so we took 4 trips together. Yes, we had sex but we were not in a relationship. We had booked a trip and then he met someone and wanted to invite her along. I had no interest in being a third wheel and bailed on the trip and he covered my change fee expense so all was fine. He broke up with her soon after the trip ended because 10 days alone with her turned out to be misery. We stayed friends but didn't travel together again as that part of our friendship ended.

[Anonymous]

This you, OP?

https://www.theonion.com/but-if-we-started-dating-it-would-ruin-our-friendship-w-1819584582

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This you, OP?

https://www.theonion.com/but-if-we-started-dating-it-would-ruin-our-friendship-w-1819584582

I thought of the same article but didn’t take the time to post the link. Lol

[Anonymous]

This guy has been hung up on you for years, and you know it. You’ve lapped up the attention from your “best guy friend”.

I’m glad he met someone that he seems smitten for. Guys (and gals) like your friend can get hung up on someone like you for years. Good thing he’s moving on.

Expect your friendship with him to change considerably if his new relationship goes the distance. That’s what’s healthy and normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like you,OP. We would be friends.

That’s a really nice thing to say. Thanks

[Anonymous]

I would either go as it had been planned without the girlfriend, or not go, and not make plans with him again since clearly he is making poor decisions and will likely cancel again.

[Anonymous]

My brother and I use to travel together a lot and we had a trip planned and then he wanted to invite a girl he was dating. I dropped out because of the third wheel thing. He eventually married her and we are great friends but I'm really glad I didn't go on the trip. What guy wants his sister or "girl" friend along on a trip with a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is a woman people! It isn’t a guys trip!!! I can understand if the new gf is uncomfortable and wants to come. Would you be ok with your boyfriend going on a trip with another female?

My take is if they have traveled together before and nothing happened and there plans were in place prior to us dating, if something was going to happen it would have already. And be honest, it’s B.S to say let’s all three go because I would want to spend time with my man, not his good friend that I don’t know. So as others would say either the friend would be a third wheel or I would be upset as the girlfriend if I was the third wheel.

So to OP, I would say no. I would prefer to have him cover the cost for me to back out and he can take the gf or we go just genteo of us this time since this was already planned and next time I travel with the other friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op is a woman people! It isn’t a guys trip!!! I can understand if the new gf is uncomfortable and wants to come. Would you be ok with your boyfriend going on a trip with another female?

My take is if they have traveled together before and nothing happened and there plans were in place prior to us dating, if something was going to happen it would have already. And be honest, it’s B.S to say let’s all three go because I would want to spend time with my man, not his good friend that I don’t know. So as others would say either the friend would be a third wheel or I would be upset as the girlfriend if I was the third wheel.

So to OP, I would say no. I would prefer to have him cover the cost for me to back out and he can take the gf or we go just genteo of us this time since this was already planned and next time I travel with the other friend.

I'm a PP. How can she be upset to be a third wheel when she wasn't even invited? That's very entitled. I would avoid.

[Anonymous]

Whether it's a male or female friend, I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Either the gf goes and covers any associated costs or OP invites another friend and it's a group trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op is a woman people! It isn’t a guys trip!!! I can understand if the new gf is uncomfortable and wants to come. Would you be ok with your boyfriend going on a trip with another female?

My take is if they have traveled together before and nothing happened and there plans were in place prior to us dating, if something was going to happen it would have already. And be honest, it’s B.S to say let’s all three go because I would want to spend time with my man, not his good friend that I don’t know. So as others would say either the friend would be a third wheel or I would be upset as the girlfriend if I was the third wheel.

So to OP, I would say no. I would prefer to have him cover the cost for me to back out and he can take the gf or we go just genteo of us this time since this was already planned and next time I travel with the other friend.

I'm a PP. How can she be upset to be a third wheel when she wasn't even invited? That's very entitled. I would avoid.

He is thinking about inviting the girlfriend - that’s what caused the issue. I don’t think it matters if it’s a late invitation, if you are invited to go to whatever, a group outing, a wedding, a dream vacation, you would want your partner to spend time with you. In some ways even more so if the relationship is new.